Why they keep lying to me?

My depression started last christmas 1 year ago and I decided to work on everything on my body I wanted to improve everything including my penis.

Now my penis is almost 6.8 inch BP and 7 inch is 100% reachable and I still feel (and Im under average because here in the netherlands average is above 6 inch NBP) small and alone. I want to give my wife or future girlfriend something extra. Now I got professional help because some things I want to change on my body I cant change (I thought my penis but you guys saved me) or are taking so long that somethimes I collapse mentally (if im saying this in correct english)

Now the “proffesionals” keep saying to me size doesnt matter. Also almost no woman cant cum due penetration and the last one is true but internet tells us that women can feel more sensation with a bigger dick + the eye wants something as well. A smaller dick isnt very attractive for women. With other words: size does matter. These are all facts but how Can I improve mentally if these doctors are talking shit. They are literally lying to me how can I trust them?

I have a lot of female friends who told me size DOES matter but when youre cute and in love it doesnt matter anymore. With other words they prefer a boyfriend with a 7 incher then my starting size 6 inch (bp) so my job is to be as big as possible.

But I still want my gf or wife to get something extra to feel something extra thats why the most of us do it for self confidence.

What do you guys think? Find someone else to talk about who is real with me and doenst tell me things I want to hear rather I need to hear?

Thanks

I’m a quite psychological mess on my own but I’m an objective person so I can analyze myself pretty well [Cant do actions to fix it thought] so I will answer this question from my point of view and experience.

1. I had over 10 psychologists so far and I always did what they say and really share and gave everything during the sessions. They always very good at giving names to the problems and analyzing it [You search in google afterward and its fit very well] yet they never managed to help me in anything. I can also speak to my dog and he will do yes with the head and its will cost less so if you have a good friends that you can be very open with do it instead [I never had one].

2. Its a known fact that mental illness and depression specifically hurts self esteem and self worth so its probably lead to your body dysmorphia or more specific penis dysmorphia [I’m pretty sure many peoples in here have it me included].

3. Look at the macro instead of the micro your penis is 1.5” bigger then the world average. You have a lot of friends and you live in one of the best countries in the world.

Ok thanks for your answer sorry to hear you didnt have good friends back then luckily I have
3 of them.
Your answer isnt helpfull at all to be honest.

— Look at the macro instead of the micro your penis is 1.5” bigger then the world average. You have a lot of friends and you live in one of the best countries in the world.
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This is an example of laying the bar very very low. You have to compete with local men. For example the average length here is 8 inch BP and I have a 7 inch BP and the world average is 4 inch. Do you think girls wouldnt call me small or smaller then other men? Thats why the average length in your country where you live is important not the world average why would I compete with black men in congo or asian men in japan. I only meet dutch girls who had dutch dicks before or people who live in the Netherland 75% is 100% dutch 25% is foreign blood.

Youre 100% right about psychologists they just say what you want to hear and listen to you nothing more. I need someone who can tell me the truth. Yes youre dick is fine 99% of the women will enjoy having sex with you,

Yes youre smaller in height then average and most girls only care about you being taller then her nothing more.

I can tell you 1 thing living in the Netherland isnt a fairy tale the average height is 180cm the largest in the world being 172cm is not a prize and luckily 25% is foreign blood and most of them are almost as tall or shorter then me.

To be honest I cant find anywhere in the internet that NL average size is over 16cm [And most of them even less then this]

Hi B,

I’m still lurking a bit. I’ve posted something like this before, so here we go again.

Look back at my first log post. Where I realized that my BPEL was 5.5” and I was perfectly average, but was too short for my liking. I came to TP primarily for help with my ED and found out about PE.

Let’s start out by saying that size does indeed matter to women. But it matters far less to women than it does to men. 95% of women just roll with whatever a guy is packing. Period. After all they understand that the average penis is designed to get the job done without bashing the womens cervix. As the gender that gets penetrated, they would like to avoid having a lung ruptured :)

I will say again that college girls followed my around like puppies in my youth. Apparently I was one of the few guys that knew a girls most sensitive spot was on the outside of their bodies. Yes, I eat like a champ to this day. Watch a few youtube vids on going down on a girl to get a basic idea of what your approach should be. Throw in a few more videos on the g-spot.

I’m going to go into more specifics than usual. My go to position after getting my wife off via oral is ‘kneeling missionary’. She’s on her back with legs open, pillow under her hips, you are on your knees between her legs.

Just grab a pillow, roll her legs over her head, put the pillow in place. Don’t ask. Just do it. She will think this is how you always do it and she will comply. Tease her a few times by inserting the tip and pulling it back out. Smile. Tell her she is tight, wet, etc. After all this is ‘adult playtime’. Grab her calves/ankles and move her legs up so they are straight up your chest. Spread them wide and notice how it feels different, bring them together. Feel the change? Use this tension difference to manage the amount of friction you get.

What you have done is changed the angle of penetration. Now when you thrust, your glans will run along/stroke her g-spot area. No need for deep stokes here. A few inches will get the job done here. I actually think of them as short strokes. A note on thrusting, you are thrusting straight ahead, trying to push you penis out of her belly button.

If you find yourself in a position where you are thrusting straight down ‘the tube’, you should change positions to one that lets you apply pressure to her g-spot area. Just pull out and tell her to roll over/or something. She will comply.

