7 month injury.

So your saying none of this is causing you stress?

Let me try to be more clear, in case you did not hear me before: Mental effects all aspects of your penis erection function. Conscious or unconscious, awake or asleep.

Allow me to explain. I have not had spontaneous night erections for most of my adult life. I kicked porn 3 months ago. For the last month I’ve had multiple erections at night and during the day for no reason at all. Before kicking porn I thought I had severe venous leakage. All my reading indicated this. I was set to try invasive surgery on my penis. I had to realize that the biggest hurdle to me getting hard was my mind. Porn was part but…how I saw me was a much larger part.

Anxiety that I used to feel about my performance, size, anything is slowly disappearing. Each day I experience new progress. My subconscious slowly unloading all of the inadequacy and physical anxiety that I used to have about myself. I grew up a really skinny, sickly and small, runt kind of kid. I’m not that kid anymore. And my health, sexual and otherwise, has improved simply because my image of myself mentally is better than it ever has been. I speak upon this at length, regularly in my Reflections log. My PE journey has been about curve correction and EQ gains just as much as about any size increases I was able to obtain. It is no coincidence that all of my best progress in any of those categories happens most when I’m at my most positive. As someone who has suffered from depression for many years I can tell it when I see it. I had to understand it because I would never have overcome all of the physical issues I dealt with until I dealt with my mind first.

If you want to believe that your anxiety cannot affect you while you sleep then that’s fine. But I can tell you they wouldn’t sell anxiety medicine so well if sleeping made it go away. It is a proven fact that anxiety can affect your sleep, your health an adverse ways seemingly for no reason at all. I know because I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and have taken medication. The most sickly people and injury-prone people I have met, on this forum and otherwise, have all suffered from anxiety and depression on some level. I can tell you, until you are more positive and you adapt the mindset that you will overcome whatever is wrong with you, that you likely will see no progress. The body is a toy of the mind and the mind ultimately guides the body and all paths it takes. I learned this the hard way.

I cannot make you believe me. I will not argue. I have nothing to gain by sharing this with you. I am not paid to be a moderator here. I just want for you to be able to recover. To do that you have to decide to take the first steps on your own. All I can do is wish you the absolute best of luck. You decide what happens from here.

Thanks for your reply…

I know that it could be mental and my stress doesn’t help but that doesn’t explain the pain when I massage the bottom of my penis. It feels rougher than usual and the size I have lost is not even a joke anymore. Literally feels like I have nothing left.

I am not as stressed as I used to be since for the last month I have not had a girlfriend so I haven’t needed to bother worrying. Nothing has changed though.

What could this be on my CS if it isn’t scar tissue?

You need a qualified professional to answer your last question.

You are as stressed as you can possibly be. You are here, posting rapidly, instead of trying to get your mind into a better place.

You can pick apart what I say. That is up to you. You can self diagnose until you are tired. But…none of those will solve your problem. None of us here can solve your problem.

I can’t tell you what you see or feel with your penis. I’m not there with you nor am I a doctor. You’ve asked this question a dozen times. None of us on Thunder’s can answer it. We are not you and have no access to your penis nor the equipment and knowledge to diagnose you.

Now, you can either look into ways you can battle the obvious stress and anxiety this is causing you.

Or you can bump this thread tomorrow and the next day, hoping for someone to say what you want to hear.

These are your options now. And I can’t help you anymore than saying that.

Man I’m sorry you’re in so much turmoil right now. I know it’s frustrating.

On the positive side, the body can heal. 7months is a long time but some things take longer to heal. What you describe sounds like peyronies disease but no one here can really diagnose you over the internet.

Personally I’d be massaging daily to encourage bloodflow. Maybe looking into fish oil, tumeric, or other antiinflammatory vitamins.

Keep your hope alive. For now you should focus on your mental wellbeing. Seek out a councelor if you need someone to talk to. There’s no shame in that at all. Try to rest your mind. Let the burden off. You can only do so much.

I am trying DMSO + Iodine as people have suggested. It’s supposed to help with scar tissue / plaque build up. Haven’t had much in the way of results so far but it’s only been 2 weeks.

