Can't get out of my head

Hi everyone.

I’ve been part of the penis enlargement community for some time, not all on this website, but I would say I know a lot of different things (and it’s amazing!)

Just to start off; I have made some extremely nice progress in my penis development. When I started out, I was just under 6” in EL and almost 4.5” EG. Now I am very comfortable with my size at 7.4” EL and very recently just hit 6” EG.

I must say I really am very comfortable with my cock; but I am not going to stop my development, why would I? :) Hearing the comments from my wife won’t make me stop for a VERY long time; She always seems to have something good to say about it. For example, in the morning when we wake up, she almost always comments on my morning wood, because as of recently it has become quite the super hard erection I really like. She said this morning “your cock is so freakin’ huge” and I just looked at her and smiled; and she just grabs hold of it and tells me “look how hard and thick it is, I can’t even fit my whole hand around it, you can really tear up some pussy with this monster”. Which to be fair, was a little odd because she is the only “pussy I’d be tearing up” but anyway, you get the idea, she loves it, I love it, but here comes the problem..

The problem is not been able to last long enough during sex. Now trust me when I say I have tried a lot to get through this. I have read some much information from this forum and various other places to try and help me with it, but I just cannot, no matter what, seem to sort it out. I recently watched a porn video, and it just made me realize how badly I want to be able to last longer and not cum without the first 2-5 minutes of sex. This guy was just pounding his woman like crazy, he wasn’t a porn star or anything, it was just a home video of them both having great sex and he was really pounding her and she was absolutely loving it.

So after watching this it just made me want to be like that even more. Now I have to say I do have a relatively good sex life, my wife really enjoys herself, she loves been eaten out and I love doing that so we can tick that box, and sometimes she wants a quickie before work or something and I don’t mind that, because, well It doesn’t take me too long anyway lol; and my one lucky thing I have is that she does tend to come pretty quick. So let’s say we are having sex and I’m just going at her, she usually says “omg I’m gonna cum” and then she cums and the shaking and what not happens, and that is when I cum too; but I must add, most of the time this happens within the first 2-4 minutes of sex; and recently it had been getting worse it seems. Sometimes we do have slow sensual sex, and I like that because I don’t have to move much and I can just stop if I feel like I’m going to cum, but the worst situation is when she gets on her knees and tells me to do her doggy style; I mean she just looks so goddamn good sat there waiting, and I cannot say no, but doggy style make me cum so quick it’s unreal, like I doubt I can go more than a minute of doggy style sex, but I guess I am a little lucky again because she loves it too and she cums quick; but I’m not satisfied at all with how it is going. I shouldn’t have to make do with the situation I’m in; I have the cock I want (more or less) but not the stamina to match it.

I would really like some guidelines or anything for something that can help me. I have tried so much stuff, I got some Pang Tong delay cream, that stuff did not work at all, it burnt my glans pretty badly I couldn’t do anything for about a week. We were at a sex store a few days ago and I bought some Max 4 Men delay spray stuff, and that is just garbage, doesn’t seem to do anything. I even tried getting some Chloraseptic from Walmart because I read somewhere that it can numb your cock like it numbs your throat, but that was also a dead end. I’ve read so much into kegels and how they can help you with the problem, and that isn’t helping me, I cannot stop thinking about it lately, and it’s really having a negative effect on me, like the first thing I think about just before sex is “how long can I last this time” and I just think about it all the time during sex. I try so hard to not think about it, but I just cannot seem to do it. Please I really need some help for something I can do or something that works. I think it might be psychological issue though, and I’ve no idea what to do.

If anyone would like to know some of my routine or what I do, Then I will gladly make another post explaining it, but until then, I need something to help me with cumming too soon.

Well man, what I did to help myself in this situation was practice a lot with masturbation, just not watching porn while doing it, focusing on the feeling rather than in the thought.
You have to learn to calm yourserlf down, to feel a bit more comfortable, usually to do this I get into a dominant position and then I can last ages. I must add that meditation helped me to control myself in different aspects.
Something that also makes you cum really quickly is the fact that you’re thinking about it, just forget it man, may seem hard at first, but just forget about it, focus on fucking the shit out of your wife and that’s it.

It may take something like a week or two but premature ejaculation is something actually simple to fix, you only need to get rid or that “nervousism” bothering you.

Hope I hellped you, feel free to ask me anything, I use to have the same problem.

My guess is that you are uncircumcised. So my advice will be - to pull your skin off forehead and walk like this every day for week or so. If skin getting back on forehead, try to make it stay out of it with patch or smt.

Sorry if this is off topic but I want to know how you gained an inch and a half of girth?!

