Passing it on

F… fear. Theres really too much of it in the world today, one thing I have learned to do the last couple of years is to not take every god damn thing so seriously.
Within that lies fear, and I believe it’s all ego based. Lets face it we all have the right to live and we are all gonna die so why have all this nonsense fears?
I will do my best to live a life without fear, have had enough of that shit and just laugh at some of those stupid insecure thought patterns one has built up.
The sooner one learns to be fearless the better, and if I can pivot the scale in the right direction for my kid I will do that.

It takes much longer to get rid of excisting fear as opposed to learning to have no fear from the getgo I believe.

The superman father thing is a true classic. Remember a picture of my dad lying on the beach, buff and muscular in his red speedos, with an insane bulge because of his huge balls and big dick.
I know my father was known for being like a manly man and popular with the ladies. And friends of my dad to this day jokes around with how pretty and popular( not in that way) my mum was.

So where is my speedo package? Finally on it’s way not including the big balls dough, they were out of that.

You make a very good point yourself TGD.
All too true what you are saying about media and over exposure to these things telling and showing you how things should be.

Yes, very good points guys.

Obviously being a parent takes an EXTREME amount of effort, but I just see more and more recently people not caring that they are parents really. They are just more proud of the fact that they were able to reproduce, and when it comes to parenting it seems that the only thing they do is provide food, shelter, money, and education ( school districts/ college ) for their children ( ALL GOOD THINGS ) but they aren't teaching them. Instead it is always media or the community which is teaching them. I know the saying is it takes a community to raise the youth but if the community is becoming as crazy and wild as ours is now. Then it will certainly be worse in the future for our own children ( you can disagree with this if you want, it is just my speculation ) and I feel that there has to be certain ways for a parent to reconnect with the child in order to enhance the bond between the two. PE being one way to create a very powerful bond between father and son. I do not know how hard it is the be a parent nor do I know what the hardest part of being a parent is, but being a kid I know I struggled a lot with trusting my parents. Not in the sense that they would leave me somewhere or not feed me ( they wouldn’t ) but I just didn’t trust opening up to them and letting them get involved in my life once I started to create one. So instead I opened up to people who I assumed were friends ( which everyone knows they can turn on you in the flip of a coin ) or to other people of the community whether it be a teacher/ counselor/ dean/ boss/ co-worker. Yes I know it is good to have someone to open up to, but I lost sight of what I was really looking for: that connection to the person. They listened and maybe responded ( sometimes good advice that my parents in no way could have provided ) but most of the time they half listened and inserted some generic response that a computer could have told me, and heaven forbid I tell someone about my insecurities of having a small penis because I doubt 100% the chances of them pointing me in the direction of help ( I.E. this place right here or PE if they knew about ) I think PE is one way to break the ice to our sons that you WILL fear things/ have anxiety and that I, as your Father, am the best person to open up to.

My boys evidently saw something on Family Guy (or maybe American Dad) about a guy enlarging his penis by hanging weights. They joked with me about it. I just smiled and said “that’s one way to do it” or something boneheaded like that.

The point being, they already have some idea about PE and probably think it might work. If they want to learn more they can figure it out on their own. The seed’s been planted.

Well done Modesto, the seed is indeed planted. If that seed pops though and one of them comes to you with a question or says he is practicing PE, that would be something.

NICE! Keep planting the seeds here and there as the opportunities arise. How old are you sons?

I think that’s a good way to go about it, casually and matter of factly. I think we sometimes get nervous as fathers that our sons will think we’re weird or judge us, but the reality is PE isn’t that big of a deal when you consider that every guy masturbates.

Could not have agreed more. What is weird to talk about today might be normal in some years. Who knows.

Not only that, what you make normal in your house will be normal. For example, talking to your kids about drugs, sex, etc. is normal in some homes and not spoken of at all in others. Some dads never gave their sons “the birds and bees” talk, others did. Some dads told their sons masturbation is a normal part of life that all men do, others didn’t. The same can be said about PE.

Uh, no. PE is not a normal part of life. It’s done by men who cannot accept their natural penis size and who assume everyone has the same problem.

My friend’s dad smoked weed in the house growing up. He grew up with that being normal. My buddy does PE. His son is going to grow up with it being normal. My friend’s dad didn’t assume everyone needed or wanted to smoke weed, but he did it. My buddy doesn’t assume that his son has a problem with his size, but he did it. Not everyone who lets their son in on PE does it for the reason of insecurity.

PE has become and is a normal part of my life. Telling me it is not normal is like me accusing a gay man of being abnormal. To him, finding affection from/for another male is normal, certainly he must have a problem? No, of course not. What one person finds normal and abnormal is simply a matter of perspective correct?

Agree. Is not a normal part of life.

Not sure to understand the “who assume everyone has the same problem” part. Can you explain?

Agrees with higherone and PatientlyGrowin.

And who are you to set the standard for what’s “normal”?, WestLA, are you a authority of “normal”?
It’s such a vague word in so many ways.

When one speaks, generally, about a “normal part of life” they usually mean to apply it to everyone. The example given was masturbation. Everyone does it and it’s a normal part of life. Doing PE exercises does not fall under that category. That said, I realize now that my error was thinking higherone’s last statement applied to the sentence before it, but he meant it to apply to the whole post.

So I agree if Dad is hanging or jelqing and the son is aware of it, then it would be a normal part of their lives. My disagreement with telling teenagers that they need a big dick to be happy is that it isn’t Dad’s right to make that decision and the kid should be left alone until he indicates the HE has a problem. Otherwise dad is projecting his insecurities onto the son without good reason.