When is penis size too big & counterproductive?

Agreed. Most of my sexual experience, I was about 8.25x5.25 inches (ranging from about 8x5.25 to 8.5x5.5). I was usually pushing the limits on length. I was sometimes pushing the limits on girth, but usually they could handle a bit more girth. I was girthy enough to feel a stretch most of the time.

Now, I’m more like 8.5x5.75 with 6 inch girth at the base, and I usually fuck my wife pumped to about 8.5x6.25-6.5 (sometimes up to 7.25 girth). My wife has a preference for WAY bigger than most women, so I would be surprised if most women wanted 6.25 inches in girth.

I can’t comment on "women" in general as my wife and I were both virgins when we married. But 20 years ago, she couldn’t handle my 6X5 for a while. I always had an inch hanging out. Nowadays, she’s taking my 7.5X5.75 balls deep whenever she wants to. So, I would say that for those in a life-long relationship, you can get as big as you want, because for the most part, she grows with you.

The best outcome in PE is going from Perfect or "it’s more than enough" to "how is that going to fit in me" and " you have the BEST dick (Big Dick- No pain)"

This all happens with1/4 or 1/2 inch gains. Many people come here with 2" goals, forgetting that the first 1/2 inch is a game changer.

Starting stats for me were NBP 6x5, now I am 7x6, wife says I am to big. I’m not stopping PE. lol

I began looking into PE have better sex with my wife, but this makes me rethink things.

I am 7 1/4 BPEL, 6 girth at bottom, 5 1/2 mid shaft. I am able to get blowjobs but she complains of jaw soreness sometimes. The way I handle that is to only get blowjobs when I know I can cum quickly and she will only have to work it for a few minutes.

When we first got together 20 years ago I would occasionally hit her cervix in certain positions (causing her pain), but since having children that has never happened. Maybe because my EQ was better in my youth.

She has never complained about my size and has occasionally said I have a big dick, or it feels like my dick is hitting her brain, but in recent years she doesn’t say it. I don’t know how much of that was dirty talk, ego stroking or whatever.

So now I wonder if I’m only interested for my own ego. I have a question. I understand pumping can add temporary size (do I need a cock ring for that?). So can I use pumping to see how she feels with a bigger dick and then stop if it’s too much?

Rldabany,

I would recommend pumping alone for awhile. After every session see how your cock reacts to it. See if you can get and maintain an erection. I use this time to edge. Most of the time for 10 minutes or more. If you have a tough time maintaining an erection throw a cock ring on. I am seasoned at this so I even pump with my ring on. Take baby steps so you don’t injure yourself. Just enjoy the process. Oh and once you got it down she will be hooked. Good luck Brother 👍

@Rldabney

Great story and I do think you will love PE, +1 what BigF said. If you see my posts, 1/4 or up to 1/2 inch are game changers in bed to those that have lightly gotten to cervix before.

My wife loved my cock before PE, but she says she LOVES my cock now. So remember this saying "MY bigger is better" and not Bigger is better.

So with that.

- Start with the newbie routine, real light, just so you get the flow of PE and your cock.
- Buy a RED + NIR pad now, use for warm up or during stretches
- After 6 weeks, Start water pumping (not bathmate) never over 20 min a day and never over 10hg - this will give you the instant growth and EQ you had 20 years ago, it gave me the hardest EQ of my life
-Start using a cockring in bed over balls and shaft
- In 5-6 months you can do 5 x5x3

Within 8-10 months you will see wifey and yourself on Cloud 9 again.

From what you are describing you can read my posts on cervix, hitting cervix direct sucks (pain for you and her) but since we are there we think to keep hitting it. With some PE you will lightly glide past it or be around A or P spot and you will see wifey eyes light up. The goal is to readjust when you are around cervix.

You will notice after water pumping and 5 x 5x 3 wifey will LOVE the new girth in addition to the length.

Have an objection and not a time goal, this is a marathon you will win! But have a 3 year commitement minimum.

@Bemorethanbig

Thanks for the advice. If you don’t mind I have a few questions. I don’t know how this forum feels about links or making it appear you’re selling a product but can you suggest a red + NIR pad. I don’t know what that is and when I searched it something $1400 dollars came up.

Also I’m not sure about a pump. I’m leaning toward the Mittyvac because it says it can do water and has a gauge. Any thoughts on that or suggestions?

I’ve never used a cock ring. I assume by “in bed” you mean during sex and not while asleep. So put it on after pumping for a sort of superhuman erection?

And this is off topic but can anyone tell me what the measurement MEG means? I couldn’t find it defined when I searched this site. Mid erection girth?

Let’s get back on track guys. This is not a thread to discuss PE methods and advice. Plenty of other threads with that as the subject.

+1

@ Rldabney can you start a new thread with the question you had

Very good recommendation.
Don’t overdo it, so you will regret your penis enlargement.
There is a narrative in the penis enlargement community that bigger is always better (especially in the sect communities/sites = not this site), but this narrative is false. In my opinion you only need 6.5 x 5.5 to have a perfect size. 5x5.5 will work as well.

On another forums I tried to talk about this facts (bigger is not always better), but they just shut me down. If you can make a woman squirt and be orgasmic with a normal size penis, you don’t need to make your penis gigantic.

It probably starts being counter productive for penetrative sex around 7 inches in length non bone pressed. Sex positions and the woman will obviously be the determining factors there.

Girth wise. I think the sky is the limit. Seriously, I know girls might not fit 6.5+ the first time around but the second and third and everytime after that they’ll love it.

I’m going for 8.5 NBP x7.5. Impossible? Lol maybe idk if I stick to it for 15 years we’ll see. But that’s the goal.

I don’t expect the lady to be able to take the length but that’s more for my psychological benefit to see how far it can reach. Plus I’m growing length before focusing on girth so I’m calculating like half an inch length loss when working on girth just precautionary.

I’m a long way from 8.5 NBP, but I can tell you that with a long term partner the big girth is super fun for both of us. PIV sex feels amazing for me, maybe even more than it does for her.

The one issue you guys out there need to keep in mind about very large girth is condoms. I never wear one since I’m married and my wife is on oral birth control pills, but a PE-derived glans blister kind of forced me to need condoms recently. My wife is sensitive to latex so the largest ones widely available are not an option (though I don’t know how much girth they are made to accommodate). I got the biggest non-latex condoms I could find on the internet (supposedly "extra large" according to the package) and it was a super tight squeeze that was no fun.

So if you’re single and/or prefer condoms as a birth control method, once you are over 6 it can get tricky.

Seems to me this is one way things can be considered counter-productive.

I just finished a pump session and stretches and hit 8 inches bpsfl. The wife is going to be so mad. Lol

I’m 7.75 BPEL and was balls deep on my wife last night and I thought, "I just can’t beat her." They adapt.