With regard to the Aneros, and prostate stimulation, there are guys who just aren’t comfortable with something up their ass. I am, at this stage of my life, pretty damned open-minded and uninhibited, and hedonistic enough to try anything I judge objectively to be safe, in my quest for higher highs. I am a definite proponent of what many call tantric sex, and of edging, and I agree that edging alone is not the same thing. The measure is, after a man has come back to earth after a session of erotic arousal and ecstasy, is he refreshed, or are his genitals still congested? When I masturbate, and when I have sex, with foreplay, oral, and fucking, I strive to take my time and to enjoy the journey. Yes, I concentrate on my partner, as her (or his) excitement and arousal, and her (his) responses to that arousal, are exciting to me and spur me on to a higher level, generally causing feelings in my loins at the root of my cock which add to my own arousal. However, at the same time I do pay some subconscious attention to my breathing, to contractions in my bulbocavernosus muscle, to precum working it’s way up my urethra and out the slit - I am not a spectator exactly, but in a measure I become somewhat out-of-body, directing the activities of my anatomy. I visualize the congestion and pleasure - the energy - the chi - in my groin and genitals, and consciously “pump” it back to my spinal cord, then upward to my heart and brain. This process continues throughout my session, which can sometimes go on for 4 or more hours, although generally about an 90 minutes or so, and my goal is to diffuse this energy, which does indeed become an “orgasm,” throughout my body. Although I do not always ejaculate, fluids do issue from my urethra. I have friends who swear by the Aneros, and I have tried direct stimulation of my prostate during sex and masturbation, even when I am experiencing an orgasmic plateau, and it adds nothing, although of course my prostate is involved in orgasm (both with and without ejaculation). It is not that my anus is dead, as I very much enjoy teasing, touching, rimming, and gentle probing digital or lingual stimulation of my hole, but it’s erogenous area does not extend inward beyond the sphincters.
I disagree with tantric mentors who claim preservation of semen is the key to success. I can ejaculate after a session of prolonged orgasm and still feel refreshed. Likewise I can orgasm without unloading and never get the “blue balls.” After one ejaculation, I can go for another, and the quantity and quality of the load is determined to the amount of time and erotic energy put into the journey. I also work hard to maintain my general, cardiovascular, and mental health, and find sex very compatible with a healthy lifestyle.
- Rip