How I cured my SEVERE premature ejaculation

^Yeah Me Too I Just Cant Quit Porn!!!

It is an epidemic. Just don’t give up bro. I’ve gotten to 30 days and then it seems like every time I’m on the computer or on instagram and I get a friend request from some chic with her tits out. Right now I’m trying to self affirm with natural forms of stimuli and accept them, while blocking out any and all forms of artificial sexual stimuli. But let me tell you, that is one hell of a task in today’s society.

Guys, can you help me out? I have a very severe case of trigger points, involuntary kegels and PE.

The only reason I “manage” my premature ejaculation is because I’ve been in a relationship for over 3 years, and as proven by science, ejaculation time lengthens with mono relationship’s length. This doesn’t satisfy me because it makes sex and relationships in fear.

Here’s the thing: I used to masturbate to porn a lot while on drugs. I was kegeling a lot that time. It seems like I’ve taught my body to do kegels whenever sexual stimuli is up. I haven’t watched porn since over 3 years and I haven’t been using drugs for masturbation purposes for over half a year.

Right now I have no control over this. The biggest problem for me is that I feel like there’s no hope for me. I know however that if I figure out a good step by step plan to overcome this, I’ll have hope. Whatever is learned can be unlearned. Hear me out

I’ve tried edging however I get so tense PC floor muscles that I think it is pointless to edge. I used to edge regardless of PC floor being tense, however I think for a long term solution this ain’t gonna work.

Here are my problems:
1. Very often when I start getting a random boner, I’ll get involuntary kegels every 1-3 sec since the boner starts for as long as it persists. I always try to breathe deeply and calm myself if this happens (and I am in a position to do that, I.e. Not talking with somebody), however this does not seem to help.

2. I’ve tried laying down, stimulating myself a little, then for 30 minutes I touch the glans, very seldom and very gently & lightly. This still triggers kegels. Taking fingers off - involuntary kegels. Breathing deeply all the time. I often wander somewhere with my mind because it is kinda hard to be focused on something that doesn’t really change. This goes on because if I were to stimulate myself with just imaginery of my GF or someone else, I’ll get very aroused and a lot of involuntary kegels. This feels kinda pointless because I am not able to “calm the arousal” (tame the kegels) even when the stimulation is purely psychological, save the physical. OR maybe the other way around? Well, I can do neither. Whether it is physical without psychological or vice versa or both combined, I can’t control my involuntary kegels.

3. I have also tried reverse kegeling for a month. However I am not sure if I am doing them right.. Whenever I push out the muscles, it almost feels like I am actually kegeling, not reverse kegeling, so I am never sure if I am doing the exercise right or am I just worsening the problem. I’ve tried pushing down the urine stream and it works, however very weakly and for a very short time. Also it is nowhere as strong as it used to be when I was a teenager. Maybe 10%. I could easily slash over 6-7ft (2m) for several seconds back then. Now it have a hard time holding a reverse kegel for longer than 1-1,5 seconds. And it’s a very weak one.

4. And my involuntary kegel twitch. It seems to involve muscles that I do not have control of. It is a very strong twitch-kinda contraction. Makes the penis jump and the muscles become very hard for about 0,5 sec. The ass muscles are involved, and PC floor, and muscles inside the penis. If I try to consciously perform this strong of a kegel squeeze, I simply can’t. It doesn’t work. However, right split second after trying to do a voluntary kegel of such strength, an involuntary kegel follows.

I am devoted to fix this problem, but I need help. I need a plan. I can take massive action to fix this, but I feel stuck. What to do, guys?

I just realized I do these involuntary kegels while erect as well. This could be my issue too.

Hey, I’ve read lots on this forum and finally decided to write down a sentence or two..

I’m 18 and I am suffering from premature ejaculation. I’ve had a girlfriend for a year and a half and through that time we’ve been having sex 2-3 times weekly constantly..

