Rethinking how much size matters to women

Not to practice thread necromancy, but looking up my original posts made me think of a recent story. It didn’t seem to make sense to start a new thread.

Anyway, I was hanging out with a couple female friends of mine for day/evening last week and we ended up talking in-depth about sex (as is often the case with me and my friends of the fairer sex). While the proposal that we have a threesome was a story in of itself, we did inevitably have a talk about size. Two points of interest, first of all it didn’t much matter to either of them, but one of them assumed once again that I’m hung like a horse, which reinforces the popular stereotype that I mentioned above. I’ll also clarify, these are two hot (and sexually experienced) women, one of them is also a stripper, er exotic dancer ;) . She’s been with quite a few well-endowed guys (a few of them male strippers) and she was of the mind that her best lays were a couple guys she had that were below average.

There you have it, more women who don’t much care, or are even ambivalent. However, my confidence with women is regularly construed as having a big dick, once again. There’s some advice in there, maybe, have confidence even when you don’t? :P

I believe we guys overestimate importance of our dick size. This is because we BELIEVE that women think the same way we do. In reality most important factor for woman are ‘mental factors’. Most of the woman do not get most of the pleasure from physical experience. If it was another way woman would just have sex with BIG dildos and there would be no lesbian. Woman can have better orgasms with 6 inch guy than with 8 inch guy if she ‘feels’ something to him.

I have 7.25”nbpel, but I hit on my girlfriend’s cervix in most positions which can be painful. She’s been with larger men and admits that she wouldn’t really like it if I got any larger.

BUT every once and a while she is excited when I use a penis pump before sex, (though she’s never asked for it)

So I keep up with PE because I know she will still like a bigger cock and I’ll just have to be more careful with the cervix.

Macrotermitinae,

I’ve also got a theory that just because your dick is something different, that in itself can be exciting.

Think of it like role playing: if your girl puts on a wig and glasses and looks like a secretary, that’s hot right?

I think variety is a factor.

Anyway, blah blah blah, this is all moot to me since I want a 9 x 7 no matter what any girl, guy, feedback positive or negative I will ever receive.

It’s just a cool idea to have a dick bigger than my wrist and to be able to stretch the hell out of a woman and make her remember you for life.

The original post is looking at this issue from the wrong direction.

Think of it like this: size matters to ALL women, not 5% and not 25%, but 100%. This is because, due to physiological limitations, there will always be a “too small” and a “too big”.

Some women will desire a larger penis the same way some men desire larger breasts - does this mean that the sex cannot be good with someone who’s penis (or breasts) is not the largest they have ever had? No.

When women say that penis size does not matter, what they are really saying is that as long as you are within the acceptable range (not too big and not too small) and as long as you know how to use it, then it really does not matter.

I once had a fling that went on for a couple of months with a woman who had been with a lot of men in her life.She was calling me several times a week wanting me to come over and have sex.

She told me that she had been with guys bigger then me. I had brought up the subject.

The sex seemed great for both of us and to top it off she was a squirt-er.She would soak a towel and have multiple orgasms.

Starting:01/15/09 BPEL : 5.7/8
Current:BPEL 7.00
Goal : 8.00

I couldn’t have said it better myself buddy. I will PE until I am clearly enormous!

I believe this hit the nail on the head!

Agreed.

I like to think once you’re over 7” long and 5.5 girth your size shouldn’t be an issue, and should even be seen as a nice bonus by most women.

I agree with most of what you say Beenthere.

I remember reading a survey somewhere reasonably reputable that said that women who rated themselves higher in terms of thier attractiveness tended to place more importance of the size of a man’s penis. Interesting.

Do big breasted blondes feel they deserve a big cock

I’m definitely discouraged after reading this thread. Sometimes I do feel it’s hopeless. After seeing guys mentioning how 6” is average, and is the size that is only acceptable to a woman. Then what is 4 inches, or 5 inches then? Do we just not deserve the same “sex” that the other guys have. And even If I do gain an inch or so.it will probably just be around 5 inches. The angst is unbearable at times for me, I just don’t know how I can enlarge my penis by 3-4 inches. And I know the similar problems can occur for females with small breasts and such, but the mental aspects behind them just isn’t the same. A female can easily condemn a male for having a small penis, but having small breasts, really isn’t such a big deal I don’t think. But what do I know.I’m just kinda pissed I guess

I mean, me personally, I could care less about a woman’s breasts or whatever (I only care when it’s porn I guess), but in real life I have never mentioned to anyone about a female’s body part or how wide her vagina is.

I don’t know what I would do if a female made fun of my size.I’d probably be mentally scarred.

I at least want to have an adaquate size 7-7.5” before sleeping with anyone. I don’t know how long that I will take, but I’m willing to go through the pain. I care too much.

I don’t think that passing up opportunities because of fear is a great solution, although I certainly understand your reasons. If you think that you’ll be mentally scarred by having your size made fun of (assuming this even happens), then you might try reading The Small Guy’s Advantage. It’s not an easy thing but you can turn that pain into something useful.

Thanks for the link it definitely helped a lot.

I’m not a negative person by any means, I just hate reading negative things about people, whether it’d be people of a certain race, or stereotypes or.”penile” discrimination. I guess it is a sort of discrimination is it not?

I’ve faced racism growing up and I know how much that stuff sucks, but to be rejected because of penis size.well.that’s like 1000x worse.

I’ve been doing PE for roughly 3-4 months, didn’t really log or record anything. But I do have a plan and routine for every session, and I do try hard when working out my penis. So now that link will help me focus on PE even more, I will definitely involve a good portion of my time, and my life to it now.more than ever.

Thanks.