Reflections and Progress: thoughtfulgold

I save the complex syntax and $5 words for when I’m trying to impress someone on a job interview. When I’ve got a message worth spreading, the easier it is to read the better and clearer the message will be. And man…sometimes I actually do go back to remove some of the big, needless words for some of the stuff I want to convey. Because it simply isn’t required and I don’t have a need to aggrandize myself with flowery speech.

But, that you enjoy reading it is still a compliment. Hopefully I can maintain that. *smiles*

There is a fact of life we miss when we are with our partners. No matter how big the ex-boyfriend was…he is not here now. He is not who she chose. His amazing (probably fictional) penis had no bearing on your relationship and will only have bearing on it if you let it. The insecurity you feel from her giving you an exaggerated account is amusing most of the time to the lady in question but it grows into disdain and eventually becomes another piece of leverage in the factors that control who is leading the relationship.

Because no one takes the lead in the relationship when they aren’t assured of their own value inside of their own mind. If they feel inferior, they are inferior and the human mind will rationalize these things to be true. Not just good things but bad and negative things as well. So don’t let the specter of a man you’re likely to never meet haunt you and the relationship you’re in.

There’s more I have on this topic but this reflection is the most important.

I agree. This is in line with some of the reflections in my thread.

Realistically, how come every single man who comes to this site has the same story? Some ex with the genitalia of a horse has been with their girl. Either 1) the story is grossly exaggerated 2) it is completely false 3) we’ve created phantoms in our head or 4) Jonah Falcon has had sex with every girl in this country.

I think your list goes 1,3, 2, 4. Mainly because it is a pretty well proven (and admitted fact by our token woman, BlackRose) fact that women can’t approximate measurement on a general. I know 2 women that do it well. One is a knitter and seamstress. The other has had sex with a lot of guys and just has a good handle on penises and numbers in general as it so happens.

On the list of things I’ve been called…I’ve been called 10”, coke can, I’ve had women compare me to giant dildos in stores that I know I’m smaller than (especially with this being a few years ago and different stage in PE)…measurement is a thing most women feel then relate. Not approximate numerically and note for later.

Almost every man has that story. I don’t. My first nor second girlfriend told me such a story of a horse hung boyfriend. I was thoroughly convinced of my inadequacy before I met them. I was a victim of #3 before I met a woman and got naked. I didn’t need a woman to say a word. If she’d told me she’d fucked an 8” guy I’d just have crumpled up and never came back to see her again. Because when you are already low on inner strength, like many guys with smaller starting sizes are, it doesn’t take much to destroy your sense of self-worth or sexual value. “Her ex-boyfriend”, as I’ve noted, has absolutely shattered more men than I care to count and that’s just by my observations on this site alone. I had to touch on it, because it can happen to any of us and has already happened to many of us.

I mean my first girl had blown a guy longer and thinner and had fucked a guy thicker than me but I wasn’t actually concerned with that. And the only time I ever had an issue with another man’s size was when a self-proclaimed stud off of Facebook came to meet the girl I was with because one of her friends was dating this douche and they wanted to see how him and me would interact cuz we were both hung. It was immature and puerile to a level that is toxic to remember. There are many ways to use size as a weapon against men. The ghost stallion is just the primary one. Beware any other methods; women are fiendish and inventive.

By the time a woman would tell me “but I’ve fucked much bigger than you” I could have cared less what she said, confidence and numbers were on my side. She was angry that I had torn her because her bravado had told her to demand I ram it in. A personal problem, as I had warned her. But her statement of that was as I suspected, a defense mechanism. Women lash out with the ghost stallion to keep us in our places. It works extremely well. This is why perspective matters and if she ever does say “well my last boyfriend was 3 inches bigger” you just need to remind her “…and where is he now?” Cuz even if she had fucked Jonah Falcon…he ain’t on speed dial and warming her bed right fucking now, is he?

