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I was a little short with you the other day and apologize for that. They’ve written books on this subject and at the time I wrote I was impatient to leave Thunder’s and could not compose the short answer that might get you started.
The technique of using kegels to become multi-orgasmic usually results also in prolonging intercourse. The process is difficult to master but once you get the hang of it you will enjoy the benefits both in orgasms and in your own possibilities for duration before you finally ejaculate.
The method requires a strong and healthy PC muscle; this is easy to build up over time by simply practicing kegels persistently – short sets in the beginning, then gradually, over months, increasing both the number of kegels you do a day and the amount of time you are able to hold a series of very long kegels while clamping down.
We’re all different, but if it takes you, say, 20 seconds normally to ejaculate (from the very first sensation of inevitability to the last pulse of your prostate), you’ll need to be able to sustain the “clamped” kegel a few seconds longer than 20 seconds and have a PC muscle strong enough to repeat an extended clamp a short while later when you feel yourself nearing orgasm the second time, then yet again if you still want to keep going.
The object of the exercise is to sort of “short circuit” your ejaculatory response such that you cause a dry orgasm instead of the usual wet one. You should have no loss in the firmness of your erection following a dry orgasm and no change in the degree of your horniness – no libido loss, as happens following a wet orgasm.
Imo, the only way to learn this is through repeated masturbation. You will probably have many, many “failures” resulting in normal or partial ejaculations before you manage orgasms that feel much like regular ones but during which you expel no fluid at all.
I’ve talked with RB a number of times about this technique. He says he’s nearly there after months of working on it. I hope he will chime in and offer what he has learned.
The trick, I think, is to learn exactly when, to the split microsecond, you must clamp down on the PC muscle. You need very intimate knowledge of your own ejaculatory response. The time to clamp down is BEFORE any ejaculate begins to move on its way out. Once fluids are on the move, it’s too late to stop the process. Ideally, you will be able to clamp and hold, enjoy the orgasm, lose no erection quality or libido edge, and move on to the next one, then repeat.
There are guys who can do this many times over an extended period of time. I can do two dry ones but by the third time, I have to let everything go with a complete ejaculation. Still, I get two more orgasms than I would have not using this technique and can last much longer during sex. The effort of mastering the method has been well worth it to me.
I hope this works as the short answer.
PS: Don’t bother trying this during intercourse itself until you can do it well by masturbating. It’s during this training period that you will learn your timing through recognition of all the stages of orgasm by their varying sensations.