Smoky, until I started PE 14 months ago at the age of 67, I was about 4.5 EL x 4.25 EG. I had the same experiences in my youth as you are currently going through. It is probably why I stayed a virgin (I was too drunk to remember the one time a was with a ho at 22) until I married my wife 39 years ago at the age of 28. We have always had, and still do have, great sex, She has never once complained about my size. To this day, I still think how stupid I was to be afraid of sex because of my size at the time my libido and EQ was at its best. If your love is big, the size of your dick is not an issue.
Thanks to PE (including pumping and extending) I can now pleasure my wife with a (pumped) length of just under 5” and girth op to 5.25”, albeit temporary. Unpumped I am somewhere between beginning size and pumped size.