Nocturnal erections versus arousal erections

I have noticed something recently, and not entirely sure what is going on.

I have noticed that my nocturnal erections and morning wood are really strong, but my arousal erections are so-so. There have been a few times recently where I have woke up to a raging, near stretching myself erection. But when my wife and I have sex, my erections do not feel as rigid and full as the morning erections.

I originally thought that my estrogen levels may have something to do with it (on TRT, and my last blood work showed an increased E level, so they are working on that). Since they increased my anti-estrogen meds, my erections are better. Also, I thought diet may have something to do with it. I was eating keto/primal and shed 20 pounds, but when eating that way my erections were nearly non-existent. Now that I have added in some more carbs to my diet and training, my erections are better. Not sure if it is a combination of the E/carbs, or one or the other.

But, regardless, my night erections against my sex erections are much different. Overnight last night I woke up with an erection so full that it almost hurt. I thought about waking up my wife right then and putting it to use!

Any thoughts on why this is? Fatigue from the day? Other blood flow issues I should be concerned about?

It sounds like the hardware is working since you are getting rigid night wood.

Erectile Dysfunction: Psychological Causes
https://www.web md.com/erectile … ological-causes

— Psychological factors are responsible for about 10%-20% of all cases of erectile dysfunction, or ED. It is often a secondary reaction to an underlying physical cause. In some cases, the psychological effects of ED may stem from childhood abuse or sexual trauma. However, the most common psychological causes of ED include:

— Stress : Stress can be job-related, money-related, or the result of marital problems, among other factors.

— Anxiety : Once a man experiences ED, he may become overly worried that the problem will happen again. This can lead to "performance anxiety," or a fear of sexual failure, and consistently lead to ED.

— Guilt: A man may feel guilty that he is not satisfying his partner.

— Depression : A common cause of ED, depression affects a person physically and psychologically. Depression can cause ED even when a man is completely comfortable in sexual situations. Drugs used to treat depression may also cause ED.

— Low self-esteem: This can be due to prior episodes of ED (thus a feeling of inadequacy) or can be the result of other issues unrelated to sexual performance.
Indifference: This may come as a result of age and a subsequent loss of interest in sex, be the result of medications or stemming from problems in a couple’s relationship.

<more at link>

The only thing psychological I can think of is just the fact that she cannot orgasm from penetration alone. But, I know that. I don’t think it is me or my size. I think it is just her (mid 30’s, 3 kids, etc). Deep down there may be something to it, but on the norm, I wouldn’t think that is really a barrier to me.

Just let go of the “cannot orgasm from penetration alone” thing.

Not every woman is physically built to be able cum from penetration.

There is scientific research to back this up. I will try to dig up a thread I started on that research. Will post link here when I find it.

Ok here it is:

Vaginal Orgasms: Not every woman is anatomically built for them

Hey guys, if I’m getting a boner while sleeping and I have to piss really bad after getting up, does it count as a sleep boner or not?

Also if my boner, after taking a piss, goes down in say 30 to 45 second to a 20% hard or say nearly totally limp, what does that mean?

I also do not wake up with a boner. Like never. I’m getting some rigid ones since 2 days but I gotta piss when I get up. So I’m wondering if that is a genuine nocturnal erection or just one caused be the need to piss(if there exists one like that).

I’m in the same boat. Even when I can’t get it up while awake, I’ll usually wake up erect. That tells me you’re probably like me, with psychological ED. Erections are a largely unconscious mechanism, and thus are more reliable when you’re not trying to get one. The most likely culprits are performance anxiety or stress. You may want to look at your situation, analyze your routine, and take some time to help yourself de-stress and relax. If that doesn’t help your arousal wood, a sex therapist may not be a bad idea to help you dig deeper into the cause. While it’s true that testosterone levels are highest in the morning, I just don’t think that is the source of your problem.