Quitting Porn - Scared - Pursuing Hardness

Hello All,
If anyone has any words of encouragment or has seen any improvement it their sexuality, hardness, and sex life please share.

I’ve decided to quit using pornography. Since I started PE I have gained about 0.3” BPEL and 1/16th MEG. I’m super stoked and grateful that its all working well and look forward to the future. I recently put myself on an ‘info diet’ cutting out all bullshit information that I had been consuming. Its been about a month free of social media, internet time wasting, texting, news, online shopping and other meaningless bullshit. Thunders is just about the only site I engage with regularly (during breaks) every day, and soon I’ll bring that back to once a week, when I feel ready. I feel my contribution and activity here is truly helping me stay on track so I’ve kept it. I’ve experience only what I can call a life changing shift in my cognitive facilities. I can focus 1000% better. I feel happier. My mind feels FRESH. I beleive there are similar results to be had for my sexual life/ mind by quitting porn….

Anyway, though I have said NO to lots of bullshit info that was ravaging my brain, I have continued to watch porn, almost every night coupled of course, with masturbation. I always say I will quit when I get my next girlfriend, but (due to my recent bout of clear thinking) now I see that this ‘need’ for porn is an illusion. I will quit and improve my life by doing so.

Reasons why I want to quit…..

-I want my sexuality re-sensitized. I want to get rock hard from naughty thoughts.
-GIVE that wholesome undivided sexuality to the woman that I’m with.
-Appreciate women more
-Have the HARDEST DICK possible
-Spend my sexual time pursuing real women, and not beating it to pixels on the screen/ moans through headphones
-Be able to tell others that I quit for good.

What I’m afraid of…..
-That my erections will not be as good
-Than I wont ejaculate frequently enough
-That ‘what I don’t use, I will lose’

What I’m gonna do…..
-Not look at pornography
-edge my morning wood
-masturbate at night to erotic thoughts only.
-continue PE according to schedule
-talk to more women, real life and dating sites

I have recently restarted PE about a week ago and I’ve cut porn out for about a month prior. I will say that sex was more frequent with my wife during that month.

Cutting out porn and restarting PE are both a result of a recent event that made me look at myself in terms of my emotional state, my happiness and quality of life.

My concern, however, is needing to now view some kind of visual aid to help my PE sessions. I don’t want it to lead me back to watching porn multiple times a week.

I’m not sure if others feel this way or if others have overcome it?

Sex has been better without the distraction of porn during the week. I find myself intimately touching my wife more and wanting to lie beside her on the couch often while watching TV, even if we won’t have sex that evening. I’d like to keep that trend going, if possible.

Solid plan, and props to you for the “cutting out the bullshit” aspect as well. I am of the mindset that disconnecting is very healthy, but I don’t try to convince people anymore. I let people do their own thing, and wherever it leads them is their problem. I also am probably seen as weird by most people, but if I were normal I’d be doing something wrong.

My experience with porn would be 4 stages:

1) Pre-PE: EQ at 7. More interested in porn girls that real ones, left me feeling drained after each session. Pretty average porn life.

2) Early-PE (July 2016 - October 2016): EQ at 10. Hardest erections I had ever had, pre cum level erections just from thought of girls. No porn.

3) Late PE (November 2016 - December 2017): EQ at 3. Felt as it peeing through coffee straw, ejaculation was unsatisfying (no emptying feeling). Couldn’t get past 30% erection for more than 5 seconds, erections went down very quickly. Still had not used porn this period.

4) PE now status: EQ at 9. Porn in use. Strangely enough, no feeling of fatigue after ejaculation. Also, more appreciation for cute girls with personality over hot ones, even with porn.

Even though I watch porn now, I appreciate girls with adorable personalities over boring, generic hot ones, in real life. Met a girl with big blue eyes, blonde, tight body. Personality was less interesting than a roll of paper towels. I didn’t make it past a 10% erection when talking to her, thought I had some problem. Met a girl, short, black hair, fairly cute, but snarkey personality and fiery eyes, had trouble staying under 80% at work.

Most people here will say porn is bad, and it is mostly true. I had a different experience with it, so maybe you might too. I’d keep an open mind about it, you can play it to your advantage. I use porn just to bust one out, since I think the lack of ejaculation led to the lowered EQ eventually. But I pay about 10% attention to the porn girls, usually just glance at some sexy part to get me back up if I am dropping.

