The Great Big Dick, Big Confidence Debate

Yes, it seems that finally I am gaining again, who knows for how long, though. The main part came during the first 4-6 weeks then almost nothing or very slow. Now, I am doing DLD stretches, hanging, wet and dry jelqing, and girth exercises for some 2-4 hours a day (depends on the free time). But as many have discovered, you get accustomed to the new length and feel that you need more. Also, as the girth increases, the proportion between length and girth (at least in my case) remains almost the same. Nonetheless, I have to admit that it feels bigger, especially in the flaccid state which is the normal state during most of the day. I have gone from 5”x4” to 7.5-8”x5” (on occasions).

Thunder and all you other gurus, thank you from the bottom of my heart for this place and all the advice. I only wish that I would have known about PE some 25 years ago :( (I am 46 right now).

Priapos.

Yes, a big penis can give you confidence.
Please note that big is arbitrary and confidence is ambiguous.

Priapos - I’m 8” and want to be 10”, how long did it take you to do that?

Ok, so I’m treading into shark infested waters here, but then no one ever accused me of being the brightest bulb in the box.

Guys, confidence doesn’t come from a big dick, or lots of money, or fast cars, or any of that other crapola we are led to believe. Confidence comes from believing in yourself. It doesn’t matter if your dick is small, medium, large or extra large, it comes from what you see in yourself. Now, if by having a large to extra large does that for you, so be it. But it isn’t because of the dick you are now confident, it is a personal perception issue. I have known, and been with guys of varying sizes, most of them were confident to begin with. I’ve known guys who were large to extra large who didn’t believe in themselves, so what did the dick do for them? Not a damn thing.

Confidence is between the ears, not between the legs.

Priapos
congratz man!! Great gains. Can you give more details of your routine, couldn’t find it on PE DB? I checked out your data on PE database, it seems incorrect. Your starting measurments are like 8” and currently 10”!!

So true. I have a beautiful wife and a great love life. 2 beautiful children. 2 houses. Great cars. High IQ. All accomplished as if some greater power was looking out for me. But all this time I felt like I was cheating. That I didn’t deserve it. I struggle within constantly.

Can’t say I am happy with my career path because I have not taken full advantage of what I have been blessed with. Why I ask? Searching for an answer brought me here. (side note: up 3/8” since May- thank you). Wife learned about this place and we had a heart to heart talk. I realized what’s between my legs has no bearing on how I should percieve myself. She had no idea how I felt inside.
I would like to think it was my strict upbringing that contributed to my lack of confidence (I was never good enough for the folks) but that is a copout. It’s time to grow up‚ take risks‚ learn from mistakes and don’t beat myself up when things don’t go according to plan. Lately‚ I have been applying that mindset and the battles within myself have lessened. I will continue to recite that last statement by Sunny. “Confidence is between the ears‚ not between the legs. “

But I sure am happy about the 3/8”!

Excellent post sunshinekid!

Realize that confidence is a head game….and therefore entirely fictional. You can connect up anything you want. If X, then Y.

Nike’s slogan of “Just do it!” is some of the best self-help around. Waiting to do something until you feel “confident” and/or “motivated” is a path of failure. Winners commit and go for what they want…whether they feel like it or not.

In my opinion, valid confidence comes from success. Achieving something becomes the basis for doing more and better.

MX

I would like to add to sunshinekid’s great post as I basically agree with everything said in it.

I think that things like a faster car, or bigger dick can act like a temporary confidence booster. But since the change is external (outside of the mind where confidence resides) you’re mind is likely to revert back to its low-confidence state given enough time. It’s troubling to think that one may constantly look for confidence through external acquisitions with no actual success at finding it.

avocet8,

When I say that I am principal centered, I am saying that my thoughts, peace and ultimately my happiness come from the principals around which my life is constructed. My principals are unique to me and never change. I’m currently doing mental exercises to be as principal centered as possible and it has had DRASTIC effects on all areas of my life. The process takes a lot of work, but it’s worth it, as my confidence (among other things) has increased dramatically since I started.

It is possible to be lover-centered, dick-centered, money-centered, enemy-centered, etc if your respective happiness is closely related to these things. Any changes in these centers could have drastic impacts on your life and happiness in general. Because these centers are external, you don’t decide your happiness.

This way of thinking came from the ‘7 habits’ book. After reading and applying mot of the information, I’ve confirmed its truth on myself.

Let me put it this way with a famous quote…

“The wolf on the top of the hill is not as hungry, but if he wants the food, it’s there.”

Hi,

All this external things like car, house, money, etc… doesn’t gives you really confidence.

It is more the way you go. Each time you go ahead and take risk, decisions,etc… Each time you don’t hide yourself from a important confrontations. Each time you remind with a cool head when it is a conflict.
Each time you win the battle to this “inner asshole” we all have.

Each time you do all this things, something change in your mind and brings you more to the state to believe and respect yourself.

That are the first steps, after that the walk will be easier…

But, it is also very important all this external bad things that happens to you in your life that puts you aside, and makes you questioning yourself and your aptitude.