One thing to remember is that women want to be good at sex also. Sure the main performance burden is on men, but they want to be good at sex also. That’s why at some point I stop stroking to control my excitement level and start going down on her again. Tell her you need another taste. Mention how wet she is again. When you move back into position to continue, tell her to rub her pussy for you. Don’t worry, she will comply.

I swear to you, that if you practice and execute the basic flow above. You will give her an experience that is very difficult for another man to match. I was in college with a perfectly average dick and I killed it.

Now let’s touch on your new size advantage. As my penis grew via PE I stayed with my usual kneeling missionary position. I started throwing in some deep strokes. My wife had her first a-spot orgasm in this position when my BPEL was about 6.7”. 6.7” may not be enough for some girls, but I do think that your current size is enough to potentially trigger an a-spot orgasm.

Just stick with PE and get out there and practice sex. There is no way to win at the game, if you are not trying.

I’m sure other vets will be along with tips.

If your looking for a woman that ranks Dick size high on her list you better be more worried about your bank account

Give this a read. If only for perspective. 14 Women Tell What It’s Like Having Sex With A Micropenis

5.5 is right. There’s allot more to a woman than blowing her out. Sometimes, the ones that thought they wanted stretched and impaled, didn’t like it after all. Sometimes they fuckin suck at sex too… and they’ll blame you for it. Not every 10 is a banger. You’re also not gonna be top-notch with every bird that lands. Chemistry and compatibility go a long ways. I’ve done my share of fly traps, they are not all the same.

Keep living your life, man. Forget the rocks and get your knocks. There’s always something better. You’ll only ever be perfect to you.

B,

I assumed that you are young and inexperienced in my earlier post. Hence the lesson on technique/flow.
You have more than good size right now. You can get the job done.

You are so right; for women it’s all about dick size. They really don’t want a kind guy, a good guy. They don’t want someone who is warm and compassionate and will be a friend and helpmate for life. They don’t want a man that will be a good provider and a good husband and father. They don’t want someone who will make them laugh and smile and will lend a shoulder to cry on. They want dick size and anyone who thinks dick size is all that important will never get a great woman or ever have a meaningful relationship.Amazing!

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Thanks for your answer, your really helping me out preciate it thanks.

But this is the reason im doing it

My wife had her first a-spot orgasm in this position when my BPEL was about 6.7”. 6.7” may not be enough for some girls, but I do think that your current size is enough to potentially trigger an a-spot orgasm.

May not be enough. May is not good enough I want to do everything to my future girlfriend. If my gf says shes happy with the size of my penis and let say she has a magic spell that could increase my dick in 1 night from 6 bp to 7 bp 99% of all girlfriends will do it.

We guys on this forum have the power and ability to increase our dick size and were very lucky because I know nobody in my country that heard from PE even my urologists almost laughed at me because he couldnt believe my stats. So thats why I want to continue PE and im afraid I will never get my life back. Now the most difficult part for me is that I cant PE right now because of some problems I want too and im trying but I cant.

And this

But it matters far less to women than it does to men. 95% of women just roll with whatever a guy is packing

Again if Im cute and shes in love with me of course she doesnt care but the same with money. Women dont care if your arent rich but if youre dating and after the 10th time (for example) she founds out youre rich as hell they will be very very happy same with penis size.

She doesnt care but if you have a nice length she will be 10 times more happy and satisfied im certain of that. I own the skill of jelqing now and I can make my future girlfriend more happy then she is now. I want to hit that A-spot with almost every girl and 100% with my future girlfriend so I hope 7 inches BP is enough for the 99% of women because im gonna reach that stat for sure whatever it takes.

Size will matter for a woman that ever had sex with a guy with a huge and massive dick and liked it. She might be tempted to try out a big cock due to porn, or maybe afraid of facing one.

Your average dick size stats for the Netherlands are bogus

B,

I get a “I am never going to please a girl with my dick” vibe from this thread. Maybe it’s the language barrier. But I’ll say it again anyway. Sex is a skill. Learn it, practice it. If it helps I spent sometime in Europe. I’ve slept with French girls in Paris, Spanish girls in San Sebastian, German girls (professional and amateur) in Germany and a few New Zealand girls in Pamplona of all places. My then 5.5” got no complaints. It is skill, not size that keeps them coming back.

But you said it yourself in a thread. Im not sure it was you but someone told A-spot orgasms is something else if a woman ever experienced that she want nothing else. So I need to get to a size were I can hit that spot with every women. I know 100% i can satisfy women with a 5 inch dick but I want to give my gf or wife EVERYTHING so A-spot orgasms too. Im now almost 7 inch BP I need maybe another few months and then hopefully I can reach every a-spot with every girl.

Ive read its 4 to 6 inches deep with women so 6 inch NBP isnt even enough for some women unless you can hit it with missionary then I can press BP too right? Hopefully I can find someone who has the a spot but it isnt too deep.

Dude that wasn’t me. Let’s be clear on that.
I have published this basic flow/technique in other threads and PMs. Like I said. 95% of guys actually suck in bed. So just asking the question ‘how do I get better in bed’ puts you in rare company. Actually learning and practicing your technique will result in you being among the best that a girl has had. That’s the best you can hope for. There will always be a bigger or better guy.

I apologize for mentioning the a-spot. Seems to be a distraction for the conversation. Sex is a skill that can be learned. Success in sex is not dependent on being super sized.