Nothing you are worrying about will happen. 1-2 times a week finish yourself off after jelqing or edging.

If you want to quit I say do it.

Hi everyone,

I have also been through the cycle of “porn —> too much porn —> no porn at all —> and again”. However, I have found a solution that works for me and keeps me away from visual porn. At the same time it offers enough to keep up my erection for as long as I want to. I am talking about erotic literature :D

I can just advise anyone here to try it out. There is so much free material out there to satisfy any need (or fetish :P ). But in opposition to regular porn videos it keeps your imagination intact! I have abstained from regular porn for close to three months now and I don’t really miss it. Benefits include: Vivid imagination during intercourse with girlfriend + better erection quality, getting turned on quicker, seeing my girlfriend as even more attractive..

If you want to try it out, I can recommend this website: literotica.com/stories

Hope that helps!

Man, this is probably one of the best things you can do for yourself. Those things you’re afraid of, you’ll find out just the opposite. Porn is a great destroyer of erections. By giving it up, your body will rebound to the erections you had before porn took it over. It will take some detox time, but you’ll get there.

Best of luck to you!

I cut it out last summer, in 2016. Every month or so, I try porn again just to see if there is any urge to get back on the porn-wagon. Since quitting, my erections have become much better and longer-lasting. Sex is always good with or without porn, never saw a correlation there, but the masturbation is MUCH more intense without the porn.

Yesterday, out of curiosity and a bit of boredom, I fired up the porn sites. Funny, I forgot the links, but it all came back, and I found this one chubby blonde who reminded me of an ex-girlfriend. Down came the pants, into the palm and here we go again.

It was a very, very, VERY lackluster orgasm. It was all right, but it was NOTHING like masturbating without porn. You’ll see on this site a general consensus regarding this topic, that porn kills your erections and has a negative impact on your PE.

Oh, I forgot to mention, I tried clamping while watching the blonde. I never got a full-on boner, finally got frustrated with it and just tickled the pickle. After all, she was damn hot. So was that ex-girlfriend. Man oh man.

- Saul

I think pornography sets impossible standards for real women in your life. If you are regularly busting a nut to videos of big dick porn stars pumping energetically away at two of the most beautiful women you’ve ever seen then your dick poking a slightly overweight but sweet young girl next door isn’t going to do much for you.

Porn star: gorgeous 10 out of 10; spends three hours a day lifting weights and cardio after eating a spinach sandwich. Can pound an 8 inch summer sausage for an hour and a half while screaming out obscenities during each perfectly executed fake orgasm.

Real woman: Works at a 9 to 5 job and is tired when she gets home. Slightly pudgy but still very attractive. However, she believes she isnt and vows to hit the gym tomorrow after eating her third cookie while watching Greys Anatomy. Generally quiet during sex and orgasms don’t come quickly or easy because she’s self conscious of how those cookies might look around her waist. One orgasm and shes ready for some quality snuggling.

Porn is lie and it will eventually rob you of more things than you will ever realize.

Lmao

Describes my wife exactly, only she wants Facebook after, not cuddling.

Saul

How Lack is dead right. Not only that, I struggle with that exact thing. Cuz even the fat girls in porn are hyper sexual and perfect. No smudged mascara and awkward expressions. *chuckles softly*

Cutting it out will enhance real life.

It is hard. I’m working on it, weaning myself off. Getting hard on my own is erratic and unstable compared to porn but it happens. You have to have faith it will and be driven. It’s not easy to cold turkey. Take it from someone still struggling.

And you don’t always come back from it completely.

Okay so I don’t have the time to read everybody’s replies right now but personally just to test myself I cut out porn. 7 days straight cold turkey. Day before went on a bender on purpose then cut it out. After that 7 days it has completely changed me, I don’t watch porn nearly as much as I used to and since I watch less now I have harder erections and even get turned on sometimes without porn.

Just to start cut it out for a week. If you still want to cut it more then cut it maybe 2 weeks? 3 week? Month?

Personally, I’ve been getting way better than I thought faster that I thought. But I’m working on making myself the best porn star in my mind and erasing the allure of porn. Rewriting my subconscious is tricky but worthwhile. One step at a time.

I’m really interested on your thoughts of how to rewrite the subconscious…I have taken an interest in this over the last 4 months (since i started my weight loss, health, and penis journeys almost simultaneously)