The "No SEX" Ordeal In Long-term Relationships

Our earth’s soil does not have the elements and nutrients it once had, so our food is now naturally deficient. I read that like 20 years ago when people were arguing “why take zinc, its in the food we grow, raise and collect!” Not like it used to be before the planet became over-farmed and erosion is depleting our soils daily now. I wish we didn’t need multivitamins. But vitamin supplementation is thing that we participate in because the scientists learned our soils do not support the elemental needs of the human body anymore and to make our bodies work, we need supplementation.

This is how I learned it and have not looked for updates or current studies. But, I’m sure this fact is still a fact. Farmers aren’t spraying zinc on their crops and soil as far as I know…

*** NEWS FLASH ***
Just talked with her thyroid doctor and he prescribed her some tests, including all of the female hormones. He too agrees that the lack of libido may be due to lowered levels of female hormones. I explained him my story with the NoSex approach, the supplementary diet I want to incorporate and the bits and pieces to my situation. I am on the right track.
However, he too thinks that she is way early into her menopause, which can be caused from hormonal dis balance. So, we would commit the following tests:
LH
FSH
Prolactin
Estrodiol
Testosterone
Androstendione
17-hydroxy-progesterone
DHEAS
—-
TSH
FT4
FT3
Ca
Mg
P
D3
B12
Albumin
Creatinine
Blood Sugar
ASAT / ALAT
Lipid profile

Which, according yo my expertise in biology, may suggest that problems are purely physiological, not psychosomatic. I honestly believe it would turn out to be this way. ю
I would wait until the doctor reevaluates her thyroid hormone therapy and then add the sex supplementary stack into her dietary intake.

However…

I started to feel arousal levels build up, leading to blue balls syndrome almost every day. Not to be mistaken by hydrocele or varicocele, though, since they are a purely medical condition, which needs surgery ASAP. I only tend to get ball swelling with enough daily arousal, which now happens out of thin air. I am almost constantly erect.

And I actually found the root cause of many of our problems - the diametrical opposition between me, being an almost uncontrollable sex beast, with my desires to tie, slap, and fuck like a beast, and her ultimate goal of having a calm, loving partner, who is above the primal instinct of sex. Which is nice. Thanks to the marvelous discovery of the Bourbon whiskey. :D

flowsky
In India, there are a large number of devout abstinence. There are also some in China.

Some of these people simply believe that asexual life can make the body healthier and the soul sublimated.

But there are a small number of people who are deliberately abstinence, and I am one of them. I haven’t had an orgasm in months. My abstinence doesn’t mean I don’t have sex. My wife usually serves me every ten days. She will bring me to the edge of orgasm and ruined orgasm.

Therefore, my abstinence itself is a kind of enjoyment. I like this way.

No, you got everything wrong. Read the whole thread again

Hey, flowsky.

I was in somewhat the same situation at one point. What really struck me was your description of her symptoms, and the very extreme thought processes.

My wife had the exact same issues, medically.. She takes a pretty inclusive cocktail of vitamins now, in addition to - Prescribed medical grade testosterone supplements. Her estrogen levels were through the roof.. As a result of a failing/inactive thyroid.

I’m not gonna play doctor and say what she should take, nor armchair diagnose; but hopefully, the testing you mentioned reveals something none of us could know, and the treatment is straightforward. I can say, since the prescribed hormone treatments, my wife is a different woman. Entirely. Should things reveal themselves to you, as the same for my wife and I, there is plenty of hope my friend.

I genuinely hope the best for you both.

Thanks for the input. Does the testosterone treatment managed to wake her libido up? And what do you mean by entirely different woman? Please elaborate.

Meanwhile, we just had an open talk about her insecurities, excluding sex whatsoever as a topic for discussion. She agreed that sometime in the future she may see a psychologist and talk through the symptoms and her feelings.

All I know is that she loves me. I don’t know whether she is mad about me, or simply loving me for the fact that I tolerate her emotional swings. I hope our endocrinologist could figure the problem and resolve it so we could have a positive outcome.

At a point in our time together, she lost drive for everything. No more outgoing, no humor, no love for life, seemingly. Just there. It came out of the blue.. (I know, she sounds depressed.. Tried that, so did the doctor) Everything became, what seemed, labored. Like she quit being herself and became what she thought people expected, dying inside, because herself was gone. She was trying to compensate and it was wrecking her mind. We had allot of conversations about how she felt. Even life in general. Our emotional connection before this, is what I think enabled us during and strengthened it all, after.

Her thyroid indeed gave up. With the hormone treatments, prescribed and specific, she has allot of that back. She isn’t taking any anti depressants or anything. A medical grade topical and pill once a day, along with some vitamins, is all I will say.

Her drive has been back for a couple years now, since. Sometimes, even the rabbit I am, she beats me. Her overall well being is what really makes her, her; and she has everything again. Better than before. Confidence, positivity, esteem, self assured, and steadfast, the whole package. Out of my league, now, really 🤣

Keep hanging on, my friend.

Let’s hope that with the proper medical knowledge she would be back

Yes, that. And watch the netflix special with Gwyneth Paltrow about sex. There’s a couple who see a sex therapist and learn they have different lovemaking “styles”. It’s pretty interesting. You might find the key to igniting your girl’s passion.

Okay, my girl seems to have been going through some personal revelation moments. We managed to get some good time talking, sharing her problems and actually telling me “if I ain’t giving you happiness, feel free to leave me and pursue your happy moments”

I felt miserable. It’s like she is some kind of a hostage.

Nevertheless, we managed to pinpoint the exact date and time when everything broke - when we decided to leave the large city in favor of the calmness and comfort of the small town, which may be the pivot point in the NoSex ordeal

Hey Flowsky,
Pretty hard time your going through, I feel you.
I was married for 15 years and decided to move on 2 years ago for different reasons. Maybe if you do leave, she will change for the better and maybe will come back as different woman?

It looks like your on the edge of a cliff, is jumping staying with her or leaving?

Anyway you seam like a good guy, wish you all the best.

You got diales right down to the bare truth, mate.

Life is too short. Just contiune your life. I left my last gf becouse that 6 months was pain for me. I didint sleep well and stress alltime. We tried speak but its not helping little beter times and then again same problem. When I left her I started sleep again well and I found peace in my heart no matter I am alone now.

Damn guys…

Same for me almost 3 years of relationship.

The first months where good, we had sex multiple times a day, it was rough she was acting like a nympho.

But since 2 years we have sex less and less often.

At the beginning twice a week, then once a week, once a month, and finaly nothing. (not even oral)

She hug me everydays and cry if i talk about sex.

She does not stop saying that I am beautiful, I don’t understand anything anymore, I totally gave up trying with her.

I lose confidence with other girls, I feel like nothing could turn her on, she told me that she even tries on her own but can’t do it, she is afraid of getting frigid.

I want sex everyday if i could i would fuck the whole earth, but the only thing i can fuck is my hand.

I just wanted to complain thanks for reading me, I hope life will change this situation.

I feel for you, man!
Go check her thyroid and overal female hormone levels, since you may be dealing wirh a sort of hormonal disbalance.