8" x 6" and not happy??

How am I living up to my namesake? Ain’t a bar of gold nice as me. *chuckles*

The reactions…well I’m 31. Women in their late twenties and thirties are more apt to downplay you and say “I’ve had bigger, I don’t know why I’m having trouble” than to give out legitimate awe. Women actually hate to be overwhelmed. It has to grow on them. But the confusion on their faces is priceless. Especially if they ask if you’re all the way in and you keep telling them “No” with a calm smirk.

I never cared for anal. Too much extra squeeze, more like a fist than a glove. That sacrifice wasn’t too bad.

Deepthroat, women these days never really know how anyway. Back when I first started only one of my partners could do it for a few seconds at a time. The rest rolled eyes when I suggested it. Two others could do it, regardless. But it’s a matter of the tip wedging, less the shaft. So if you have a taper to your glans or its significantly narrower then your mid shaft, I would say you don’t sacrifice it as soon as I did at this girth. The girl on question was exceptional at it and literally cannot fit it in her throat anymore. But, you can split the difference and let her blow you half hard, get erect in her throat and get both an awesome gag effect and fully erect at once. This depends on skill ad trust levels though.

It isn’t that endearing. Reactions usually are mild shock. Very brief. Porn is RIDICULOUS. Women will struggle, smirk, make noise, but still not porn. Worth the time I spent doing PE to actually see and experience but not on porn levels.

My last long term girl gave me significant shock but she was pretty damn tight. Enough that after the first night her vagina was different forever, as space in it actually had not been fully reached yet. Her size and the very small dicked men she tended to date were to blame. But she was super shy, very big girl. Dated very big guys so the Tab A was fat pad issues and slot B has fat pad issues and both had bellies typically. I was only her 2nd thin lover. That being said, the odds of such a legitimate level of shock happening again are low and lower every day I grow older.

My biggest change is how sex works. I do it from a position of “I have to be careful, place myself properly, pleasure us both” not “I need to throw my entire body weight into staying in the vagina.” That’s why pe was the thing I continued to do. Knowing that could maybe change. I got in to fix my curve. I stayed for size and health.

@thoughtfulgold - love your sig line. PE’s certainly measured in years …

It’s there so folks can see that there’s no quick solution. It isn’t simple. I am glad you like it. I’m sure measuring time is something you’re good at, given your app. *chuckles*

I’m 8x6 and my ex told me her exes had more girth. I’m not happy and not greedy. I just want fill her like no other. Is that too much to ask?

Sometimes it really does seem like the ‘battle of the sexes’ is an all out war. Women will try to knock you down a peg constantly. Hey, maybe it was true, but the odds aren’t actually likely, especially if multiple women have told you that.

I actually think what you describe sounds way more attractive than the obvious overacting in porn. Subtlety is much more attractive.

Anyhow, this is real gold. One of the reasons I keep coming back here even though I probably have enough info for the time being

Maybe context is important here — was she saying “my exes were thicker, I want it thicker”? Or just “my exes were thicker .. “. Maybe important to know the subtext of what she was trying to communicate. Women outright lie or just misremember (see section in study I posted on size recall). It’s funny because the conventional wisdom is always that open communication is key when it comes to sex, but if we guys communicate about our partner’s size preference, it can be read as ‘size anxiety’ and drain away some of your animal magnetism. I wonder is it for you, or for her? After all, it’s the man that makes the penis, not the other way around.

You maybe comparing yourself to the bigger men in porn. You see the porn actresses being really excited like they seen the best thing in the world but you have to remember they get paid for acting. If porn did not exist, would you still want to be bigger?

So THAT is how I live up to my name! Ah HA!

Though in all seriousness, the method behind sex changes. How they see how you interact during it is different. I was a sort of spindly guy. These days I’m just under 6’ tall and just under 200lbs. I look 180 so I’m not an intimidating figure, especially to women 270lbs+.

