Bigbear's Porn Detox Diary

Sorry guys just to clarify, I’m not PE’ing at the moment (hence the note in my signature)
I’m concentrating purely on fixing premature ejaculation at the moment!

DAY 2 without porn! Going swimmingly so far.

BigBear — I would recommend that you get a copy of The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams. As soon as you can, if you don’t have it already. I learned about it on Thunder’s and it is really great.

I recommend it to you for a few reasons ==

1). It will help you get rid of premature ejaculation for good — you will learn control, and you will be amazed at how much more pleasurable things will be for you. And your wife.

2). It will teach you that orgasm and ejaculation are really two separate things. You can have an orgasm without ejaculating, and the book teaches you how. You don’t need to ejaculate to have a fulfilling sexual experience — that was a real revelation to me. Personally I feel like I have more energy when I don’t ejaculate every time, and I’m almost ready to say that the sex is better when I don’t ejaculate.

3). There are wonderful things in the book about pleasing your wife, and some great things you can do together once you she is with you again.

It is about $14.00 at amazon. I really can’t recommend it enough.

Hey bear,

I wonder if you’ve tried any de-sensatizing creams?

Does PE interfere with removing premature ejaculation? I guess it is all linked, but you have to concentrate on what you think is the most pressing issue. Good luck with it. And keep off the porn you hear!

Yes! Like sta-kool said, “The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know” is a great book. It certainly helped me alot!

marinderrick,

Why use creams when simple re-training will do the job with permanent results?

marinderrick: I think it is better to learn control — you get a ton of pleasure out of it, and you give your partner tons of pleasure. You can be totally engaged with her during sex.

I would rather be totally engaged that way.

Rather than trying to deaden myself so I feel nothing.

I can’t imagine any woman who would want to have sex with a guy who has an anesthesized penis. Think about it — would you want a woman who took drugs to deaden herself so that she was never ever ever completely present when you had sex?

It really isn’t that difficult to learn control. It just takes a little time committment to practice. It is a hell of a lot of fun to learn. Once you can go 20 or 30 minutes alone, you can go as long as you want with a partner. I can’t emphasize enough how good it feels.

Get “Multiorgasmic Man” or the book “Extended Sexual Orgasm” (search amazon for it). They cost about 11 to 13 dollars. Compare that to a lifetime cost of deadening cream and a less than satisfying sex life for you and your partner.

WOW!!
So many responses.

Believe me, I happen to know a few things about male continence and I personally have tremendous control. I only asked bear because he seemed so concerned.

The fact is those creams don’t completely deaden you so that you don’t feel anything at all. They do deaden you to a point so that you won’t cum so fast is all. I’ve tried it before just for the hell of it and not only did it take me longer to cum but the orgasm was pretty intense.

I also have a feeling that most women don’t mind about these kinds of things. I think they already understand and aren’t that judgemental. They don’t seem to trip as hard about it as men do.

When I brought up the cream thing I wasn’t advocating it. Just wondered if he’d considered it as an option.

I do agree that learning control is far more practical.

I have to say that I’ve intentionally stayed away from creams and drugs for the reason highlighted by Sta-Kool.

Although I’m not saying people shouldn’t use them… it’s just a personal thing for me. I’d like to know that I cured myself without the aid of chemicals.

Day #4 complete without porn!

Yay me.
Still horny as ever though!

Also I think I made a breakthrough today with an exercise for controlling premature ejaculation. I will try it out for a while to make ensure it’s effectiveness on me. Keep on watching!

I’m going to buy that book.

I’ve brought the ESO book and its brilliant. I can’t put it down!!

Better to have that book in your hands than your… well done on day 4. More strength to you BB. You have some very helpful friends there. I am downloading that book as I type. I hope it is as good as I want it to be.

Day# 5. starting to get the itch for it.

havent crossed the line just yet.

Thanks for all the continued support guys. I’m gonna try and beat my previous record at least. I’m extremely tired today from work so thats definately working in my favour.

Good night!

One day at a time, BigBear. You can do this. All you have to do is get through today.

I am rereading it now — my wife is reading it for the first time. It really is brilliant. Glad you are liking it!