Passing it on

I don’t think I would do that, Patiently Growing. It’s one thing to tell your son that it’s OK to masturbate or let your son in on PE, but it’s another thing to participate in it with them. If you’re comfortable doing that, that’s your business. I don’t think I’m there.

I guess that’s an eye opener for me on how some guys are very open about PE that doing it with someone else wouldn’t bother them but other guys it would. There’s a whole spectrum of openness about PE. Those that are open enough to let their sons in on it have and will share how they did it on here to help those who are thinking about it find their own path to letting their son in on PE. Fathers and young bucks on here, thanks for sharing such a personal thing on here and I hope you guys continue to do so as more guys let their sons in on PE.

You have to realize that some fathers aren’t comfortable letting their sons in on PE at puberty. They feel their son isn’t mature enough emotionally to handle the knowledge or that physically they may harm themselves overdoing it. I think with proper guidance and talking with your son these things can be mitigated and avoided with him doing PE, but it takes openness and honesty. Not every father and son relationship is like that. It takes work and time.

I’m not sure if it’s a good idea to bring my son into the world of PE. If he is content and happy with his size then I wouldn’t mention it to him.

How will you know if he’s happy and content with his size? I’m willing to bet no one on here told their dad that they aren’t satisfied with their size.

Oops I see how the last post I stated was kind of on the weird side. By stretches and stuff I meant I would have him join me with work outs lol. Something like in the morning yoga stretches with the whole family or something. I apologize for any awkward images you had of some man with his son pulling on each others cocks in a small bathroom lol I am very sorry. But I do not see anything wrong with a father showing his son simple body stretches and exercises, that I could eventually when I FEEL the time is right ( EVEN IF IT IS NOT RIGHT IN HIS MIND ) show him the world of PE. The caps just imply that I have no possible way of telling if he has certain thoughts of his dick IE he could be huge and not care, or small and not want embarrassment, or not give a fuck want to cut it off and become a nun.

The point isn’t just so your son has the information to grow a bigger dick. The bigger goal is a father son bond where you can be honest and open about anything with each other. When we hide things, we do that for a reason. Is that because we are ashamed or embarrassed, for protection of the other person, or because it’s an awkward conversation? We need to look at ourselves as fathers and realize that the uncomfortable talks with our sons give the very guidance and bonding that they need. For years, dads have abdicated their responsibilities to their sons, letting moms, TV, friends, and the Internet guide their sons. If you can be your true self with your son about PE, you open the door to being authentic with him in many things and he with you, as you lead by example of sharing with him.

I don’t have a son YET but when I get to have one, I will make sure that we would have a great and open father-son relationship. Just like best friends. That’s what I didn’t get from my father although he’s a very good provider. When that happens, he might open up to me about things that’s going on with his life. You’d know for sure when something’s bothering him.

That’s a big thing, man. An open, honest relationship is key. Also, it’s not too late to start that bond with your father now. You just have to take that step with him. It takes time and effort.

Man, I dunno. I really want to but he’s so uptight and old-fashioned maybe because he’s kind of an indoor guy. I even feel embarassed to ask money for school sometimes. LOL. I just feel awkward talking to him. He’s the total opposite of my mom.

If you really want to then do it. I told my dad and yes, it was awkward at first. Did it change anything? Not really. It made it easier to talk to him about some things and he opened up a little more to me, after the initial shock of it. I don’t think he was expecting it, but who would if they didn’t know about PE. Not much changed though. He doesn’t treat me any differently or anything.

I believe it would be the same with fathers telling their sons about PE.

Wha’ts the point here? Spreading the word on PE to anyone who’ll listen or creating a bond between father and son. It looks like the former.

And that brings me to this conclusion. All of you who want to tell your kids about this must believe that having a big dick will…

…improve your life

…get you the girl

…make you confident

…etc

This kind of thinking, and passing on that kind of thinking, is flawed. A big dick does none of those things. Only men with penis insecurities believe making their dick bigger will change their life. And by thinking your son will “benefit” from it as well is just passing on that insecurity to him.

Create the great father/son bond. Teach him to be self-confident. Train him in sport. Leave his penis alone.

WestLA, did telling anyone you were gay make them question their sexuality? No. You were being the true you. PE is part of what we do and who we on the forum are. Letting my son know who I am and what I do is letting him know the true me. It won’t change who he is any more than you being who are changed the people around you.

People are who they are and are going to do what they want to do. I couldn’t care less if my son does PE or not. I think letting him know I do PE isn’t going do force him to do it. If he chooses to do it I will support him. If he chooses not to I will support him. I also don’t think that it has to be an either/or view like you’re making it. It’s not a case of if you tell your son about PE then he’s going to have dick insecurities or having a big dick makes your a better person. The benefit is by being open and honest with him about who I am and what I do (not just PE, but everything) creates a culture between us where it’s ok to talk about anything.

There’s quite a difference in telling someone something about your innate self (I’m left handed, I like pizza, I’m Catholic) from telling them you do penis enlarging exercises. That’s not part of “who you are.” It’s something you do to overcome your insecurities about having a small penis.

The idea behind this thread seems to have changed. At first it was that you wanted to share PE with your son so he, too, could have a big dick. Or at least have the opportunity to have a big one. Even if he had no insecurities of his own and without much regard to how he’d take being told about penis enlargement exercises and what that might imply about his own penis. And having a big one was the real reason, with the outcomes I mentioned before (confidence, a “better life”, etc.) for telling him. It slowly change to helping improve his penis health. Now it’s just “sharing who I am so he’ll know me better.”

It’s interesting to see how this has evolved.

People who smoke say they’re a smoker, because it’s part of their lifestyle. It’s part of who they are. People who swim as part of their lifestyle say they’re a swimmer. People who run call themselves runners. People identify with the lifestyle choices they make. No one is made to feel like they should smoke, swim, or run because their parent does it. The same is true of PE. You hit on it perfectly…your innate self. Just because my dad is a bodybuilder doesn’t mean I’m going to grow up feeling inadequate about my lack of muscles, because it’s not in my innate self to be concerned about that. That’s not who I am as a person. Just like if I like pizza it doesn’t mean my son is going to, because it’s in his innate self. The same goes for passing on the knowledge of PE. Lifting was part of who my dad is. It’s a lifestyle. I would argue that PE is, for many of us, a lifestyle too. We adjust our schedules to get it in. We are dedicated to it, etc.

Letting your son in on PE isn’t JUST about him growing a bigger one IF HE CHOOSES TO, nor is it JUST about penis health and lasting longer sexually, nor is it JUST about bonding with your son through telling him part of what you do. Rather, all of these things come into play TOGETHER when deciding if this is a part of your life that you wish to share with your son. There are many facets and implications and factors. They are not isolated from each other in the decision making process, but rather are intertwined as part of the the big picture. Sharing my own insecurities with my son doesn’t mean they will transfer to him. Sharing my values with my son doesn’t mean he will follow them even, because he is his own person.

Perhaps my dad had an insecurity of being scrawny as a child and got into lifting weights, which became a bodybuilding lifestyle for him. Me knowing that didn’t pass it on to me at all. The same I would argue would be true of PE. Letting my son know that I do have insecurities and how I cope and deal with them isn’t a bad thing, in my opinion. It shows that I am human and secure enough in who I am as a man to share that with him. To me, that is a quality that isn’t modeled enough for young men by their fathers- security in who you are as a person to be your true self.

Tell your mom to tell your dad :D