Reflections and Progress: thoughtfulgold

Interesting last couple of posts. Great stuff for members to read about persepective.

Thank you very much, 8x6.

I try to put down what I experience and how it’s relative to the journey I’ve taken. Because the numbers in my signature have at least a novel’s worth the context. There’s a host of reasons the guys who wish they were me shouldn’t want to be this screwed up dude I turned out to be. *chuckles*

Lately, I’ve been reflecting. Trying to understand why exactly I’m still at Penis Enlargement. I spend far more time giving advice than doing PE these days but…I still do it. I still am looking for something…only a dim idea as to what…but…

Here in 2016 I changed a lot. One thing that is now painfully obvious…is that getting bigger to spite all the other men that made you feel small is a poor reason to do so. So is impressing a size queen, or anyone at all.

The truth is…no one but you truly cares about your size. That is the truth.

Don’t believe me? Check out my logic.

First, name one bully who ever was interested in seeing your penis. Like legitimately inspecting it. I mean I’ve been pants’d before. My underwear didn’t come down, thankfully. But…I don’t think anyone wanted to see my junk. No one was actually interested in analyzing my junk. Big or small, the size doesn’t matter. The guy who actually flaunts his junk and tries to make you look small on purpose is rare enough that I don’t think he’s the main person we all are scared of. I mean honestly, I’d punch him in the face or the junk if he’s super tall and call it a day. That’s real. Most bullies don’t want to risk causing an outburst of that kind of rage. It makes even the smallest guy a piece of Hell on Earth. So your bully has a vested interest in not seeing your junk and laughing. He doesn't want to see your penis to humiliate you that way.

Second, size queen? Give me one good reason to impress her. I mean she’s seen a big dick or 10 before. She’s really only interested in looking at it long enough to get her mouth on it so you can get hard and get in her. And because she’s seen and felt big, huge or scary massive guys before…you aren’t likely to be the Earth shattering experience you so desire to be after making your dick so much bigger. The concept of impressing a size queen is inane, asinine even. It would behoove you not to even attempt such, as it is an action fraught with futility.

Third, let’s just say you’re the biggest a woman (or man/gender of choice for your hypothetical partner) has had. You get the shock face (some of them are pretty nice) and now what? You have sex and now…it’s not really shocking anymore. A sharp woman will continue to vindicate you with some shock and awe and play it off very well, because it amps up your confidence and makes you fuck better. But…the initial shock is usually all that’s legitimate. And how does it reflect on your self-concept that you are predicating part of your self-worth on impressing someone else who by any stretch has no reason to be impressed but once if at all…with something you put a ton of hard work and money into making bigger and better?

That is like if I baked a Casatta Cake, spent the time to get all 3 layers perfect…then fed it to someone who had no sense of taste on their tongue but barely and was pretty much blind to the amount of labor it took to prepare and present the cake. If you are creating something that is valuable to you for the benefit and adulation of someone else…there is no reason for that not to turn out badly. Just because you poured blood, sweat and tears into something (including PE) binds no one you show it to…to be impressed at all. And even if they ARE impressed…they are legitimately impressed the first time. What about the rest? Is that awe the only goal you had with PE? If so…you have a nasty wakeup call coming.

You can’t be someone looking for validation. PE won’t validate you. Impressing someone won’t validate the time and effort you put into PE. YOU validate that time and effort by being happy with yourself. All of that is on you. No one but you.
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So…that leaves you, the ruler and the mirror. This is where PE earns its weight in gold. Because you fucking care and by all accounts you should and had better, given how hard and long PE actually can be.

2016 in a nutshell? PE…is about…no one but you.

Honestly, everyone’s going to have their PE tools of the trade. So we all have a method or two that we “go-to” and we use particular tools to accomplish said task. I’m not here to sell my own tools. Lord knows, I have no website, no cart and no business paypal account. But…let me touch on why I switched clamps recently.

I mean I’ve been using the same exact clamp for about 3 or 4 years now. It’s a Wraptor medium (I think) and it’s what I learned to clamp on. Clamping practices always include being careful, using a cushion around the penis where the clamp will compress (usually an old mouse pad) and 10 minute time limits per session. However…as I got more learned in PE things changed and I learned a bit more and changed with the times, most recently by ditching the Wraptor for the Cable Cuff.