Now I”ve noticed sometimes that most of it is controlled by the arrousment.. I got very excited whenever I had sex.. Even before I did have sex, 2 years ago I had another girlfriend which was jerking me off and I couldn’t last longer than 1 minute.. I guess it was all in my mind because I could jerk off for longer than 20 minutes no problem, and whenever she touched me I felt like I was exploding in seconds.. I really have tried some methods ( jerking off 1-2h before sex, Using condoms with that cream that makes your penis numb etcetc.) I did have some improvements but most of the times it resulted in weak erection after the first bust, so I had to wait some time until we start over again.. Sometimes, however.. I felt like I can fuck for hours.. I’ve really didn’t do anything, but I could last as long as I want to and I did not feel any urge to come.. It was all on itself and I couldn’t control it, but I’ve could last really long without problem and had a good erection. I don’t know how this happend, but since it has happend only couple of times I guess it’s my mind again.. Now I’m trying with “desentisizing” my penis head. I watched a video on youtube from a guy that explains how to rub your penis head for around 30 minutes a day and he says it helps a lot.. LOL I really don’t know If I’m going to improve because I don’t have a gf at the moment but I’ll get to have sex pretty easily, I’m still in high school so it won’t be a problem.. I’ve posted this because I never actually met someone who HAD a premature ejaculation problem and cured it.. Or maybe they never did.. Or maybe they are ashamed because they had it so they don’t talk about it? I really don’t know, I just want to get rid of this because I’m young and I want to have normal sex and give pleasure to women as I am supposed to.

Thank you for this post, A lot of great information definitely need to read several times. I would have never thought about the butt thing and the tension and the Buddhist pain philosophy is very important.

I really don’t see how anyone could have premature ejaculation its either your not having enough sex or masturbating enough which is so easy to cure.

I read some of your post but not all its almost 2am so I wanted to put my reply in before I go bed. I used to have a really bad problem with premature ejaculation for much the same reasons as you started wanking really young , discovered porn really young, and used to finish really quick( so as not to get caught lol) these developed into bad habits that I didn’t get control of till I was in my early 30’s. I don’t know the name of the method I used but basically when your about to come you withdraw then squeeze just below the helmet on the tube( I don’t know the proper terminology) with your thumb not allowing yourself to cum. After your cock has stopped twitching about you resume normal service and repeat as needed. After the third time this wasn’t needed for that particular session. I think it took around a week to not need to do it at all. I did get some benefits from this such as a harder and slightly bigger and thicker penis while using the technique but they disappeared when the method wasn’t needed.

It’s been a while since I’ve had sex so I will more than likely have to use this method again the only tip I can give is not to go at it like a jack hammer to start with till you’ve gained some control but a week’s not that long but you do need to be getting some regular if you don’t want to keep using the method.

Hope this helps

Smoosh69

Hey I’m new to this community and your post was a great introduction to understanding how TP works. I liked your incite to a very pervasive problem for us men. I’m curious about something and I hope my question is not breaching any code of conduct, but for reference to your advice on PE, are you circumcised or uncircumcised? It really is a whole different ball-game for both penis types and the ways in which to overcome the associated dilemmas of each. Regards

I spent 15 years in a marriage, the woman became high a maintenance nagger who complained non stop, even about sex, which I didn’t last very long. She had me so funked out I could barely get It up. The princess left me for another man in June 2016. I was so depressed about life in general that I stopped masturbating. A few months went by and I got myself in shape gradually but no masturbation. I ended up with a woman and had sex which lasted much longer than with separated wife. I finished the divorce and took up a regular woman and sex has changed for the better. I still avoid masturbation and it pays off because I’m not used to a quick release. It takes around 15 minutes to get my gf off and I always wait for her. I’ve trained myself to go the distance. Another thing that can really help is smoking a few hits on a J before sex. For me, that makes my erection better and orgasm stronger yet supreme control. I regularly have sex 25 minutes plus now. This is coming from a former 2 minute man. I haven’t masturbated since the x wife and probably won’t ever again seeing what it does. Porn surely never helped either. Best to envision a real woman rather than a perfect 20 year old model. At my age, 43, the time for the hot, young princess has passed and if they do want me its most likely for my money so I date women my age who are successful like me. I keep in top shape and get treated like a god by these women. I think of my past life, living with a mean princess and I wouldn’t take that back for anything.

My trigger point is also on the underside of my penis right where the glands meat the shaft. I can CUM by just light pinching of this area.
My sexual Premature Ejaculation is Ejaculating on entry into my wife’s Pussy.
I am 74
She is 66
I have regular Sex with wife about 2 times a month.
Used to be once a week until we passed age 65.

All my 45 years married life I have been like this.
I can edge a lot during blow job.

I Will stop breathing in anticipation of pussy entry.

I will also stop reading erotic stories.
I don’t watch porn.
But I do masturbate by reading all day erotic stories of sex between brother sister
Daddy daughter
Daddy son
Uncle daughter/ son.

