Should I Stop at BPEL8" or Should I Keep going?

We need more people like you around here. Shit, only 1 in 100, yes, 1 in 100 men have an 8” long dick. And that’s from voluntary studies. If one doesn’t feel good after being longer than 99% of other men out there (if that’s even something to feel good about, sheesh, surely there are MANY other things which you would feel more proud of having/having accomplished), even a 12” dick wouldn’t help them.

I really believe PE can be a positive. If a guy who is small on the survey scale, or is average, they can get bigger and it can improve their lives. However, there is also a downside which Mr F has hinted at here.

I’m not saying if you are 8” BPEL you have to stop. It depends on your circumstances/feelings/motivations etc. I’m just syaing Mr F’s post sent out a warning signal that most guys who replied entirely missed. The emotional impact of PE has to be taken as important at times as the physical.

People who die from eating disorders are skinny, yet don’t see it. People with low self-esteem have good elements, but don’t see them. Here the guy has a big dick, but doesn’t see it. Really, whether it weight or PE, are the emotional factors that different?

The issue of dysmorphia has been covered here ad nauseum, though perhaps not with respect to Mr. F.

He has, though, declared his closeness issues previously (I’ve not had ‘closeness and/or companionship’ for seven years…). From memory, he has made progress.

Haha, my goodness. HardbodyPEer you talk some pure shit sometimes :rolleyes: .

I mean that in the least offensive way possible ;)

I say keep going…I’m 8.75 BPEL long and plan on going to atleast 9” and maybe more as long as I still keep seeing size increases.

I think the choice of stopping is a personal one and one you alone can answer depending on your goals and what your partner may be able to accommodate. As for me I would go on even if it is not to try gain size however merely as maintenance. I can simply not imagine stopping PE for longer than two months.

More than 1 in 100 men have an 8” dick, and that would be NBPEL 8” long dick.

But how many women sleep with 100 men?

I don’t want this to become another size debate thread, but Invisible has clearly shown the statistics. And yes, most studies are BPEL (from pubic bone to tip of glans) in measurement. Honestly, there are ALWAYS going to be people out there that an insecure person would see as “better” (whether it be richer, more handsome, bigger, etc). You have to learn to love yourself and use what you have to the best of your ability. Men with the attitude of “I’ll just get my dick to 10x7” will: 1. Never reach those dimensions. 2. Will never get the feeling of inadequacy out of their minds. People base their self-worth on the most retarded things sometimes, I know, I used to be the same way myself.

Life is more than just dick size.

What`s the purpose of a big cock - yes, 8” BPEL is big - that is not put to use?

Do some easy jelqing for penile health and cementing, while you focus on other parts of your life that seems to be lacking.

Don`t let PE become an excuse for not taking care of other parts of your life. “I just need to reach 9 BPEL and then I will approach that girl”. Many guys, including me, have been there.

Remember, you could always return to PE and gain more when you are older if you feel that you would like that. Who knows, perhaps you`ll find that girls think you actually are too big already. Trust me on this one.

Good luck!

I’d stop on length. I would work on girth or maintenance because chances are your length will continue to increase. Then again it’s all relevant to your life and what not. Go out and get some poon will ya?

The way this topic has turned out, is similar to a bulimic girl going on a body disorder support website, and asking if she should lose some more weight.

Who’s cooler the 9 incher who waits to get to 10 before going out and getting some, or the 4 incher who plays the field and has no inhibitions about his size? (Yes I need to follow this advice myself).

I’ve been reluctant to work on girth since I heard it wasn’t permanent, but I think probably the best thing to do would be to swing a few weights to get my shape evened out. The thing is I really have been getting an emotional boost from low-level jelqing, and the thought of getting back into the bib hanger (although it would be different this time) isn’t that appealing.

And yes, for me it has been as much a psychological battle as a physical battle but I think I’m gaining ground in both respects. I think I’ll buy a pack of condoms to get a sense of the change of scale. Maybe that’ll help me put things into perspective.

