Premature ejaculation even while sleeping. Thoughts?

I am a self-diagnosed premature ejaculator and have been my whole life. Even when I dream about sex, I ejaculate before I can even penetrate. I wanted to discuss it more in detail today to possibly find some answers for my problem.

This morning, I awoke at 5 am, and returned to sleep, only to realize I was in a lucid dream. I decided I was going to have sex with my girlfriend in the dream, and I stimulated myself to erection and tried to penetrate her, but I ejaculated instead. In real life, our sexual sessions are very short in duration and leave us both wanting more.

With my premature ejaculation likely arising from psychological issues, I’m not interested in edging. I have tried several mental exercises in the past with limited success. What can be said or done that could possibly help me?

Same here. It’s really pathetic, if you ask me. I’m really interested in what people have to say about premature ejaculation based on psychological reasons. :)

Psychological reasons there really isn’t much to say other then “get over it” or “don’t think about it at all”. Much easier said than done. The most common response would be to not think about it, but the more you try to not think about it the more you do.

Sometimes with a new girl I may get a little anxious and might have difficulty getting it up. But when your around them or making out your hard as a rock the whole time till it comes down to it. That’s because your mind is running wild thinking whats gonna happen, what if, and then you psych yourself out. An easy way to think less would maybe be loosen up and have a few cocktails before hand. Once you get over that first time you usually never have the problem again or its less and less if its a psychological problem and you continuously build up your confidence till you don’t even remember ever having that issue.

So my little suggestion which isn’t a fix is to maybe have a drink or two or three before hand and enjoy the experience. Enjoy her and don’t worry if shes enjoying it or if you’re going to cum too fast, Because if you’re worrying about cumming too fast, you will most likely cum to fast. Try a little something to relax yourself and just know that your gonna fuck her brains out. Believing you can do something is the first step. That dream just proves your constant thought on the subject or over thinking it. It must be a worry of yours that you need to just let fly out the window.

You know what the worst part is?
That anxiety over coming too fast haves not one, but two negative effects - getting softer and coming too fast.

hung21, your advice is good, too bad it’s a vicious circle. Failure just leads to more failure. Alcohol for the next 3-4 “sessions” could help (or until confidence is up), but I guess I’m looking for a different approach.

Stop thrusting, give the girl oral or some finger magic. Then go back to thrusting once you have calmed down. Rinse and repeat. This has always worked for me. If I felt like busting my nut before I even got penetration then I would try my darndest to give the girl an orgasm with oral or fingers then pop my dick in and cum along with her.

Sometimes I will ejaculate too fast. For me it always happens if I don’t feel in control of the situation. If its awkward or tense or I’m just not comfortable, it happens every time. So for me the thing is to have sex on my own terms and I can last an hour or more if I want to. Very often I’ll feel close to coming for the first five minutes but if I last past that window, I can hold off for a good long time.

Your situation is probably unique but hope that helps.

Cant you keep an erection after ejaculating ? I mean keep on pounding your girl after you come.

What is your refractory period and how long do you last on your repeat try?