8" x 6" and not happy??

Please, for the love of god, reserve those for the bitches who are really being insulting, not the ones you guys ask “Is it the biggest you’ve ever had?” and she answers honestly lol. Yes, a woman should know if that is asked she is supposed to lie if things are going along right then, but if you ask her another time and she answers honestly… Be kind lol. We assume if you are asking when we aren’t about to have it put in us somewhere that you expect honesty. We assume you are all grown ups and can handle the truth if you aren’t and that you realize size isn’t everything. Nothing is worse than giving an honest answer because you think it’s what is expected and having it thrown back in your face with insults or snide comments later, so if you don’t want honesty don’t ask if she isn’t about to s or f it, lol. If she says something shitty then… She should know better.

What kills vibes for us guys, at least it used to for me, is they do what we can’t. No matter how big I get or skilled I am, I don’t have 10 settings like a good Rabbit. I can only compete but so well. And some women can and do get desensitized by high powered toys and make a guy feel inadequate when they can’t get them to orgasm. This happened once…with a rabbit type penetration and clit tickler toy with ten settings. Lady had divorced and decided to date her vibrator. By the time she met me, only it could get her off. It was devastating.

That was the hardest part of getting into the toy game. At least for me. Understanding it ain’t here to upstage me.

They are just side dishes (which we all love), but for most the meal isn’t complete without the main course:-)

Here is what I think. If a guy has made his mind up, that he going to be with this girl no matter what her “past”, then he shouldn’t ask her any questions. But if he wants to determine whether he should be with this woman or not, then he should ask the woman as many questions he has on his mind, and the woman should answer them honestly. A relationship based on lies would never last because soon or later, everything will come to surface anyways. If he wants to know the number of men she has dated, or if he wants to know the size of all the cocks she had taken, or if she has any unfulfilled fantasies, these are all acceptable questions for the man to ask a woman before getting married to her.

Doesn’t matter how awesome a rabbit is, it’s no substitute for flesh and blood that we don’t have to adjust settings on or actually move ourselves. Yes we can get desensitized to vibration, I don’t know if I could get off without a bullet anymore honestly, mostly because it takes so long manually by myself, I give up. With enough foreplay I might during sex, I don’t know because foreplay isn’t big on hubby’s to do list, but it wouldn’t surprise me if I couldn’t. But I know I go harder and more times with a man than I do with one of (yes one of because I own multiple) rabbit style vibes. Women, or at least me and the couple friends I’ve discussed this with, tend to kind of shut down a bit when we climax. It’s so intense that continuing to function through it or immediately after is nearly impossible, and because of that we tend to stop and not continue to build up or have multiple orgasms if we are alone compared to with a man, they might adjust the speed some then they will push us back up over that point again. And, I have to add, even the twirling beads etc are no substitute for thrusting movement, and the handle on those rabbits makes it pretty damn awkward to reach to adaquately accomplish that. All rabbits/vibes/dildos are self limiting in the fact they do not have the ability to act independently of what we set them for and the movements we do with them which lacks a degree of spontaneity and anticipation actual intercourse has which heightens it for us.

Oh I’m not doubting the man’s value. But this lady was…special. So it was her way or no way. The vibe making her into numbed out hamburger was only part of the problem. I did get her off. But it took 30 minutes of oral, consecutive, face abrading, breathless oral. That happened once. I simply chalked it up as us not being sexually compatible after that.

But, some guys aren’t as secure in their value or effectiveness as lovers. That’s why many of us hesitate to include toys. I grew past it but it is a thing we confront on some level at least once.