BBF,

I remember your calculation that even if one in 1,000 men has 8x6 has slept with 100 women, that would only make 1 out of ten women to have slept with the ideal horse cock(assuming of course, there is close to same number of men as women). 1 out of ten women won’t be lying. But then, that is based on an assumption that every 8x6 has slept with 100 women, which, as everybody agrees, nobody uses: I am hung like a horse as a pick up line even if we suppose that women will try it for novelty’s sake.

Any man on sites like these should know better. I know that, God forbid, if I hear those cruel and unlikely assertion again, probability and statistics tell me to take it with a grain of salt. The (statistical) Truth About Cock Size Even a 7.5 length is on the 97.7 percentile and 6 girth on the same plane making it really tough for women to encounter one.

But humans don’t only operate on reasons. We have emotions, too. And our penis, or the way we perceive it, unfortunately—even pathetically, is always influenced by our emotions.

This is a good premise. If one characteristic is very important to you, as it is a material basis of the bargain, then, why did the relationship with the big one end? If my size is inadequate for you, and it is important to you that I have a certain size as it is a material element of the bargain( a concept in the law of contracts, meaning, a characteristic is material and substantially important that without the presence of such—no contract would be made or that the mere existence of the charactheristic, most likely suffices to form a contract: just analogize contract forming with relationship) why stay with me or comeback after being let down? If the bigger ex has something you crave and I don’t: why did you break the contract with the guy and having a contract with me? That’s the question I posed after being emasculated and she said: I don’t like your stupid questions. It does not make sense.

No. Not a stupid at all. It is sound reasoning.

I like the premise of “the law of contracts”. I’ve learned something and will put it in my box for future use.

This is very true. I have yet to meet a man who has slept with over 100 women. Usually the high numbers are in the 30’s. There is no real correlation between penis size and number of partners. My most promiscuous friend doesn’t claim significant size at all.

Specter or Scepter? Sorry I couldn’t resist :D

And even if there is correlation, the concept to consider is “causation”. X and Y may be usually associated with each other—but it does not mean X causes Y. You can put any constant a,b,c (penis size, good looks, money, etc. to replace the variables X,Y,Z) and the concepts of correlations and causation remain the same. To say that X caused Y, is to say, had it not been for X, Y would not have occurred and that the mere presence of X would have led to Y.

But not every man with a top on the line unit finds women merely on the basis of his endowment and conversely, some men with lower than 5.5x4.5 are able to sustain relationships and even capable of sleeping around. Thus, mere size(except for hard nosed size queens), is not necessary and sufficient to lead to hooking up with women or maintaining a relationship. I believe in the Gestalt of things. It is not enough for a car to run only because it has gas and the battery is working. Other things have to be involved for it to run.

Correlation, especially so incidental, is never causation. If there is a correlation and it is connected then that is causation in itself in the connection. Assuming that all things that correlate have a common cause is a very common error and I forgot to mention that, very sharp reminder 707tractatus.

A common display of this is that “elderly people eat much more ice cream in the summer” and that “heat related deaths in the elderly spike in the summer.” It’s a life insurance actuary joke, that ice cream kills old people. Even though that correlation, for the hotter a day is the more ice cream is consumed and the more elderly die on that same day, is very strong and obvious it is completely irrelevant.

Yep. The gestalt concept is something that I’ve learned from you.

I knew the concept already. But never the term. That term is succinct and effective to communicate the concept in conversation. I love the word now. It has been adapted.

Tis a fair shot. *chuckles* But I’m a touch more royal than him on principle, regardless. After all, a scepter without a hand is naught but a shiny stick. You are always on top when you remember that.

Today marks the third orgasm I’ve had in 3 days. Edging problems, still ain’t mastered it. Since I’ve already chalked two days as rest days and I’m barely a week into my routine I’m just going to call it and start over. I am slightly worried about my gains that I felt, seemed and looked thicker, but rest is best when you drain yourself. I’m not far enough along in this set to worry and may as well start fresh. I practice what I preach…and prefer edging without PONR for this reason.

Routine restart after a rest 7 days on October 1st.