But again, this is the way to go. Do not get down without offering a gut battle to all this external bad things.

Matti

My thought is that there really isn’t anything external that will give a person more confidence. As many of you have pointed out, confidence issues come from and are solved internally.

Peace,
Taz

Another perspective: Yes, theoretically the confidence is between your ears, not the legs. This is the truth. But, the society doesn’t say so…Society gives us the message ”if you have more money, more muscular body, larger dick, etc.. you can have more girls and you can be much more happy” . There are so many things in the media that are direct proofs of this way of looking to the life. This is the fuel of capitalist societies, they use our insecurities to make money. We become individuals that never get satisfied, we always want more. We need to earn more money, have a faster car, more sluts to fuck, bigger penis, etc. This is the way how the economical mechanisms work. We, either male or female, are the victims of this thought system. So the truth is at one side and the social pressure at the other side. So the problem is how to resist such a pressure. I think an average man cannot resist this.

I love this thread man. SSK you rock!

It seems to depend on peoples definition of confidence and in what context. tug monkey told me one of my posts partly inspired this thread. I posted the full story in the “warning big penis thread” but basically I hurt a girl through sex and she told friends, who from then on were flirting more with me. I am shy but I was far more confident talking to her friends from then on. This is just confidence in chatting up girls not general confidence, confidence that you will be able to satisfy them in bed. If I studied a lot more and gave up drinking I would be more “confident” taking an IQ test. I am above average academically and have a decent job which some find attractive too. Just a while back a woman I hadnt seen in years said “so I hear you are rolling in cash these days” seemingly impressed by it, I hear female friends saying “oh yeah, the guy down the road has a great body” I want women talking about me behind my back saying “he is hung like a horse” spreading the good news about!

I would not be confident going for a run with a friend (male or female) since I am tragically unfit and would be embarrassed by it, maybe “confidence” is not the correct word. Maybe it is just a want to be better than average and that there would be no chance of disappointment in others expectation of me. Further up somebody said “how many women know about your dick size prior to sex? If one is afraid of embarrassment, then perhaps many want a large dick to improve self esteem.” Well in my case, in a circle of friends who changed partners a bit, it became common knowledge and I know some were interested in me partly because of it (even though it is just slightly above the published average which leads me to question the average values). In another circle of friends I was condsidered 9”+ at once stage! due to comparisons to a guy who I found out was measured lying down. Then I hear of the “bulge watchers”, women who spot that you are hung and go after you for it, shallow I know, but I wouldnt mind a group of women pointing and whispering. If I had a good physique that I worked hard at I would be more confident going down to the beach or wearing tight tops and again I wouldnt mind women checking me out like a sex object. Say I was stripped on my stag night and tied to a pole in a busy street, I would prefer to have a huge cock and average body than a great body and average cock, I am sure many would go the other way around but thats just me. Confidence is self assurance and I was speaking of chatting up women, maybe it is a fear of rejection. A big dick is one less thing to worry about, so are good looks, a full head of hair, a fat wallet, high IQ and quick wit, a muscular body. I just try to get the ones which are easiest to acheive and most important to myself. If I was 3” I would certainly not be as confident with women as I am, I’d be thinking “I’m getting on great but wait till she sees it”

Very well said Teoman, you have a clear idea what this is about…

This whole media pressure is there to create anxiety in the individuals. We want to be like they tell us to be, and that way we “must” buy everything they sale us.

It’s a very simple and knowed method. We must first think we need it to buy it, and they can only reach this state in our mind applying well proofed psychological methods.

Only hope that some day we would stay above such “material thinking” and choose by ourself what we want.

I heard this somewhere: “Only dead fishes will be swept by the water current”

Matti

How many of you would actually (be honest) consider yourselves confident individuals? If so, why? Were you always confident? What would you have no problem doing? What have you done that you know would impress other, less confident individuals?

I consider myself on the path towards perfect confidence; I may never reach it, but I’m finally travelling in the right direction. True confidence has been my goal ever since I hit puberty and I don’t suspect it’ll go away any time soon. In the past I tried various things to make myself seem more confident to a third party, but I soon realized that all I was doing was acting and not achieving anything.

When I first found PE about a year ago, I strongly believed that a bigger cock would make me more confident with the ladies. I know now that (at least in my case) cock size has nothing to do with confidence. In fact, I believe that if you are confident, self assured, good conversationalist, caring, motivated, and ambitious, your dick size is almost irrelevant. Just as I’m sure most guys wouldn’t dump a really cool chick because her tits are small. I bet (and have observed) women are no different, save for a very select few ‘cock whores.’

Right now I consider myself confident, but there’s still much room to improve. I have no problem talking to strange women. I have no problem joining a conversation in a lecture hall full of people. I have no problem laughing at myself for doing something foolish or for accepting critisism openly without acting defensivly. I’ve walked up to a table of three strange women and actively hit on one of them (albeit with class). Most men I know wouldn’t even do that with wingmen. At the time, I wasn’t dressed particularily well and didn’t have a $20 bill to my name. I’ve never been more free in my life, and it feels good.