I've cured my premature ejaculation

Thanks KG. That is a very good thread to subscribe to. It really makes me reconsider a whole lot of things.

Hey Formula, give it a while to wear off(the side effects). I have been taking Zoloft for over a month now and the side effects are all gone.

Formula, I wish you well and I hope it works for you, HOWEVER; I think that a guy who has hardly any sex drive and a problem with maintaining an erection needs Paxil like a hole in the head. I think the Dostinex (cabergoline) is a better bet. On the other hand, your problem is a complete mystery, so who knows what might work. Again, good luck.

Well that’s what I was kind of thinking myself. The only reason I was going to try the Paxil was to try and last a bit longer. Like I said earlier I’m afraid the Paxil will interfere with my ability to get an erection even when I’m taking the Cialis along with the Levitra. The problem with the cabergoline was that I was having tremendous difficulty getting an erection even while watching porn to edge. So right now I’m very confused and don’t know what to do. Go back on the cabergoline and see if things get better or stay on the Paxil and risk totally killing my erections. The third choice would be to not take either one and just stay where I’m at now only lasting 30 seconds or so during sex.

Suggestions?

If I am going to stop the Paxil I don’t need to take it tomorrow. Since I’ve only taken it two days I’m not too deep into it to stop immediately. Plus it’s generic so it only cost me about $12 so it’s no big loss.

I hate to give any advice because I really don’t know what to think about your situation, but I would recommend that whatever you try, you give it a long enough chance to work to actually see what it does. Even if Paxil doesn’t work for you, you can still learn from the experience. Did it make you last longer, erections better or worse, general mental health, sex drive, etc. So I would say stay on it, and at least know what it does to you before you quit. If you quit now, you will still wonder if SSRI’s could help. The same with cabergoline. Did you give it a fair chance to work? I don’t think it is supposed to have a negative effect on erections is it? So maybe the symptom you noticed was caused by something else. You are really treating yourself like a science experiment, so I recommend you take a scientific approach to it.

I didn’t think it was supposed to either but I sure did notice a difference while I was on it and then a reversal when I quit it. But I think I will give it another shot and maybe the Paxil too. You’re right about the science experiment thing too. I would gladly become some doctor’s guinea pig to try and come up with something to fix this problem.

UPDATE:

Okay fellas here goes. Been taking Zoloft for about six weeks now. The doc also gave me a sample pack of Cialis. Oh man last night me and the wifey got busy and I swear I hit it hard non stop for at least 20 min. Then slowed down for about 2min and then hit it hard again for about another 10 min. All in all we fucked for about 50 min. The longest by far Ive ever did this. It was scary because I ran out of breath damn near had an asthma attack. Also when I felt like coming, I held back and at one point I even came a little bit but was still able to hold back a full orgasm and keep pounding away. She said this was it for the week. I hope not cause the cialis is still in my system. It got to get out some way,some how and masturbating its out of the question.

iwillbbigger - good for you, sounds like you got a 100% return on investment.

My news- In a previous post, I had tried dosing 5-6 hrs prior to sex, and that worked pretty good.

I spent some time re-reading Paxil related stuff on the medical sites, and noted the dosage for on-demand Paxil dosing prior to sex was 20mg (I’m taking 10mg). So, as an experiment, I upped my dose to 20mg about 6 hrs prior to sex. I also nipped a bit of a Viagra tablet (probably about 15-20mg, I never use more than that) later on.

Well that was it. I was fucking bullet-proof, could have gone for hours.

When I finally came, it was totally by choice, and it took some doing to get there. All in all, after all the foreplay and oral (20 mins or so), I hit it hard for at least 40 to 45 mins. - and I mean hard, full-bore, non-stop, should-have-worn-a-helmet-and-eye-protection type fucking.

Was great, I was like a machine. Have never fucked that intensely for that long. It was like how you fuck as your coming, that ‘fuck with abandon’ type feeling, but on and on…

I have to say a big “Thank You” to the King_G man. This thread was a real eye-opener for me.

I probably will find out tonight what effect, if any, the Paxil has on my sex life. I’m taking 20mg. So far there is no change when I edge. I’m just as sensitive as before I started taking it.

I cannot say how annoyed I am by my premature ejaculation.

In the past two months I had sex with three girls and with all of them I came like really quickly when I started to penetrate. Say after 1 minute.

