Bigbear's Porn Detox Diary

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My Premature ejaculation and help

Third post, third link.

update:

Ok guys I’ve managed 7 days without porn and still going strong. I went six days without ejaculating and although I felt I was starting to go a little bit nuts by day 6 I was staying a lot more composed as usual.

As I mentioned before I have been doing exercises to control my arousal(adapted from ESO) and it seems to be working in controlling a) my overall horniness and b) my lasting ability(although these are just solo for now as Mrs Bear is in another country)

I’m thinking that the reason I’m not using porn is that I’m so hell bent in trying to fix my pe and I know I need to knock porn on the head in order to do these exercises efficiently.

ESO for the win.

BB

sorry that should have read:

by day 6 I was staying a lot more composed THAN usual.

Porn is easier to give up than I imagined… Oh well, better write more love letters… maybe it is better to give up on the whole porn thing…. other than being a stupefied wanker…

Keep up the good work BigBear

That post I sent before. I missed out the whole first part and it does not make any sense. Sorry. Good going BigBear.

Touching base:

It’s been another 7 days without porn and I’m finding it easier now that I’ve preoccupied myself with exercises to fix premature ejaculation. I’ve also noticed that since not being reliant on porn on a daily basis, my general libido has dropped somewhat where I’m not in a permnanent state of excitement, needing porn to invoke a quick release. I am also ejaculating once a day through manual stimulation as part of my exercises so thats keeping me in check.

How are you guys getting on?

Glad to hear things are going so well for you…

BigBear,
I wish you and anyone who has this addiction the very best in knocking it. It makes a huge difference also in wether a person has a wife, lover, significant other etc. If you have that support. I think its much harder for someone who is single, they have no one to hold them accountable and they think “I have no one anyway so what harm is it going to do.”
This last year I really realized just how bad off I was with my own addiction.
My addiction has been ongoing for 15years. Here are a few facts that I have learned for myself:
1. It didn’t start off as an addiction, rather an amusement. Over a period of years it took a life of its own.
2. Started out watching “vanilla porn” after a while it didn’t do anything for me and I “graduated” to harder stuff to get the same level of arousal. And it got harder and harder and more twisted.
3. I have 70 plus movies in my own porn collection, spent an average $50 per movie. You add it up.
4. When having sex with my SO I didn’t/don’t always think about them in the heat of the moment, rather the visual images I had seen in a movie. And always comparing them to the images, to others.
5. I wont tell anyone the worst, the lowest ebbs in my life that porn caused.

So I started waking up last fall, October, and realized I have a problem. A serious problem. I went 6 weeks…no adult bookstores, no adult internet, and it was the most wrenching time in my adult lilfe. BUT, sex with my SO was much more intense….though I was still very selfish.
I learned also that many in industry, and amatures alike, have died do to AIDS. My money helped to contribute to their deaths. I honestly didn’t know that producers had been seriosorting the AIDS virus among the “models” for the last five years. This is some kind of sick!
I still struggle. I’ll go without for awhile then I have a tendency to “binge” on it. I feel like a victim.

Good to hear from you BigBear. Keep it going. I am so much happier with myself having given up porn. I find that women are more attractive when I am walking down the street. When the guy at work mentions some porn he saw, I just think, “…and so what?” And then like the previous post, you just hear another depressing tale regarding porn. 7 days and going strong… good going. Keep it up.

Very interesting post Intactmale, but I could not quite understand this sentance, possibly a typo. Could you explain further?

Seriosorting is matching up the different strains of the HIV virus. If one model has type A then they find another model that has the same type A virus or one that is compatable to the medications they are taking. This is going on in the straight porn industry as well as the gay industry.

I no longer wish to have anything to do with it.

Thanks to everyone for the support so far! I wouldn’t have even have the inspiration to keep this up if it weren’t for this place so

Intactmale… your points about the fiddling of the Aids Virus is sickening and quite the eye opener.
Just knowing this if enough to put me off. If you have trouble with bingeing on porn then try not go without totally, the way I did the first time round as that killed me when I finally gave in. I felt like such a case! Try weaning yourself off it. Over the course of a 7 day period, leave the porn to every other day. Then gradually decrease the amount to just 2 times a week. Set yourself a goal(realistic one) and try and stick to it.
What is the longest you can comfortably go without it?

74zowee86 - Glad to hear your doing well too. You get to a point where the whole idea of porn becomes silly. I’m pretty sure I could go to a pornsite right now and browse through the pages and not have the urge to want to jack off.

As for me….

Another 9 days under my belt and I think I’m safe to say I’m devoid of all urges to watch porn. I’m still ejaculating once a day via “peaking” exercises, which invoke such strong orgasms that I’m finding myself to be no longer the horny jackrabbit I was once. This is a very good thing.

I’m starting to feel more in touch with my own sexual reponse by ignoring the call of the quick release.

So thats 25 days so far… I had a few “moments” in the beginning where I was feeling withdrawn and depressed about not being able to release as quickly and with the stimulus that I was so heavily used to but I think I’m safe to say that those moments have definately passed.
I still get the occasional twinge in my balls just from surfing the net and seeing sexy “nonPorn” images but its a simple decision for me now. If I say yes, I’m undoing all my hard work over the last month or so and by saying no… I’m just helping myself to feeling better all round. Which I am.

BigBear — when you feel like you’ve mastered the peaking exercises, you might want to get a hold of

The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams

http://www.amaz … /dp/0062513362/

Glad to hear all is going so well for you.