Agreed, and I am one who will ask about previous relationships, especially since we live in a small community and his ex’s are around. But I expect honesty to those questions if I ask him in any situation other than sex. An example (not a question I’ve ever asked but the best comparison I can come up with) would be if I asked him if mine was the tightest he’d ever been with. If I’m asking in conversation, yes I want an honest answer, obviously, but if he’s inside me and his answer is “ehh not really, there were a couple who were tighter” it’s game over and I’m gonna unload on him with whatever I can think of that would be near the male equivalent of BigBootyFan’s insults (which I don’t know if I could top honestly lol). Point being, majority of adults realize there are times you are supposed to lie, and when someone asks something like that mid stroke is one of them. The person asking doesn’t want an honest answer right then, they want their ego stroked. If someone is foolish enough to ask questions like that during another time and not prepared for an honest answer, don’t penalize her and try to hurt her for it later because you weren’t prepared for the possibility you wouldn’t like the answer. Those kinds of things will screw with a person forever, so if she was being honest and not trying to be a bitch and you were the one who asked, don’t take it out on her. Play fair guys. All I’m saying.

+1

Makes sense and in addition if you really like the person, there is the added pleasure and benefit that comes from the experience being shared with another human being. Rabbits can’t be funny, I know because my wife has one:-)

Which is why a woman can find herself content with a smaller penis even after having a larger one, because the guy on the other end really took the time to make it a shared experience.

Being in the moment can go a long way.

I know I have ventured from really addressing the OP’s challenge, but I think all that can be said is in this thread. He just needs to take it all in and figure out how to apply it to his challenge.

Yes. These comments are intended as a response to the intentionally hurtful ones.

I could imagine how it would hurt a woman.

Yeah there’s a major difference between marriages/LTR and the dating crowd which gets lost sometimes in the penis size and increase debates.

Agree. Love hearing an honest woman’s opinions!!!

Thank you, glad to know I’m not unwelcome considering the general topic isn’t geared at me :) but I have to say, I’m gonna break your rule. My profile pic is not going to be my ass lol.

I never actually answered the OP. And I think I should. Cuz that answer has changed a lot.

Why 8x6”? Because I was dealing with incredible inferiority complexes stacked up taller than my 5 foot 11.5” frame.

Why past 8x6”? I was obsessed. I couldn’t see myself any bigger than I started.

Why am I still gaining now? Because I am still looking for curve correction that got me into PE. And I found a partner that showed me how sex at this size and greater is not so difficult regardless of a tiny vaginal canal.

I have a reflection in the mirror that I want to see. And I am slowly getting there. Because there’s no hurry and no one to impress.

Haha….

Nah. When I first joined and was reading alot on here I noticed an abundance of women’s asses so i had to make fun of it a bit :)

But seriously I’d much rather read 1 honest woman’s opinion on all penis related topics than 50 guys telling us what a woman’s body needs for sexual enjoyment.

I might see a roadblock in the “tunnel” ahead:
I recently was up to 6” 3/8” girth after pumping, (didn’t measure length) and [wife] had a bit of hard time with the girth. Plus I was an inch short of getting all the way in lengthwise. She said “not painful”, but “feels like tearing”. We’ve been together for 10 years and she’s never had issues like that before, including my previous gains, so I’m wondering if we’re reaching a physical limitation with her.
So I might be nearing the end of what I can try to go for in terms of girth, because it already doesn’t really fit in her mouth or butt . I might try for more in length, but I might have to call it quits by about 6.5 girth, if I am able to even get to that point. And if I go for more length, I think that any added length will get left out in the cold. Somehow guys like Titelist are supposedly able to fit even more length inside their ladies, but I think I might be reaching the capacity limit of mine.

So, in reflection of the post title, I think I am now about 80% “happy” with my size, but don’t think I will be 100% happy until I am forced to stop gaining due to [wife] saying it hurts or is hindering our sex life. Then I will have reached my ideal size. I don’t know quite what it is, but I would speculate 8.5x6.5 for our relationship.

Disclaimer: Anal and Oral are pretty much out of the picture at this point, but were not a big part of our sex life to begin with. If I needed to keep anal in the picture, then I would say that 8x6 is already too much, and a 4-5” girth would have been ideal for oral with her. Actually a 4-5” girth might have changed my sex life entirely with the ability to more easily fit through the front and back doors…