Hoping this will improve blood flow again but I’m not sure how…

If you are set on believing nothing will work, nothing will. Negativity offers no progress.

Additionally, and I say this full well accepting physical trauma as the root cause, there is a lot of mental involvement in erections.

I’m not saying you don’t gave a physical issue. I’m just saying panic, stress and anxiety are all huuuge erection killers.

Just so people understand, I think the harm in telling someone with an injury that they don’t have one is that it’s like they’re trivializing what the person is going through.

As far as dealing with negative feelings surrounding an injury, it can be challenging and it can take time, but when people deny that the injury exists it actually makes it harder to deal with. It makes it harder to gain a sense of acceptance and closure, and to determine how to move forward and cope in a positive way. People who stay in denial don’t do as well as the ones who come to terms with it and move forward.

It makes it a lot harder to cope healthily with a challenging situation when someone can’t even find people who will acknowledge it. Talk about a way to really drive someone crazy. Even worse, what if the person just gives in and starts taking some prescription meds. Psychiatrists are happy to prescribe stuff for anxiety and depression pretty quickly nowadays. A healthy person gets injured, no one listens to them, they are unable to come to terms and cope, they end up going on say Xanax and Prozac, somewhere along the line forgetting what normal sexual functioning was like before the injury because it’s been so long, finally slipping into denial and starting to think there really is something wrong with them. Think of the harm done in that kind of scenario.

Yeah. I hope you don’t hear me as downplaying the injury OP. It’s just that you have to take care of yourself mentally too. You sound in despair, understandably. I just hope you can accept where you are at but also hold hope for the future. I suggested counselling because talking to someone about the affect your injury has had on you would probably be relieving.

If you need to vent feel free to.

I am in despair, as you can imagine. I basically have hardly any feeling in my dick now and it hasn’t gotten any better over the last 7 months.
I’ve tried everything I’ve been told to do: reverse kegels, cardio, improve my diet, rest, sleep well, stress less, supplements, viagra, cialis and now I’m using DMSO and Iodine.

Honestly, I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy, I’m in my 20’s and it’s possible my sex life is practically over, or will be sh*** anyway due to my loss of size…

Martin

I just made a bit of research regarding the theory that it might be Peyronies (IPP). There is an interesting difference between the English and the German Wikipedia article.

The English version only mentions mechanical stress or injuries as potential source for IPP. The German version mentions in addition inflammation by bacteria or virus as possible source, as most patients have IPP only once in their life and seem to become immune. Unfortunately, both version do not mention scientific sources :-( And if it’s really IPP be aware that even for MD’s this is a complicated disease to treat.

Conclusion: it is not proven that PE effectively is the source of your problem. Parallelism in time is not always a sufficient proof for root-cause links!

At least, I learned that there seems to be two encouraging possibilities for treatment which is a new microsurgery technique for removing plaque and replacing it by collagen.

And then there seems to be a ‘single-symtom’ treatment against the curve which is enzyme-based (Xiaflex/Xiapex).


This at least could be some information to talk about with the urologist. Unknowing how the British medical system works I just think you should put more pressure to whoever can give you the ticket for the visit to the specialiast. Because your subjective level of suffering is very high, without any doubt. And doctors are there to help, not to say “wait a little”.

This is a heavy burden to carry, but as others said the mindset is important. If you believe that recovery is possible you will help yourself by enhancing the chance that it will happen.

Please don’t give yourself up!

Richard65

Thanks for the reply Richard.

I am hoping it is not Peyronies as I do not have a bend, maybe slight (10%) to the left but then I guess the scar tissue hasn’t healed fully yet so I don’t know for a fact that it isn’t Peyronies.

Can you have Peyronies and have no bend?

All I know is that I have lost size, flaccid and erect, have had no morning wood, no spontaneous erections for 7 months and even with Viagra I cannot have sex anywhere near like before…

Not sure what else to do, I’ve been to hell and back. Unemployed, no girlfriend now, no self esteem, just waiting around…

Yeah? I asked you questions many times it seemed like you did not even read my posts. What does good diet mean to you (i.e.what did you eat before , what did you eat when you decided to change, what do you eat now?) ? Did you ever get blood work done? Do you get sunlight? Are you overweight? etc..