Yeah I have read before that this is important, but I do find it hard to do an edging session or just masturbation without watching porn. I feel like it is a big problem of mine, I will be browsing Facebook or some random website and see something that sort of “sets me off”; and when that happens, I tend to go onto a porn website and just jerk off; and honestly I do enjoy it a lot, but I know it is probably not too good for me in the long run. I do have a very high libido and if my wife is working and I’m at home, I will tend to watch some porn and jerk off, but I don’t always cum, sometimes just edging. I think I will try really hard to not work porn, and try the masturbation / edging without a visual stimulant.

Yeah I am un-circumcised, and I have seen something similar thing before, but I think that would be pretty hard to “patch down” my foreskin for a week, but I guess I could try something. I read somewhere that during masturbation, I should rub my glans pretty hard to try and make it less sensitive, so I maybe that is similar to what you suggest, but honestly I think it’s all in my head, but I might try this again.

Well, it all takes practice and you will have to “torture” yourself for a bit to achieve something my friend, and where did you read that thing about rubbing the glans roughly? It doesn’t sound very pleasant

If your wife is supportive then its pretty simple: Stop and go training.
Just tell her you want to fuck her for longer and if she is willing to help you in that endaveour.

It seems you are trained to cum fast. So you have to train yourself to last longer. Needs willpower.

Basicly:

fuck until the slightest feeling of cumming comes up.
STOP until the feeling is gone. This could mean resting inside the pussy.
Repeat.

After some time you learn the various levels and how to react.
This means when you feel the slightest feeling of cumming you keep on going but very very slow.
Of course breathing and relaxing can help you there too. For example imagine pulling the energy/feeling from your penis up your spine to a reservoir in your head ^^
After some time you learn to ride the waves. Its training your brain, autonomous nerve system - penis connection.

Great advice!
The other approach is if you can get hard again within a reasonable amount of time, go ahead and cum quick the first time, and last longer on the second go round.

Also male multiple (dry) orgasms. You orgasm a lot, without ejaculating and without the pesky refractory period. Trust me, it works once you get the hang of it!

What do you mean by “multiple dry orgasms”? Are you talking about anything related to kegel exercises or what? Could you explain a bit more?

In my case learning to edge has made me able to last as long as I want.

Once I was able to go 30 minutes with out shooting, was able to basically go on forever with a woman.

Here’s the basic program I used, is from a sex manual called ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of *Extended Sexual Orgasm Link if you want to know more about that book, basically tantric sex without the monks, Exercises for man and woman to do solo, then they come together in the end.

http://www.amaz … /dp/0446677620/

Summary:

Goal: Stroke your penis for 30 minutes without ejaculating. Your goal is to come close to cumming 5 times during the 30 minutes, but do not cum. When the 30 minutes is up, BLAST OFF and reward yourself.

It is ok to use porn to get hard, but once your erection is "locked in", TURN THE PORN OFF. The porno will distract you from your own sensations, and you really need to totally focus on your sensations so you can learn what it feels like as your body ramps up to shoot. You learn that, then you will learn control. Eventually you will learn to keep yourself right on the verge of shooting for as long as you want.

If you don’t make 5 times and shoot before 30 mins is up, enjoy the orgasm and don’t beat yourself up. Better luck next time!

HOW TO EDGE
sta-kool - Edging 101

As background, you might want to read Ejaculation Process if you haven’t already. Having the knowledge of what’s going on will help you with edging/learning "control"

Yeah I do want to know how you gained 1.5 inch girth. I started at 4.5 just like you. I am wanting 5.5 to 5.75, but have not been able to break 5MSEG. Any help would be appreciated.

http://www.whit elotuseast.com/ … tipleOrgasm.htm

Also, search for "multiple orgasm" in here, there are some threads about that. (Make sure to search only in thread names, otherwise a lot of stuff pops up)

I also had that problem, and it was frustrating. Took all the enjoyment out of sex.

So after I remembered a thing I’ve heard in one Ludacris song with missy elliott:) ,

That said, its all in your head punk..

So after I’ve done some reading and such, I literally decided not to come. And you know what, I didnt.

So my ex, who is making somekind of comeback, was surprised of the stamina I have, and allso

Suspected that I’m using viagra:) and I think that my training for marathon also helps(running). Important isnt how fast,

But for how long. And yes our body gets used to coming fast, because orgasm is the main reason why we do it

And love it so much, I know thats not the only reason:) And it allso gets used for longer sessions. Self control.

So like everything in life, you have to make a decision.

And in bed you can tell your woman that you don’t want to come, and belive me they want you to come, and theyll

Eventually make everything that youll come, because if you don’t come, they lose their upperhand on you.

And thats a fact. Allso they might think that they arent sexy enough for you to come. Ups and downs:)

So you can make a pact with her that youll come once a week. In chinese medicine its suggested for men over 30

To ejaculate only once a week. It will make you hornyer and harder allso:)

Ok, gettin messy allready. Just make up your mind, not to come, and be serious about it. It will work.

If you feel that you are there, take it out and do something else:) and continue.

Yes you can.

I love that this guy, literally just made an account to answer and tell you that “yes you can”

What a fucking lad