When is it too big for sex and BJ

I have always worked on hardness as appose to size. Since starting my routine over 5 years ago.I have only gained about 1/2 inch length and about the same in girth. I currently sit at 7.75 x 6.125. I wish my girth was about 5.75, it was a lot more pleasurable receiving BJ”s at that size. I have know interest in getting any larger.

From what I have learned over the years.it depends a lot on how large the women your having sex with, on whether your able to bottom out on her. My target has always been about 5.5 x 120lbs. At that size I pretty well always bottom out in certain positions. But most can’t give a good BJ because of my girth.

If your about 7 x 5.75 and you can get rock hard most women, of a certain size, will think your big, not huge but big. Most women see hardness as being big, if your above average to begin with.

When I started doing PE my unit was 7.7” long, not sure about the girth and I have never bottomed out any girl and never had any problems getting BJ’s. Only one girl told me her jaws was hurting so she had to stop and don’t think that had anything to do with my size since my girth was not huge. Only Problem I have had with my length is when I’m having sex in positions from behind, then I get hit the cervix on the girl and that can hurt.

Today I am over 8 inch in length, maybe 8.5 and still not sure about my girth, measured my base girth to 6’3 a while ago and my shaft to about 5.5. Still no problems when I have sex, only when doing it doggystyle with my GF, that can be really painful for here if I slam it all inside her so I need to be a bit careful, otherwise there are no problems. I sometimes use a cock ring, makes my dick really hard and it looks really thick. My GF says she is a bit afraid of it when I got a cockring on but when she’s inside here she’s likes it allot.

Just above the cock ring my girth is 6’5 inch and a bit up the shaft it’s over 5.5 inch and the length is somewhere around 8’5” and I know my dick could be bout longer and thicker and still not be to big.

Are you talking bp, or nbp? Also, where did you get the “women see hardness as big” from? Big is big I would think. I’m bigger hard than soft, but then again, I’m not “big” soft, unless you compare it to all soft cocks.

I think, from what I’ve heard women describe. Cocks that are really hard tend to emit a bit of meanness to them, they’re scary. No they never said it was big, but it is more intimidating, and thus I think that’s what makes it ‘big’.

Are you referring to 7 bp or nbp?

It doesn’t matter nbp or bp in this case.

I’ve attached a demonstration. Just by the penis standing erect with NO gain in actual size the penis will look bigger on pure visual cues alone. Yes some penises hang down when erect but I still think being erect does change the disposition. Just like if you slouch.

Not sure if this helps but every long term girl I’ve been with has developed tmj. Natural msg was 5.5” and natural bg was 5.7”.

I’m sure this has been said before (sorry, not going read all 19 pages of this thread to find out!) but really, this is an unanswerable question. There’s no such thing as a ‘standard-issue’ penis and, surprise surprise, no such thing as a standard-issue vagina or standard-issue mouth either. A size that’s perfect for one woman might be too big for another to handle comfortably yet might also leave a third woman feeling that there could be a bit more stimulation going on.

Years ago, before I’d even heard of manual PE, I briefly dated this girl who actually didn’t let me put it in her because she was scared of my size. I’m now about an inch longer and 3/4 of an inch bigger in girth than I was then, and my current girlfriend loves it. She’s got a really tight pussy too, certainly no less tight than the other girl, and while she doesn’t have a tiny mouth it’s not huge either, yet she can give me blow jobs just fine. (Another girlfriend of mine could handle me inside her OK, in most positions at least, but has quite a small mouth and got jaw-ache quite quickly when sucking me).

So it’s all relative to a big range of factors: the woman’s basic anatomy (width/depth of vagina and muscle tone), her age, previous sexual experience, whether she’s had kids or not, how much natural lube she makes and the extent to which she relaxes when aroused, and the psychological aspect too: some women enjoy a bit of pain, or at least a certain amount of ‘resistance’ while fucking, whereas others don’t. And of course there’s your approach too: do you like to take your time and do plenty of foreplay, or do you go more for the rough-and-ready ‘quickie’ approach? So many variables mean it’s not a question that has any one right answer.

Great thread. I finally read the whole thing. Damn.

My wife can put her fist in her mouth which means she can take 8.25 inches of girth, so I’m not worried about blow jobs ever being a problem.

Anal has always been difficult and I abandoned them when I decided to go for girth.

Vaginal sex is great at 5.5 inches of girth and she can take me without much problem even if we’ve been shy on the foreplay, so I think 6 inches of girth might be good. Once I’m there, I’ll decide if I should continue based on her reactions.

As for length, she’s not very deep and I have always been able to bottom out whenever I like. The good news is that she likes it in certain positions when she’s close to cumming.

Ok I found my wifes limit.. 7.5 girth. I am normally 6.7 girth and she takes it down easy. So I pumprd it for 5 hours.she just got the head in

An ex told me that she preferred when I wasn’t all the way hard. Her reason “…it hurt less.” I asked her it felt different, and she responded “…no, I just know I like it better.” Two tall Texas Margaritas (I’m no drinker) caused the lack of a diamond erection.

WTBT:

I am at 5.5 to 5.75 MSEG and my wife can take anal just fine. It all depends on how much fore-anal-play you engage in. The anal sphincter will relax enough to easily take a 6.5” girth cock, no problem; without any special training.

If you enjoy anal, discuss butt plugs with your significant other.

Ultimately there is no correct answer as mouth and vaginal size differs from person to person in addition to different techniques.

The average size of the vagina though seems to be 7-8 inches and as such I would say that the perfect penis for ‘normal’ sexual relations would be 8*6. Anything above that is mainly for your your benefit or a particular fetish of hers (perhaps she likes pain).

So Stumpy1,

“hurt” equals less enjoyable to “no sex”? Most women from what I gather do not want to equate sex with pain, or sore spots, or tears, or anything. It’s the same difference if you felt the same way, IE: torn skin on the shaft, or foreskin or burns on the skin….

She had a positive outlook on being sore the next day. I can remember when she said that waking up sore always started her day off with a smile.