Reflections and Progress: thoughtfulgold

I really like reading your posts. My goals often seem painfully far away. Your posts give me the hope and genuine belief that I will achieve my goals.

Thanks for taking the time to share your insight. It helps.

I can’t make it happen for you. I can show you how it happened for me. If that helps, then you are welcome.

Some of you may have been reading my log when I describe having a new partner, shorter-than-average with a big ass. I describe several situations where she had significant trouble accommodating the entirety of my penis. She was game enough for it at first but complications with her IUD actually kept her from having sex with me for the last few weeks.

It got to a point where she no longer wish to consider sex with me because it weighed upon her mind too much. Other things also came into play here but she has voiced more than once significant worry about her cervical health and the status of her IUD. The first sign that sex was going to drop off was when she still hurt a week later. From there, it just was a typical cold shoulder shutout.

Considering the totality of the circumstances I do not think that the size of my penis is solely to blame. I do think that it was the first piece and a pressing issue in the equation of why my relationship with this new lady has to be downgraded to just friends.

Better luck next time as they say.

Well take some time and evaluate where you are and where you’d like to be. It’s a new day!

I ain’t worried about her, honestly. I am where I am and I’m happy with my progress. The casual relationship she wanted wasn’t something I wanted and we didn’t fit together in a practical way.

I merely made a note because giant penis does not always equal enviable glory stories.

Wow sorry to hear that. :(
From your earlier posts it sounded like you were kinda sweet on her. Bummer.

At your current size (and future size, hehe) you are going to get the inevitable ROE from time to time, and some chicks will relegate you to “occasional treat” status.
Like when your only car is a 700 hp Ferrari, it’s fantastic to drive, but has some impact on potential relationships.

You’re the Ferrari. :)

I like Nissan GTR/Skyline better. *laughs*

I understand it academically. I’m not terribly upset. And fact is I’m fine with it as her fear was palpable enough to not be a turn on. I don’t want her to dread or not enjoy sex with me. That’s not the goal. I was sweet on her. That was the bigger part of the problem honestly.

What is ROE? Am I in a military hotzone? *chuckles*

It is a fascinating litmus test. You’re not just selecting for size acceptance but a willingness to accommodate, how that whole thing(effort,size,accomplishment…) however you want to categorize it, is valued.

Had you anticipated this?

I agree with you that it’s not a deterrent, in an odd sort of way it seems to force the issue, providing faster clarity.

Oddly enough I had anticipated what you describe in your question. A relationship I had from back in 2013 featured a woman who accepted me and understood the gravity of the accomplishment and the effort that this takes. Her acceptance and understanding was not total and complete however and other problems prevented the relationship from blossoming.

All of that stated, she gave me a rough sort of checklist of personality traits and reactions that basically indicate what would be a positive interaction pattern between a future partner in myself.

It does force the issue. Academically, I understood that it may. The fact that it did is still stunning as a new event in my life. Prior to meeting this woman this had not been something I actually thought would happen. Not to me. I guess it can be said about the possibility simply was not real enough until it actually occurred.

It forces me to consider that in the future this grudging rejection certainly can happen again. It places a new bearing on my perspective regarding my goals for relationships and PE. The litmus test serves an extra purpose now. I am uncertain if the litmus test is a reasonable character test but it will have to be or at least synergize with any way that I can get character well enough. It places me in a very very weird position.

I need to underline that as far as relationship styles we did not match up but that we could have and the point of contingency being the size of my penis still could have broken the relationship up on its own, with how strong her feelings are on the topic.

TG, at your size it’s inevitable that you’re not going to be sexually compatible with some women on a long term basis. It goes with the territory you’re in.

That said, there are plenty of women out there who would love to get a piece of you on a regular basis. It’s just become a narrower playing field for you, that’s all.

What happened to you with this latest chick was simply bound to happen to you at some point.

But I also have no doubt that you will find what looking for in a gal, whether it’s just casual or something more serious.

It’s been great watching you on your journey.

Good stuff my friend.

Academically I understand that. It happening is still an entirely different thing.

That in itself doesn’t worry me. Factually I believe the IUD was the largest physical factor and her fear of my size was in her mind, which played into other ways we were not compatible. It does not mean I lament my size and sex is gonna be a wash out in the least. I love my accomplishments and myself. Someone who can feel similarly would be nice.

Statistically, absolutely.

I’m not so sure but it has NO BEARING on my size. My partner selection methods seem flawed still.

I just want the truth out there. That’s all. I imagine being gone from TP and leaving so many questions unanswered and logs so incomplete like the old legends and it sounds tragic.

Can you elaborate?

I liked her more than she liked me. It felt too serious for her. She wanted a casual relationship as I underlined in previous posts. That was the bigger problem than my penis size being overall incompatible with her sexually.

“Refusal Of Entry” :)

I think it comes from a security reference, you know those huge muscular guys in the gym who work as nightclub bouncers. They also use the term when the little hottie sees bow big it is and you get “ROE” from her… ;)

I’ve been there. That fear or even trepidation is a relationship destroyer. It creeps in and starts to become excuses, reluctance, even sabotage of your sex life.

You deserve a woman who is over-the-moon delighted about your big size! Like she hit the jackpot, like it’s the best thing that ever happened to her. They are out there, the chicks who own large dildoes and who have had a lot of less than satisfying sex with small and average men and desperately dream of settling down with a big guy of their very own.

It narrows down your pool of potential partners but I think it’s a worthwhile narrowing, so you don’t get stuck with a woman that likes YOU but finds a never ending list of excuses to avoid SEX and eventually leaves you feeling rejected and unattractive.

Ah, never run across that use of that acronym.

It’s a hard line to toe. Cuz often women over the moon about size only care about that. This, ruins the other abstract aspects of a relationship. So it’s a tall order to find an optimum person.