Rethinking how much size matters to women

I see, and this does make sense. Thanks for pointing this out to me.

Good point, but the women talking about large dildos also comented on my size in a generous way and talked about having other 9 inch long lovers in the past etc. It has been my observation that size doesn’t always matter. Just like how money doesn’t always matter, or looks don’t always matter, or any other number of things. To be on the safe side of things aim to be above average. My current partner has never been with a guy of my size and though she likes it she has a love hate relationship with it because it hurts her, even tears her at times.

You’re at around 7” NBP x 5.25” MSG?

What the hell are you so dour about? You’re already larger than the majority of men out there.

I don’t think it’s possible to convince him. In my opinion, anxiety (and perhaps bad luck) can sometimes really play with your mind. For instance, because one girl commented that one guy may have been slightly bigger than me when erect (at that time, anyway) it kinda tricked my mind. She told me I was a lot bigger flaccid and it really surprised me that he may have been bigger when erect.

I keep thinking that every 2-3” flaccid guy is going to have a 9-10” erect penis. Then there’s Mandingo. Apparently the guy has a 4.5” flaccid? This means that his flaccid is smaller than mine. Yet when erect he is 2-3” bigger than me (assuming he has a 9-10” NBPEL penis). That really can confuse guys. If a girl tells a guy that they are the smallest guy she has seen (even if she was bullshitting), that could really fuck a guy’s perspective, especially if they have anxiety issues. Sometimes to the point of being delusional. Just visit some bodybuilder forums or listen to anorexics and how they see themselves. There’s no frigging way a 7” NBPEL is small.

Of course, you may have really bad luck and come across one girl that by chance had slept with really big guys or that you’re a 6’5” muscular guy and so a 7” x 5.25” penis on them may look on the average to small side?

You crazy kids do realise that girls do not usually talk about a previous partners wang size unless you bring it up, or they are trying to shame you.

Not once ever has a girl spoken about a previous partners wang size to me. Never, not ever. I think some of you above average guys would be far better off if you stopped mouthing off about how big your wang was, because there will always be someone bigger than you. Always.

Size matters in relation to your partner. You may hurt one girl who is small down there and you may barely make a dent on another girl who is bigger down there.

We also need to keep in mind the difference between visual appeal and physical usefulness. A girl who may only be able to accommodate 7 inches before bottoming may enjoy looking at a 9 incher more. Yet the 9 incher is not her ideal size.

It’s a very fine line, we want to be able to fill the woman we are with just enough. It’s not good for either person if you have an inch that can’t fit in nor do you want to feel like she has more room that you are not filling either. What makes it difficult is this sweet spot size is different for every girl, even every position!

For me size is, at least in part, an ego thing. I think many guys want their woman to worship and look with awe at their penises, in the same way you know many guys will look at awe at a particularly nice piece of ass/breasts. There is a difference though:

1. Very big breasts can look unappealing. I have never heard a girl say that about a big penis, though? They might not want to screw it out of fear but they still love looking at it, I think?

2. Leaving aside looks and the mental aspect of sex, guy’s main sexual organ is their penis (balls in my opinion aren’t that important even for women, I think). Girls on the other hand, have at least 2 main sexual organs that guys are obsessed about: vaginal area and breast area. If they lack in one area they can sometimes make it up by compensating in the other area. If a girl has a nice big set of breasts but a so-so lower part, most guys will still want to pound her. The reverse is also true (nice ass, vagina but kinda sub-par breasts).

With guys if your dick is sub-par (small), at least from just a physical perspective since big is in, you’re kinda screwed, I think. Maybe I’m just weird for thinking this way?

I know a rather experienced woman who told me she thinks very big penises are “disgusting.”

I think a lot of this is a Porno thing. Since porn is all about male fantasy, then of course the porn actresses are going to “worship” and “Look with Awe”

I read an article somewhere that suggested that one of the big turn-ons for guys in watching porn is that the women in pornos act more like men do about sex. Aggressive, always ready to fuck, always ready to fuck anybody, the more the merrier. Also like you mention guys get all slobbery over a pair of big breasts and a great ass. Well that’s how the Porno Women are paid to act, whereas maybe real women are not so body part oriented.

Hope I am making sense, I am still waking up.

I still think that, all other things being equal, girls do prefer a large, aesthetically appealing penis to smaller one. It’s possible that one’s penis can look a bit disproportionate (too long for a given girth or too girthy for a given length) but if you even out these aesthetic things, most (not all) girls would still prefer the larger one. Sometimes it’s just in fantasy since they may be scared to have sex with a very big one but sometimes also in real life. It’s just my opinion and maybe I’m odd for thinking this way?

To extend on this. One woman (background: she’s an artist) put forward that the penis needs to fit with the body of the owner too. A big guy is going to need a big penis in order for it to look okay where as a small guy is going to look disproportionate with a big penis. She is very much interested in the “whole package” more than the “package”. In all regards to the package, a working one of moderate size is perfect.

By “moderate” you mean not excessive or extreme (not too big or not too small). Let’s assume guys, especially us guys on a dick-pulling forum have a messed up sense of what is too big or too small.

So what are some opinions regarding as to what most women think is too big or too small? Many of these women (for better or worse) also watch porn, I’m guessing.

Pick 2 guys. They’re identical in every respect. One has a 7” dong the other has a 6” dong. What % of women will prefer the 6” one. Again both penises are in the moderate range.

Take this further. Do you think most women would prefer the 7” one over the guy with the 8” one (too big?)?

- I don’t trust women in regards to what size they are having or have had.
- We’re all a bit warped, just like how people in body building forums are warped.

With these two things in mind, I can’t fathom anything coming from asking anyone “what size is too big for you?” or “All things being equal do you prefer a 6 inch penis or a 7 inch one?” because 6 inches is really small when every penis out there is 6.5 - 10 inches (reality is it’s just 4.5 - 7.5 inches). The results would be dubious at best.

Even though this has been discussed ad nauseum, have a look at these 2 paragraphs and the study in the link below (again noting the limitations of most studies). This is supposed to kinda adress the thread topic:

"In two carefully controlled studies, penis size was measured by researchers after men self-stimulated themselves and/or ingested pharmaceutical drugs to induce erections (Senegezer et al., 2002; Wessells, Lue, & McAninch, 1996). Combining the means and standard deviations reported by these researchers, we calculated that the mean erect penis length was 5.3 in. (13.5 cm), with 68% of men measuring between 4.6 and 6.0 in. (11.7 cm and 15.2 cm), 13.5% between 3.8 and 4.5 in. (9.7 cm and 11.4 cm), and 13.5% between 6.1 and 6.8 in. (15.5 cm and 17.3 cm); only about 2.5% of men possessed a penis over 6.9 in. (17.5 cm) long, and 2.5% were under 3.7 in. (9.4 cm) long."

"A much higher percentage of women were satisfied with their partner’s penis size than the percentage of men who were satisfied with their own penis size (84% vs. 55%). For women as for men, there was an association between ratings of penis size and satisfaction with penis size. The vast majority of women who reported that their partner was average or large were very satisfied with their partner’s penis size (86% and 94%, respectively). In contrast, the majority of women (68%) who rated their partner as small wished their partner had a larger penis. Fortunately for men, however, only 6% of women rated their partner as smaller than average."

http://dfred.bo l.ucla.edu/Leve … atisfaction.pdf

Two things:

1. I find it hard to believe that only 2.5% of men have a penis over 6.9". But I have little evidence to the contrary.
2. The study also argues that most women are satisfied with their guy’s penis, unless they have a small penis.

Proving once again women don’t care about the size of a guy’s penis, as long as its not too small.