Rethinking how much size matters to women

Why do you say that? Maybe some will think it’s 5”, and some will think it’s 6”, and some will think it’s 7”?

All this talk is giving my cock a headache!

Mine has one from gripping too tightly during manual stretches.

Are you even able to fully penetrate with a 8” x 6” dick? I mean.. really bang it rough, so that you can grind in her with your body rubbing onto hers? My girlfriend said If I enlarge my dick so much that I’m not able to do that, then she’d want me to reduce the size so that I can. Don’t laugh, I know I have a small one! I have to work so hard to get her off.

Yes, although I have to be a little careful in one or two positions.

I just want to add some thoughts based on my own experience for those who feel disheartened. My penis is below average, at about 5x4.5 inches. I’ve had sex with 11 women, and every one of them has expressed quite explicitly (both in action and vocally) their pleasure. Women have been with guys with far bigger dicks than me and still come after me, even cheated on reputedly well-hung guys with me.

Amusingly enough, in the past women have thought that my dick was a lot bigger than it is, not necessarily because of a visual misjudging, but because of how it felt. What I can say is that like a previous poster, I have an ultra-hard erection and can last for ages, to the point that partners coming before me (even more than once) has been the norm. What this latter point tells me is that there’s a psychological connection made to big dicks and pleasure that can inflate the importance of size, because I think it’s fair to say your mental state affects your physiological pleasure and stimulation.

I would say that sexually, I have more confidence than a lot of men and that I’m very assertive. However, I temper this with being attentive and tender as well (a seeming contradiction, I know, but you can be strong and gentle all at the same time ;) ). Case in point for all of this: my current SO, never orgasmed with another person before me. She’d been with 6 men before me, one had an 8” cock (she measured it) and from what I understand at least one or two others had erections of 7 inches or over. The eight incher was also her longest relationship so far, having lasted three years. While I’ve never been with a woman who had such issues with orgasming, I have similar tales from past relationships as well.

As for women having ideals that are larger, I don’t see a problem with that. We do it too. My girlfriend has the smallest breasts of a girl I’ve been with. In general, I’ve been with women who had larger, even very large breasts. From this, I developed a preference for such breasts. Does this mean I don’t like hers? Definitely not. And in general, I still find her to be drop-dead gorgeous.

In a nutshell, learn to be a good lover. Don’t just worry about the size of your unit, learn how to use your hands, your mouth, how to explore a woman’s body fully and help her find things she’s enjoyed that she never even knew about. Be spontaneous, be romantic, make them feel like they’re the most beautiful, most desired woman in the world.

As far as PE goes, I think how it helps with stamina and hardness is at least as important, if not more so than size enlargement IMHO. Part of the reason why men with naturally larger penises may not necessarily feel as good is due to weaker erections. Clearly, due to our knowledge, we can avoid that.

Alistair, that is an excellent post. Even more impressive is that it is your first post. Welcome to Thunders!

Hi Alistair.

You have rock hard erections and last a long time, so you aren’t needing to PE for that benefit. Women have cheated on hung guys to be with you and they all moan and make faces so you could hardly have any insecurity about size, or at least you don’t sound like you do in your post. So what was the catalyst, if there is one, that caused you to find Thunder’s? Are you planning on PEing?

Thanks :)

I’ve known about some of these techniques for awhile, particularly kegel ones. While I’ve always had pretty strong erections, I have worked on strengthening them too, I just didn’t know nearly as much as this place offers. In fact, I came across these forums looking for information on exercises. I’m quite interested in anything that can improve my sex life and that of my partner, so I’ve looked into a lot of things, including tantra. Still, for as much as I knew about sex, I didn’t think you could really enlarge your penis, at least not by much.

But I found these forums a long time ago, it’s only recently I’ve really considered PEing. While my partner is having the best sex of her life, before she was able to orgasm, it was making me fairly insecure for the first time. I wondered if having a larger penis would help, which was irrational, but that’s how insecurities get. I turned out to be wrong, and she orgasmed within a few months of us starting to have sex, which seemed reasonable because of 8 or 9 years of sex before me she hadn’t.

Now that I have started considering it, at this point it’s mostly curiosity, and I don’t care much if I get a lot of gain. I’d like to keep my cock strong though, and I’ve let off even the kegels in recent months, so I’ll be starting up exercises again anyway.

Honestly, if there’s any benefit from it size-wise, it’ll be for me to meet the image of my stereotype. In many ways, I fit the image of a great lover in my personality, my looks and skills, but I defy the stereotype this way. Just how common it has been for people to assume I have a big cock tells me how ingrained that is for people.

As for mentioning hardness and stamina, that was more for other people’s benefit. That is, in my opinion, one of the best things you could get out of penis related exercises, and I presume it’s faster to accomplish than significant size increases.

Very good posts Alistar!
What kind of exercises have you been doing in the past?
Welcome to the forum by the way ;) !

Concerning the threads topic:

I definitely think that size is important to some women, but totally overestimated by many within this forum.
Let me give you two examples:

There is this German TV/ radio show nearly every night during the week, where people can call a guy and tell him about their problems. Some nights, they discuss a special topic, but mostly you can just call him and talk about whatever you want. I don´t really watch it, because most of the time it is depressing, people having aids or cancer call and stuff like that. But the other night, I just switch through all TV channels and the show was on, having penis size preferred by women as a topic. I just saw the last three women calling and they all said they prefer a medium or even smaller penis compared to a big one. I was surprised, but that’s what they said. One girl, aged 22, has had sex with already 20 guys and said that she pick up boys, who are a big fatter, since most of the times, there dicks are not too big.

A couple of years ago i was member at a German website with discussion boards and dating stuff for young people. There has been (reckon there is still) a discussion board about sex as well. One guy came up with the topic “how important is penis size for women” and I think there were about 400 replies and about 2/3 off all replying women said it size is not that important, that they care about the man in general and that technique is important. But on the other hand 1/3 said that size matters to them.

Anyway, to make a long story short, i reckon size is not that important, but having a big dick can´t be a disadvantage and I would love to have one! That’s why I am here ;) ….

Happy gaining everybody!!

:-k Hmmmm?

Haha…okay Modesto…should maybe have written an above average dick instead of big…my goal is anyway 7 x 5.5. I reckon that size would be perfect for nearly all women.

I heartily agree.

According to the website poll you described, 1/3 said size matters and 2/3 said ‘not that important’. To me, ‘not that important’ indicates a small degree of importance. That poll would indicate it mattered to an elevated degree, or a small degree, to ALL the women. Perhaps you are clumping the ones that said penis size doesn’t matter at all into the 2/3rds group(?), as some women say all they care about is that it’s not micro or huge. The question as stated asked women if they have a size preference, whichever size that is. If it didn’t allow for ‘doesn’t matter’ in the poll then the results were possibly skewed.

I take that statement back. “How important is penis size for women?” does allow for a ‘doesn’t matter at all’ answer. Are there any more specifics concerning the way the poll was setup and the answers?