Join the challenge! Porn detox!

Day 18.

Seems to me the desire to watch porn never fades out. Is it something to battle for all the life?

If you go long enough, it will fade. However, it can flare up in a moment with the right stimulus! Its just learning to avoid your triggers, and how to redirect it when it comes up.

It helps to get involved in some activity or hobby that interests you and that provides a more meaningful payback than porn. It also helps if you can first convince yourself that there are more important things in life than getting turned on.

Yes, I would say it is something you have to confront all your life. It may not be in the form of pornography, but some other vice or obsessive distraction. Sometimes I get caught up in wasting a lot of time playing computer games. It’s easy to fall back into bad habits out of sheer laziness.
It takes constant determination and dedication to lead a productive and rewarding life.

I’m not necessarily trying to pass judgement on porn watching. If it makes you genuinely happy and you would rather do nothing else, then I wouldn’t bother to argue the point.
But if you truly believe it is a detriment to your life, then you have to get serious with yourself and make a stand. And you have to continue to make that stand whenever the problem presents itself.
Eventually you may discover that the vice is no longer so tempting after you have lived awhile without it, and have found something else that pleases you more.

I suppose it could be like getting over an old, but annoying girlfriend. At the time you can’t tear yourself away from her for fear of being alone or whatever. But after you get away and replace her with someone better, she no longer has the same appeal to you.

I’ve gone the entire last month and these last 7 days without porn. What I’ve realized is that I don’t really have a sex drive anymore (although I do have two F-buddies who I’m getting it in with every week, so I do release). I almost never think about sex, and I will only masturbate if I feel my testicles swelling up from having gone too long without a release.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Also, I realized that I have a very difficult time getting into the mood with the girls I’m with. They’re both attractive, but I just have such a hard time thinking dirty or arousingly. I think it’s because there’s no real tension between us. They’re there to fuck and I’m there to fuck them (mostly because they want it). In the past, girls I’ve been chasing for a long time would get me hard just by having my arm over them.

I was talking to a friend about it and we both decided it’s because having sex with someone has a lot more pressure involved than just sitting behind your computer beating it. It’s very, very hard to get past and enjoy myself with these chicks, especially when it’s hard just to be hard in the first place.

Anyways, just sharing some of the discoveries I’m making with my sexuality now that porn is out of my life.

Thanks for your words. The rest of the paragraph is something I repeat myself all the time. And still I feel the need to watch. I used the advises of all the kind people that put their efforts to help and until now all is gone good.

The truth is I need a kind of life away from computer and plenty of activity, so I will be too busy to spend time on porn. There are been days in which I was outside and without a computer. Well, in that days, I thought about porn, but the tension and the urge to watch it was feeble.

Still battlling. Day 19.

Yes, it is normal. At least for me it happen all the time I stop porn. The natural libido will come back, but it will happen slowly, in a progressive ways.

The good thing about this temporary drop is that you will stop to look at woman like if they were only piece of meat with holes to stick your penis in, and look at them recongnizing they are people.

So, in my opinion, your are in the right way.

I don’t think I could ever do this. I mean, I tried giving up several times. When I found a few magazines back in middle school, I think I hung onto them for a few months before I chucked them in the recycling bin at school. Then when I found some other ones a year or so later, it took even longer to get rid of those. And then, I finally got high speed Internet. Needless to say, my porn days won’t be ending soon. Not even when I had a girl I didn’t stop watching. If anything, I can go like a week or so without the XXX.

Hi I’m Lowenhardt and I’m joining the challenge. No more porn.

Hey guys…

It’s been a few days. I’ve been watching probably 1-2 times a week. I want to go on another long streak; just trying to rationalize with my values and get it going again. It’s hard because pretty much everything in my life has been going well recently and I don’t have that “self-improvement” drive for somewhat trivial things like watching internet porn a couple times a week. My EQ is still pretty good and the other negatives haven’t surfaced yet. Again, I’m trying to muster up some motivation to go on another streak of abstinence but it just hasn’t been there for 2 weeks now. I’ll keep everyone posted, and to those currently in streaks- keep it going to the best of your ability.

ok why such a big thread against porn guys!? uuum… why dont we like this stuff again?

Read the thread from the start. I’m sure you’ll find the reason of this thread.

Day 41,
Stallion you want motivation? I am going to crush your streak you had what 62 days? Imma beat that and go a few months more :D Muahahaha, on the serious note though as long as you keep posting here I am sure you will start back up again. I find it ( for myself at least ) almost impossible to have the urge to watch porn after reading this thread, even if it is just someone elses post.

Right now the urge for porn is a strange feeling, I found a few of my triggers were boring Television, boring reading ( books, magazines etc. ) sitting in the house waiting on friends or whoever and oddly enough when I am bored at work I will start to think about it but since I have to wait to get to it the urge builds and builds ( which is usually the hardest to deal with )
So in order to combat these triggers and to increase my personality I went out and bought an Acoustic Bass Guitar, I leave a few web pages to tabs of some good songs up and just pluck away on the strings to ease myself. Works like a charm :) plus while at work I have started to rhyme out loud. I am actually decent at spitting a few funny lines every now and then, also it works to get some of the girls to smile so it is kind of a win win for me

Awesome solution. Thank you for posting this that has helped you.

For me it is similar…if I get busy with a creative and rewarding hobby, I forget about porn.

It is when I get bored that I start to seek porn and that pleasure drug inside me (dopamine) seems to get a big but short-lived spike from porn.

If instead I practice a hobby, the pleasure spike is less but lasts longer and ends up being more satisfying. It also usually results in something I can share and be proud of. Not so with porn.

BFLR

Day 85. Much easier now :)

Day 45, the last few days I had porn dreams. I think someone posted in this thread or possibly another one about how they dreamed they were watching porn. Anyone else having this phenomenon occur to them? Does anyone know why I would be dreaming about watching porn either? I have been having sex on and off for the last few days so it isn’t like I haven’t unloaded or anything.

Happened to me. I think it’s about missing the thrill that goes into finding the perfect scene, having total control over your orgasm, and not having any pressure on how you perform. THAT to me is the real temptation about porn— this sort of freedom and power we feel when we go about watching it.

On another note…
For the record, I’m still probably 45 days or so off porn with no hard temptations of going back. I’m happy to report that I had what I think has actually been the only day where I started to really feel my sex drive kick in and wanted to fuck. If you read my previous post, I’ve been able to get horny with my partners, but never really experienced that primal urge to go out and have sex with them. I think it was triggered when I was looking at one’s facebook photo, but I could be wrong. Either way I was happy to have it occur. Maybe the testosterone was on overdrive that day, who knows.

It isn’t happening regularly which at 23 I think is probably abnormal, but I’m hoping as more time goes by it becomes a more frequent occurrence.

On yet another note…
I was thinking about triggers. For me, a forum I frequent has a section dedicated to porn, I just never look at it. Nevertheless, thread previews come up where you can see a topic title, and I realized that the words themselves are probably the hugest trigger there is for me. It gets the imagination going, but when I think back to looking at porn I remember how the scenes rarely live up to the eroticism the titles have me expecting from them, so it’s a good deterrent to remind myself of that.

I’ll also say that it’s gotten much easier to masturbate using the imagination alone. Sure, I’m imagining stuff I’ve seen in porn at times, but mostly it’s girls I know and I think that’s pretty damn good, healthy progress.

Good luck to the rest of you.