Welcome Berghuis374!
Congrats on your gains in the gym and your journey toward more self confidence. I think you will be much happier and it looks like you are taking the right steps to turn things around. Regarding your time constraints, I completely understand. It can be difficult to find the time. While my situation isn’t the same as yours, I’m nearly 40, married with kids and work two jobs. I’ve managed to get at least 4-5 days a week of PE. I am still relatively new with just over 4 months inmy PE journey but from what I’ve read through these forums, it isn’t necessary to jelq for 30 minute sessions, especially in the beginning. When I started back in November, my sessions were 5-10 minutes of stretching and 5-10 minutes of jelqing. I’ve worked my way up to 10-20 minutes of stretching and 15-30 minutes of jelqing but don’t always go that long. Fit in what you can and what works with your schedule. I prefer to warm up, then stretch and then jelq but some days it doesn’t work out that way. I’ve made good gains (in my opinion) for the short time that I’ve been doing PE. I would say that the key is being consistent with your routine, whatever that may be. The first two months, it didn’t take me more than 15-25 minutes for my entire routine. With your jelqing, 5” NBPEL is more than enough from what I’ve read here at Thunders. It takes some time to figure out the technique. Do you wet jelq or dry jelq? Do you use a overhand or underhand grip when jelqing?
Use the search function on this site, there is a ton of information here but it may not be the easiest to find. That said, I’ve learned so much on topics that I wasn’t really even searching for. Hope that helps!
Good luck on all of the changes in your life! There are some great threads on this forum for exercises (check out the videos on the homepage), self confidence and other topics. Check those out too.
Start 11/12/2020: BPEL-6.5”; MSEG-4.5”
Current 8/10/2021: BPEL-7”; MSEG-4.825”; BPFSL 7.75”
Goal: BPEL 7.5”; MSEG 5.5”