Two said:”It doesn’t matter.” Yeah, right. They are friendly. But of course they wanted to go on. Which girl wouldn’t want to. One I had sex with a few days ago was honest. “Oh, no. Shit. That’s unfair.” We had sex in the morning and again I came very fast. I tried again, but my dick didn’t get hard 100%, so that wasn’t great either. We had to stop.

Of course it didn’t help that I had sex with them for the first time and didn’t know them that well. Plus my fears of a condom breaking or something similar and them getting pregnant.

I’ve tried regular kegeling and acupuncture. Both didn’t help. I’m really tempted to start with SSRIs. However, since I have a regular stomach pain I don’t want to have even more as a side effect. But your experience King G sounds very good.

I still believe that there must be a natural way to achieve the same result as with the SSRIs, of course it would take longer but without the side effects.

Meditation, Chi Kung, Ayurveda. Has anyone got experience in this regard?

Congrats! Out of curiosity, how did the woman like receiving such a full-on rutting for nearly one hour straight? When I go that long, it’s usually at a slower pace; at least, I’ll mix the paces up. It strikes me that 45 minutes of jack hammer pounding might be too much for a lot of women. Still, I’m glad you enjoyed it! :D

There are natural ways. The best, I suspect, is edging—regularly practicing the discipline of holding off your ejaculation. Some guys also swear by the method of squeezing back the ejaculation right before the point of no return, but I’ve never had any success with this method. What has helped me a lot is slowing down a lot during coitus. This is really part of “edging,” when I’m having sex with a woman. I would go really slow at first, as slow as necessary to avoid ejaculating. The first five or ten minutes of this are the hardest; the urge to ejaculate is intense. But after ten or fifteen minutes or so, this urge subsides; then, I can often pick up the pace a bit. After awhile, the urge to ejaculate will return, so, if I want to keep going, I slow down again. Etc.

But this method is far from perfect. First, you cannot be anxious at all. For this reason, for me, it works better when I’m with someone I’ve been sleeping with for some time. It’s not a great first fuck technique. Second, though some women like this slow approach, in my experience, most women like a more aggressive fucking. I was never able to last long at speed, unless I was drinking.

The Paxil does work. I’ve tried it too, at 10 mg. I also suffer from mild anxiety, and this low dose of Paxil has worked wonders for that too! Like King G, I had some side effects during the first week or so. But after that, nothing.

I suspect that the “natural” techniques are best for guys who are “average” in terms of how long they can last but who want to be able to last longer. If you really struggle with ejaculating far too early, then it’s possible that a more aggressive approach is necessary.

You can try the edging and the slow approach for awhile. But you’d have to give it several months. If that doesn’t work, try the Paxil. As Nietzsche said, “Live life as an experiment.”

Boy, I wish I had sex with three different girls in the past two months! Well done. :)

>>how did the woman like receiving such a full-on rutting for nearly one hour straight

Well, I did switch positions quite often, so it wasnt like I was pounding her in missionary for that long. And she had to piss twice, so that broke it up. I did vary depth and angle and such, but otherwise I was like a rabid wolf. Forgot, I did visit the ‘downstairs apartment’, and for that I went very slow and easy. Even that was different, no worry of going critical, and usually that’s pretty intense for me.

Was cool not to have to ease back into that slow type thing, the way you do when you’re about to go nuclear (and you’re hoping she thinks you’re just varying your technique…)

By all appearances, she enjoyed it. Didnt have to add lube except for the trip downstairs. We were both totally out of breath and spent at the end. I thought I was going to throw up.

Darktrick you have hit the exact point I was trying to make. When I came it was by choice and I had to work hard to do this. If I didn’t, I could have kept going.

I know that when I first joined thunders I joined for the purpose of trying to enlarge my dick and that is coming slowly but surely, but I got to admit that this thread here is probably the single most important thread if not it should be in the top five of threads. Thanks KG as well for this eye opener.

Also I have to admit as well that taking the Zoloft 10mg has helped me to be a little calmer. The side effects are no more and it has been working really well. As Darktrick noted there were breaks in between while fucking but what happens Motivated is that you have so much control and when you feel like you want to come you cant do it. Its like something is telling you to don’t come and you don’t come. And like I said before even when I did come a little bit, I was still able to hold back the full load and go pounding away for another 20 min at least.