Alright my man, I think I got to page 7 and I’ve read enough! It’s making me go crazy, lol. Where do I start.Your a man, and you have needs. She is comfortable now, and no longer has competition anxiety. You’ve given her no sign that if she doesn’t get her shit together, you will move on. So what does she have to fear? She’s smart, she gives you a nice BJ once a month to keep you on hold. Just enough to not worry about you moving on. She’s manipulative, and makes you feel as if being a man in itself is wrong.
Dude, you’ve done the works. Massages, deep talks, patience (very respectable amounts), lingerie and sweet gifts. And still, not only does she keep you in HER frame, she feels even more content with knowing your tied to her string.
Look man, women are designed by nature to want and find the best man they can get. That’s hypergamy. I saw a comment on one of the pages where another member said something along the lines of, “ya it’s a trip, whenever I seem to be working on myself and becoming better all of a sudden the panties drop”. Ya go figure. She needs to do what she can to keep that valued man in her life. Are you starting to understand what I’m saying?
You have every right, every fucking right, to want to have a partner that is sexually motivated and present with you. You are a man. And a healthy man will always want and need sex. It’s biological. We should always choose a partner that understands and respects this.
The moment they feel the, “kick rocks” coming. As long as she truly respects you as a man, and she believes you are higher than her on the sexual market, she will do anything to keep you with her, which involves taking care of your needs. Plus, they need this. They need to feel like they gotta keep their man impressed.
Ever heard stories about how a woman will swallow a mans load and let him fuck her in the ass, but with another man she decides when he can get some basic missionary sex? They are perceived to be at different levels of the sexual market value totem pole.
Look, if you take care of yourself and your healthy, you’ll be in your prime even up to 45-50. Women on the other hand, start to lose their prime much faster. Especially when it comes to being able to have and birth children. They instinctively fight to not have their man choose a younger and healthier woman than them. That’s their biggest threat. But in order for this to happen, again, she needs to respect you and perceive you as a high valued man.
I suggest truly working on yourself, because that’s what should come first anyways. I’d bet she’d drop her panties much faster for you if you started becoming more fit and active, more successful with your career, and of more value overall, than buying her things left and right, and giving her the oil massages. Treat her like a super star, and she’ll treat you like a fan.
Once she has respected you and has proven her value to you as a man, well then sure reminding her how much she means to you is of course necessary. But there’s a time and place.
Look up on YouTube, “holding frame” or “keeping frame”.
I suggest reading the book, “the unplugged alpha”. I think this book will change you for the better, brother. It may just be what you need.
By the way, you sound like a good fucking man. I truly respect the effort you are putting in. You deserve a good partner.
+1 - this nails it IMO.
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