So I will start with breathing and touching this trigger point to edge.

How long a break Should I Have between to edging.

Thank you for helping.

Excellent thread by guru5311. I can relate to everything that was said!

So I decided to make a quick summary of my Golden rules which I revealed to myself and that are explained by guru5311.

1. Edging. Regular practice of edging. Aim to do up to 30 mins of edging.

2. Control your breath. Never hold your breath and keep breathing in a relaxed manner during sex. Try to be aware of your breath from very start of sexual intercourse, even before penetration. To help yourself you can use counting of your breath in and out.

3. Practice kegels daily about 10 mins. No need to push hard here as it is easy to overtrain PC muscles. They become sore. If it happens so, pause for 3-5 days and then start gradually again.

4. Practice reverse kegels. As many people write here often we may have developed involuntary muscles contractions around perineum which contributes greatly to premature ejaculation. I noticed that RK bring awareness to the body during sex and help to relax.

5. Do any physical exercises that involve perineum area: gym, stretches or, my preferred way, yoga.

6. Optional but very important, at least for me). I found Indonesian herb solution (https://www.alpa-herb.com ) that significantly delays ejaculation and does not numb my dick like lidocaine based sprays. This was a great help in my learning process as it allowed to condition my mind to get used to longer timeframe of intercourse. After years of quick masturbation and 2-minute sex my mind and physiology just got used to spending not more than 2 minutes in actual intercourse. So this herb allowed my mind to get used to longer 15 - 30 minutes sex.

And finally, understand that the process of overcoming premature ejaculation is a long way. You need to be patient and consistent. Get ready to devote yourself at least for 6 month. Never give up. The progress may be very slow (or fast) but it is all possible

To guru5311, actually I have been owing you this post of gratitude for a long time. Let me explain… I am not quite sure of the degree of PE that I have suffered but I do have to admit I do suffer from it. My case has not been too severe, as I would be able to go on for a long time on a second round, but not on the first. I remember most of our first rounds would end in less than 5 minutes.

This, as for most of us, really got into me. I mean, I got obsessed with it. It might have been one of the main reasons, if not the main, of why I started Penis Enlargement. When I first started I was 19 cm length – 15 cm girth and my girl was quite pleased with it, so, what need had I had for it? Well, I guess I just wanted to compensate the fact I would fail miserably at the beginning of most of our sex encounters.

Anyhow, I kept searching the web, and this I did for years; bumping into Hindu techniques, yoga, deep breathing, imaging myself elsewhere, you name it. It had all failed!!! But one day, I entered Thundersplace and I thought there was still hope. After some browsing I found this thread. And after having read it, I realized that I had been doing so many wrong things with my penis. First, and far most, masturbation. Just like guru5311 says, go slowly and train yourself to last longer in your masturbation sessions. I must confess I used to end so quickly you would have thought I had been chased by a pack of werewolves!!!

So, after putting your “methodology”/advices into practices I felt I had a stronger control over myself and that I was ready to go for a test. Unfortunately, my girl was living in here country and me in mine and didn’t see anything of each. We spent around 8 months away from each other until I was blessed with the chance of travelling to here country. We met, you bet we did! Again, on the first round, I cummed immediately; she was giving me a blowjob that didn’t last 2 minutes. I didn’t mind much, however. After all, it had been 8 months and I went there unprepared. But the second round!!!! Oh my God! I couldn’t believe myself… I went on for about TWO F**KING HOURS!!! She actually begged me to cum once and for all because she had to leave, not because she wasn’t enjoy the ride! And what was even better was that I was able to cum right when I choose to.

So guru5311, sorry for the long post and thank you. THANK YOU MAN!!!

Hello, I’m new in TP and this post is awesome, I want to share with you and experience so you can give me an advice, I got a gf recently, and we have had sex three times, the first two were amazing I lasted over 1 hours between foreplay, thrusting, oral and everything, but the last one was horrible I literally could not last more than 10 seconds I tried kegeling to last longer but my penis just stopped working, I Guess I got stressed.

Before that third time I was doing a Lot of Kegel, but now I have recovered and started with edging, to try to control my PC involuntary squeezes, yesterday I was with her we had no sex but we were kissing in a really hot way and I felt the involuntary contractions, do you have any advice to control myself with this girl? I really want to pleasure her but I’m afraid to come fast again!

Great post. Thank you. I’ve struggled for years with this issue to the point I can see the disappointment in her face. Will definitely try.