The Big Why?

As I was told when I was younger hanging out on the corner, by someone older with more life experiences…..”there will always be someone bigger, stronger, tougher or crazier, once you understand that you won’t worry about being a tough guy out of insecurity” ……that goes with a lot of different areas in life…..be the best I can be for me these days

It might be easy to forget that the brain is the primary sex organ. Getting your mind in proper order before getting your penis where you would like it to be is a tricky situation to attain. After all what could be more ego feeding (or destroying) than the size of one’s member? Yet it is through recognizing and reducing the size, position, and importance of the ego that one then discovers the self. Ego is our attachment to what it is that we feel defines us outwardly toward the world, whereas when we embrace the self, it is the acceptance of what we inwardly don’t know or understand about our self. The thrill of that unlimited mystery, once you catch onto it, is what helps you to overcome the pain of a limited ego.

I’m doing it for the raw sex appeal.

Man’s primary sexual organ is external, and no matter how masculine or attractive a guy’s secondary sexual characteristics are, the size of his manhood trumps it all in a way.

Imagine two men:

A tall, handsome, rich guy with a 4x4
A dirt poor, short, fat, bald guy with an 8x6

They are both great guys, and only differ in their body types and economic status.

One of them has all the secondary sexual characteristics going for him.
The other has only the primary sexual organ going for him.

Which one do women prefer?

It’s a rhetorical question, and there is no clear answer. The point is, a big cock matters a lot to women.

Once I found out I can make mine bigger, I was more of a “why wouldn’t I?” guy as well.

at 9 inches I’m

Sure you dominate your wife’s previous partners lol

How about a closer could comparison…

Handsome, rich, caring, 4x4
Or
Handsome, financially comfortable, caring ,8x6

The first has compensation written all over it. Is the lady really satisfied? Is this man at risk of someone else dicking his women??

This is a problematic view, where we as men use numbers to define female behavior patterns.

The fact is a man compensating for things has typically serious personality flaws. Penis size alone won’t drive her into the arms of another man. Bad sex can be a factor but unless financially comfortable 8x6 has a name, salary and cock stat tag on his shirt it can’t happen based just on the factors listed.

Read erotica. Men writing it focus on cock size and money, when writing a woman cheating story.

Danielle Steele, the gold standard for checkout counter romance novels, has only one formula: The man good with kids that makes her feel beautiful, important and listened to.

If Mr. Big can fit the archetype then sure, he may can steal a woman from a smaller man. But we as men take the cock size from this idea. Not the overarching fantasy that women look for when they cheat on another man.

Just like with everything else, each situation is unique.

I know a bigger penis, to a limit, typically feels better.

Real life is more than sex though. Love…well…I may sound naive, but actual, selfless love….I mean I don’t think it has to do with sex really. It’s love for the being, not the body.

That said does true, pure love exist? Is it just a mythological creature we summon up to take the edge off the brutal and the fearful possibilities in life. Or is there a beauty there in the middle of it all, underneath it all?

I sure hold out hope for that.

Life is a mixture of things though. For me the big why is I have a 4” erect girth. It’s the small side of average but I don’t see many guys here with those stats. I think often of those with micro penis or severe ED. Should I complain? No. I’m on a break due to injury. As I wrote this I realize I have to take a healthier view. I have to accept myself. I can try to grow, but why spend all this time in obsessive negativity, if in fact that is how I approach it. If I start back I’ll just have to take it slow. Hopefully with a better attitude.

Lilhelp, true love does really exist! I been with my wife for 33 years and wouldn’t change a thing! Not one bro! And what you we’re saying about your erect girth, I wanna say that there are a lot of men on here and not that would like to convince you that bigger is better. But the truth is not all women want to be punished and the percent would go with not. Life isn’t a porn channel. Not all woman want to be spread apart and damaged.

I sort of hope that this life is about love. About discovering what it is and what it isn’t. Not necessarily romantic love but something transcendent in a way.

Still! I’ve lived a charmed life. I know there are horrors and occurences unspeakable going on each moment on earth. Maybe a little off topic for this thread, but certainly something I have to weigh my insecurities and unthankfulness against.

I agree, life is not a porn, though we treat it like that in many areas. Still if I could get more girth safely I’d take it : )

Lol, nothing wrong with trying to make ourselves feel better about ourselves. I don’t do this for my wife but I do it for me. In a matter of fact she always tellinge to stop. And trust me she means it. Lol. Good luck in your journey bro

I started PE back in late 1997 because I was insecure. My first girlfriend had a bigger vagina and I wanted to fill it up more than I did.

I didn’t gain much. Well, it was hard to tell. I think I went from 6” bone pressed to 6.7”, but maybe I just grew more, considering I started stretching and pumping at the age of 17 after buying a book called Penis Enlargement; Facts and Phallacy.

I found Thunder’s in early 2003. I began a pump & jelq routine. I think I went up to 6.85” bone pressed.
My mid shaft girth went almost to 5.3”.
Base girth was 5.5”, foreshaft 5”.

Well, I couldn’t stick with a routine lomger that 3 months. I haven’t had the discipline.

Fast forward to 2014. I injured my penis dry humping a woman. At 34 yrs of age I get peyronies from that injury. I lost 3/8” lenght, and a half inch of foreshaft girth.

I then began reading on the reddit forum r/smalldickproblems
They just about have me believing that PE doesn’t work.

Well, I visit the forums here once a year. Maybe I’ll start a pump & jelq routine once again.

A part of the why is that I’m a size queen too. I’m bi, and I’d rather have a bigger cock mostly for vaginal penetration. I don’t give a care about receiving oral.

I’d be able to fuck so many swinger wives if I had an 8x6 cock (bonepressed). I’m not doing to bad in the poly community with my average cock though.

r/smalldickproblems is a fucked up place. There you will find some of the most miserable men on the planet. A sample of utterly broken men. I can’t stop checking in with them. It makes me grateful for what I have. It also makes me feel sorry for them. They ignore PE, are waiting for the spaceship of medical science to help them and bitterly resent anyone who suggest otherwise. Many are 4 inches and say they would half their lifespans for 2 more inches. But they won’t spend 2 years to earn those inches.

You can purport the existence of water and be healthy and happy but some people are bitter enough to still die instead of take your advice and believe what you say is real.

I’ve never checked in there and never will.

To be completely honest I want a big dick just to be confident with myself, all my friends talk about at times is how they have so much sex

And how big their cock is and I’m over here just hearing all of this and thinking of how much of a loser and that I will never be able

To please a girl without a huge cock, even though I’ve been doing PE for about 1 year now I haven’t seen any changes what so ever.. It just

Brings me down but I won’t give up!

I’m doing this because I want to become a porn performer. I already have a desirable size (7.5 BPEL x 5.2eg) so its all about the stage for me. It took me a while to actually decide on this path; I’ve had trouble understanding my place with sex my entire life and I was certain I wanted to become a monk (I still want to), but after introspection and meditation I was directed towards porn as my next career move. Even still it took me a year of doubting my inner guidance to finally decide to follow it.

I then had to confront my penile dysphoria. I decided that since I would still love myself and be at peace even if I lost my penis it would be fine to grow this one I have whether it is for an egoic purpose or an artistic one. To be honest I’m not planning on fucking forever and would not regret the decision to grow. Since I’m going to become a porn performer, I may as well go all out.