When I first started I was a lot more confused and disillusioned than I am now, and at that time I wanted to work in the adult industry and wanted to grow a cock so big that people would bring me work and bring me beautiful women rather than me having to fight for it (since it’s a fight I probably couldn’t win). I also thought it might compensate for my lack of social skills, or at least be consolation for someone who ended up having to date me (yes my self-esteem did used to be that low). Now that I’m seeing things a little more clearly my goals seem to be changing.

At that time I didn’t care about the risk of contracting AIDS because I thought happiness was based on a time-to-money ratio and that any way I could load that ratio in my favour (even if it meant more money and ultimately less time) was better than what I had to look forward to. Even now I think if I ever find myself trapped in repetitive, low-paying, soul-destroying work amongst people I’m totally unable to relate to I’ll try for as much length as I can get while saving my money to get out to the valley. For me that kind of work is like a slow death, and being able to speed up the process in the sun surrounded by beautiful, fun, playful women and being paid in a day what I might otherwise make in a week. Hell, sign me up!

I think what I’ll do is switch to swinging weights to even out my shape and I’m pretty sure I should gain at least a little length doing that. I only hope the girth gains are permanent.

One of the other things that put me off of getting more girth was the thought that I’d be limiting myself to just vaginal sex, even if other opportunities presented themselves, purely because I’d be too big.

5.00" to 5.25" 9.0 %
5.25" to 5.50" 10.8 %
5.50" to 5.75" 24.3 %
5.75" to 6.00" 23.9 %
6.00" to 6.25" 9.3 %
6.25" to 6.50" 6.7 %
6.50" to 6.75" 4.4 %

6.75" to 7.00" 2.9 %
7.00" to 7.25" 1.0 %
7.25" to 7.50" 1.0 %
7.50" to 7.75" 0.9 %

7.75" to 8.00" 0.8 %
8.00" to 8.25" 0.3 %

8.25" to 8.50" 0.3 %
8.50" to 8.75" 0.1 %
8.75" to 9.00" 0.1 %

Source: Lifestyles Condom Co., 2001

http://www.mrav … com/results.htm

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Same length data on a chart:

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That’s from here:

Human penis size - Wikipedia

This article has some good stuff on size worries and where they come from and the type of damage they can do. It is UK site, so forgive her the UK healthcare references:

http://www.mans ized.co.uk/answ … -penis-size/a15

Even if you tell guys they’re okay, often their body image worries means they’re still anxious. A recent US study showed that men seeking penis enlargement consistently overestimate the average penis size of other men and drastically underestimate their own size.

Men get penis hang ups since they usually only see other penises in the changing rooms or toilets - where they view their dick downwards and everyone else’s front or side on making other guys seem bigger. Or they compare themselves with porn stars, where the actors are specifically chosen for their size - and filmed from flattering angles.

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That’s not to say that size worries don’t do a lot of damage to many men. Worrying about your penis can lead to relationship problems, avoiding sex or relationships, erectile dysfunction (not being able to get it up) or premature ejaculation (when you come too soon).

If you’re worried about your body or sexual performance, you can get advice from the Sexual Dysfunction Association.

If your worries are severe, your GP can refer you to a psychosexual therapist who can unpack where your problems come from and reassure you you’re okay (there is a waiting list for this service).

Alternatively, you can self-refer to a sex therapist although you’ll have to pay for this therapy. Have a look at the British Association of Sex and Relationship Therapy website.

It’s common for men to have an occasional worry about their penis size - after seeing a bigger guy at the gym, following a negative comment from an ex-partner, or perhaps after reading somewhere you should have a bigger dick. Some gay men also report being under pressure to be big.

Research indicates it’s more common for younger or sexually inexperienced men to have size worries and, with time, these worries reduce. However, for some men it continues to be a problem throughout life.

Guys should start challenging a society that makes them feel they’re only a sexually attractive and functioning person if they have a slightly longer knob.

I guess I believe the study, but I have a hard time believe that less than 3% of the male population has a longer penis than I do. Or maybe the measurements really are NBPEL, in which case, more like 4-5% of men are larger than me. I still find that hard to believe.

I don’t know, I guess I’m a little messed up, I admit it, I’m the same way in the gym, if I’m not the biggest person around, I feel small, I have an uber competitive nature.