Hit 7" BPEL But not Happy

I have reached 7” BPEL today, measured while edging. Technically I am a bit longer because my ruler has the typical extra length before the zero line that I have not sanded off.

To me, this is not as exciting as I expected it would be, and during this little journey I came to realize that my size is not truly an issue in my relationships… It never was. I had an ex say something cruel and disrespectful about my size, comparing me to another guy. I allowed this to get to me and this jump-started an obsessive PE program that has ultimately caused me to gain nearly an inch in length. In a way, I have her to thank for that. During the process of growth, I have recovered mentally and gotten over my insecurities. I noticed in recent months that I was ‘bottoming out’, aka hitting the cervix during sex with a couple different women. This was new to me and not something I ever experienced before PE. I found that I don’t enjoy doing this and I am not excited when my partner gets hurt or experiences pain during sex. I have had to learn to go easier and be more gentle than before.

If I could offer any advice to other guys on here, I would say to do PE for yourself and not to please another person, or for validation. Unfortunately, finding happiness in life isn’t as simple as pulling on your unit for hours each day. I still enjoy PE and will continue, but I am now doing this for my own sexual health and wellness.

it really is about No one but you.

That’s what I found out, too.

Very good, and dare I say thoughtful, post.

I’ve written similar things on this site.

I am nearing 7 and reflecting as well. Very thoughtful post and seems to be a theme.

Saul

Kiekergaard once said get married and you will regret it. Do not get married and you will regret it. Either way, you will regret it. The moral of the story: PE or not PE, either way, you will regret it but the important thing is you made a choice.

Great revelation! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Thanks guys. This forum is a great place to share experiences and reflect on lessons learned.

You can’t have sex the same way you did ewith your before size. That is where the “know how to use it” phrase comes from. You have to switch your style.

I agree though you have to do this for yourself. There was nothing wrong with my sex life with the wife. It is just something I wanted to do for me. I had done it before her but lost the gains due to 5 years of pied.

Had some good manual stretches today. My current routine is manual stretches one day, then mostly clamping and some light stretches on the second day. Third day is off. I usually warm up with a hot damp towel that I microwave for about a minute.

I have stopped using my home-made ADS because it was causing pain and fatigue that seemed to be affecting my EQ. I may bring it back into my routine in the future but I’m not sure. If gains are possible without it, I would prefer not using it.

EQ has been great this week.