The Cable Cuff, the orange and black clamp sold by Home Depot on their website, is a nicer device in my opinion. A bit more robust, smooth on the inside and can be safely used without cushion. But it requires a modification and still will lightly pinch you if used without a cushion.

Looking at the second picture, where I show the Wraptor and the inside portion of it with the sleeve I use (because the Wraptor cuts through mouse pads like tissue paper when you crank it down) you see that the red portion is hollow. That hollow portion is thin and when cranked down is pretty much almost sharp and this clamp pretty much has to be used with a cushion to avoid significant tissue damage risks. It cuts through rubber mouse pads like butter in a session. The silicone sleeve pictured, a sealing sleeve from Autoextender, holds up very well and still lets me generate very good pressures. Haven’t had it bite though that yet and I’m at least 20 sessions in on it, probably more but that’s my conservative guess.

The Wraptor also has a large handle, which may make it more convenient for some. It does make clamp placement easy to repeat the same way every time as well. Also, if you’re not comfortable with the idea of clamping without a cushion, which has some increased risk for thombossed or damaged veins, the Wraptor with a proper cushion has no real downside compared to the Cable Cuff.

Talking about the Cable Cuff again, it has a couple small downsides. Checking the Modification picture, which is the third one, you’ll see two of them side by side. That is what they look like closed. The one on the left I beveled down the corners with a basic metal file I got in a pawn shop a while back for like $3 (a regular nail file really would take forever and do it far too slow and you’d ruin it) so that when closed completely they won’t create a narrow space that will pinch shaft skin. This mostly mitigates the problem, if you’re clamping on a narrow area of the shaft or with heavy force. Otherwise, the clamp on the right will pinch when clamped down with any real force all the way down. The Cable Cuff also appears slightly larger in the medium configuration which may be an issue for those with smaller girths (which is why we are clamping, typically anyway).

Overall, so far I like the Cable Cuff. The price point leaves both competing for the same market, as they are sold by big box department stores. Home Depot again for the Cable Cuff, Walmart for the Wraptor and both are available online (though I simply had my local Home Depot set them aside so I could do a store pick up). Both operate the same, with a quick release button/lever.

Really, orange is a color I like better than red so…*smirks*

I’ve been using the wraptors for about a year. They seem to work ok. I’ve been wanting to switch to the cuff for the same reasons you described. Even with padding they seem to dig/pinch. It seems that the cuff comes in small, medium, and large? Do you know what size you purchased?

Unlike the Wraptor, which has some similarities in their sizing, the Cable Cuff is pretty obvious. Small is closest to a ring size. Medium is cock size. Large is ankle sized.

I definitely go with medium but I put 4 of each in my order just in case so I’d only make one trip to the Depot. As you can’t know by looking at the pictures. I also went with the plastic one. They seem to sell an extra rugged metal one and I was like “Nope.”

Are you sure ? Never seen a metal cable cuff or even similar

Cable Cuff MEGA Cuff made from high impact ABS and Stainless-Steel MX 0803 - The Home Depot

Pretty sure that one there is made out of metal. I mean…I ain’t buyin’ it but more power to you if it intrigues you. Keep me posted if you pick it up, cap.

I think the stainless reffers only to the screw, plus it’s big enough to clamp your lower leg :)

I honestly didn’t know which size they picked. That size has to be the same as the plastic large in that case. I mean you could make good handcuffs out of the thing. I mean just saying. *chuckles*

And yeah, I figured it was the screw but perhaps the inner sides of the shackle. I’m in Law Enforcement and carry ASP cuffs so I was envisioning something like attached below:

They have steel shackles and a steel frame coated by plastic. I carry them daily.

Nice pink handcuffs for the ladies haha what next

Hey man just because you got arrested doesn’t mean you lose your right to look fabulous! Ahem… Anyway… Damn, you guys can buy these clamps for 4 bucks? I have to pay 12 euros for the object plus 7 for shipping because the hardware stores only sell them online… And even then it’s a wraptor, not a cable cuff.

You can get them on Amazon.com shipped pretty much anywhere.

That is the metal reinforced model. Mine are like $1.69.

I wear mine every October. Breast cancer awareness, screw whoever is detained with em if his feelings are hurt. *smirks*