However, the sex women that size have usually involves grinding, gyrations and contortion to keep the penis in and penetration going. Not so, after 7.5” length. After a certain size they start moving to hop off of you, squirming, thrashing and mainly because their body position no longer determines the pace of the Intercourse. Bigger girls with smaller endowed guys need to hold still, assume a position more often than not. This grants them control. They are used to this.

But, after a certain length you push them to move simply because you are in control and to contest that they’ll try and hop off or push back harder to make you orgasm sooner on purpose.

This was displayed with one partner who only had her husband since Prom Night. So I’m her second partner in life. Her husband was like 340 line backer with a belly and 5” or less. I was like 177 and just about 8’ at the time. She had only had sex cowgirl before, it was the only feasible way before, with their stomaches. She wouldn’t let me try it. Other sexual issues made sex actually impossible, one of which being it hurt her too much to enjoy the first time and that got in my head and I couldn’t get erect with her again. This was also when I had to come to grips with new sexual mechanics and develop the love of watching them struggle that used to guilt me before.

But she was demanding, used to doing everything a certain way. From kissing to any sexual act you can name.

So after a certain point, you take them out of their comfort zone. THAT is fun. Watching them try to figure out sex with me with little or no experience to draw on.

Yes, you lose some partners. Some won’t fit. Will turn you down. But the ones you get, everything is different and confusion and wonder are amazing, especially when punctuated by orgasms they’ve never had before from doing a certain position or act. So…you have to weigh it all. Cuz sex changes fundamentally when you change drastically how you and women fit together. Everyone won’t like how much extra thought you need to put into it, or losing balls deep penetration and rough sex with most women. It aint all roses. But be damned if it ain’t unique every time.

I’d normally be jealous, but you’re a respectable man. Therefore, I’m happy for you that you have those experiences.

I need to reach my goals so that I can share similar stories.

Wouldn’t be anything to be jealous of anyway. The learning curve was harsh and had no manual to reference. I was clumsy because body dysmorphia didn’t let me realize what I was doing sometimes (I kept thinking they were patronizing me with the pained expressions and “not so deep/etc.”) and the fact is while rumors didn’t spread about me and my size (I’m not social enough in circles that fuck together) that I was used as a novelty more than once for that same reason.

It ain’t greener grass. Just the difference between apples and peaches. You pick apples cuz they grow close, you plant a peach tree and eat those too. Only in this case…can’t go back to apples, ain’t space but for one tree. The only thing. That’s why I say what I said. You don’t sacrifice as much as trade experiences.

I personally think anal is highly overrated and a by product of too much porn.

I’d take my wife’s pussy over her ass any day.

At 5.5 it’s severely uncomfortable for her and there’s no real movement going on. It’s almost literally get it in and then gentle bump while i try like hell to get off in a reasonable amount of time because i know she’s in pain.

And yes she’s worn anal plugs of significant girth for hours before, sufficently lubed, etc. It’s just to much thickness for her ass to comfortably handle.

But again that’s all just my opinion based on 21 years with the same woman.

Yes, at 4.5 she isn’t really comfortable, I am now sometimes sporting 5 (regular pumping), so out of courtesy I’m beginning to realize, PE or anal, but I can’t have both. I’m in love so it’s best I come to this realization on my own and respect her comfort zones, so PE it is!

My wife wants analysis and loves fingers in her ass.

She doesn’t realise the difference between two fingers and my dick though.. But we keep trying occasionally.

And I’m almost 8x6 and it’s not that I’m unhappy, it’s just that occasionally I feel painfully small.

Dysmorphia is a killer.

Lol! We can trade dicks for a day and you will have a entirely new appreciation for your “little” guy!

Dysmorphia Combat Step 1: Buy some magnum condoms. Check how they fit and bite into your skin rather tightly towards the base.

Dysmorphia Combat Step 2: Revel in your gains. Realize that the gold standard for most big guys is to fit into, not exceed the magnum condom.

One of the first things I did years ago after my first gains.