The "No SEX" Ordeal In Long-term Relationships

Same here. Been separated for almost 6 months now. Her mother with held affection when she was growing up. I had 4 psychologists tell me it was a form of abuse but she shouted through tears that there was nothing wrong with her.

I left the house in tears got drunk and fell backwards hitting my head on a brick wall and was unconscious. When I came to there was blood everywhere and I called an ambulance.

I ended up in a mental hospital where I realised she and the kids were bullying me hence my drinking.

As I could of died hitting the wall I chose to leave.

No new partners at the moment due to covid.

SB

you shouldn’t have gone through that. Be an honorable Knight. Men have been under siege for a long time already. We live in a toxic low class ignorant world where Gentlemen and Knights barely exists anymore. And because of those low class savages that abuse women or mistreat them, we all pay the price. But not anymore. We either get pussy the right way, or I walk out. No time for that drama. Life is too short to be dealing with that. Now if I find the right partner, perfect, but I will give priority to that.

It seems to be the cliche to say “ah sex is not everything in a relationship” Fuck yeah it is. Tell that to all those guys horny like a horse trapped in a relationship without pussy watching porn hiding from her torturing themselves every day looking desperate around to any woman walking down the street. It is a horrific traumatizing situation.

The only way I will marry again is with a nympho freak that encourages me to keep growing my dick beyond biblical proportions.

Preach @igigi!

So, sexting does work, as my spouse is on a two-day streak of some hand rubbing through my underwear, enjoying the morning wood I get every day. Limiting primal arousal demands to zero and acting on her brains really do yield some results. However, I noticed some ball swelling due to not masturbating or having sex, plus finding a plenty of stimuli around me.

Nevertheless, intelligent sexting seems to be a viable option for getting my wife know that I still want her, despite declaring the “NoSex” policy.

I would do the exact opposite. I would withdraw all my attention except for interactions that lead to sex.

Done that to no success. Every time I push, she rejects. So I am now embracing the “Siege of Stalingrad” technique. It is working.
I may add some licking into the equation, but going down on her, in my perspective, is sex, which is in contrast with my NoSex policy.
I would keep you posted.

This is a small thing, something most people here will say its not gonna do anything to help, but one thing that works wonders is this, and its simple:

With both of your clothes on, hug your wife, really embrace her closely, in the kitchen for no less than 30 seconds. Random, anytime of the day. Its the hug in a place that has nothing to do with sex, like the bedroom, or in the living room (in case the couch is a favorite hook up spot), those places are places where sex and hooking up can happen. But just randomly, standing in the kitchen, hug her. And if she starts to let you go, just keep holding her. Unless of course she’s pushing away from you violently and demanding to be free. But if she truly loves you, and you love her, this hug will be comfortable and rekindling. If my wife is kind of all over the place and seems irritated, the 30 second hug works major wonders!

I know it sounds cheesy, but trust me! Its contact like this that drives up intimacy and lets you both know, and remember, what bodily contact feels like and how important it is to not just you and your relationship, but to being a human fucking being!!!!

No sex equals no relationship. What’s the worse that can happen, she leaves, your already in a sexless relationship.

I don’t understand guys doing this. I’ve had to remind my wife more then a few times where the door is.

Trust me I’m 44 been in a relationship for the last 13 years with kids.

Our lives are busy but we still find time at least once a week for sex.

My advice is simple calmly let your wife know that you need sex regularly and also let her know that a sexless marriage will eventually

End in separation. Make sure she acknowledges this statement and give it a time frame.

At 29 years old you have a chance to find a more compatible partner.

I was 29 when I met my current wife and I knew we were sexually compatible. But that came with experience from a lot of dysfunctional girlfriends.

Unfortunately some women are broken.

igigi, I really do appreciate a lot of the things you say, but this one of them I really do love to hear!!

I held the door open to my dermatologist’s office for a really old lady who had another older lady (but not as old) helping her walk and get up to the office. But they weren’t going in where I was leaving, they were going into the doctor next door. So I went over and held open the other doctor’s door. And the really old lady kind of threw her hands down and raised her eyebrows and said “Oh! Look, gentlemen really still do exist!! Well thank you, sir!” And said “no problem, yes we’re out here!” and hurried on my way.

When I hold the door open for younger women, like 40s and under, they could literally give a flying fuck. Its like I’m not even a human being, a real person, helping them out. These bitches don’t recognize that someone, anyone, is doing something for them that is nice, or what gentlemanly behavior is. I mean, its not even really in movies anymore, and if it is, its traditional, overly romantic, or stereotyped. I hold the door open for men, too, I don’t care who, I do it. Women need to be made to recognize the nice behavior that is being thrown at them and that its not all about money and cars and jewelry, or whatever it is they want, attention, who knows.

It comes down to communicating your needs and desires with one another. Men in general are very easy to please. Women are complex and need to be pet and listened to. I found it that out but it took 10 years. But it was so worth opening the conversation up.

My wife had a block from sensuality and sex. She always thought me being Sensual demanded sex. We all make these assumptions when in a long term relationship. We are not the other person. Their feelings are their own and feelings change. Just keep growing yourself mentally and physically. Loving yourself is key.

My wife saw me do this and cared enough about us to start working on herself. We both learned how to love ourselves and nurture our bodies and minds separate. Now we have common ground once again.

Journaling and interaction with you guys has helped also. It gives me time to reflect and give praise to this journey.

Anything worth salvaging is going to time and patience. This is your journey only you know your limits. Good luck!

This is a topic that really touches me!, I’m in a 3 year relationship and we been living together for more than a year now.

And I’m the one who’s not interested in sex any more, it’s really hard!, and I really love my partner, but I’m just not aroused or whit the libido or interest in having sex, I have some back traumas from when I was kid and I blame that, but I always think that there have been moments where everything has worked well, but not anymore, it’s a bit hard to write down but know that I don’t even have frequent morning woods, I just don’t :’(

Sorry to hear that. Try addding around 40 mg zing, some Magnesium and B vitamins to your diet. It would greatly improve back issues, while L-Arginine may boost blood flow, thus your erection levels and libido

Yup, thats exactly what it is. And even though I might sound cold and radical when I type, I am extremely passionate, romantic, and very old school. As mentioned before, I have never cheated on a girlfriend/wife. I just think is wrong, and I couldnt sleep at night having 2 parallel dishonest lives. I treat a woman like in the old days. I am the one who walks on the outside of the sidewalk, I open the car door for her, I give her my coat if she’s cold, I pay for the dates, etc. Everything like it was before. Men will always be men, a lady will always be a lady. No such thing as equality between 2 non binary creatures. Those freaks can move altogether to Sodom and Gamorra.

And when it comes to basic education, yes I experience the same multiple times on my daily life. When somebody doesn’t even thank for holding the door, I call them out. I yell “You’re welcome” Some apologize, they were distracted, others were just raised savages. The proletariat.

Try to troubleshoot yourself using an introspection and retrospection. And then present yourself with the pleasure of sex. Do you like how it feels to cum? yes of course. Everybody loves the feeling. Then, do you feel the urge? the desire to feel that pleasure? Do you look at a hot girl at the shopping mall? Do you feel tempted to watch porn? Do you masturbate? All those questions might start leading you the right way towards a solution.

A sexless marriage at 29 . Why does she think you married her , to become buddies ?