Are you doing PE for yourself, or for a woman

I’ve slept with dozens of women and never had a complaint. Most were when I was a lot younger, before getting married. My ex wife was tight and used to complain about me putting two fingers in. I never felt insecure with her. A recent girlfriend was huge - I could put four fingers in without any discomfort to her. I definitely felt insecure with her and it turns out that her exhusband was much bigger than me and ex boyfriend was bigger again. It was almost impossible to make her cum with straight vaginal sex. But this also applied to her ex partners, despite their size. She was what prompted me to start PE. I now have a new GF and she loves my dick. She had never had a vaginal orgasm until she met me (she’s 40) and now she can now have 10 orgasms in a session of straight vaginal intercourse. It’s not about the size for her but the warmth, security and love. I told her about PE and she wasn’t fussed. I asked her if she would like me to continue and she said she didn’t mind. I think that she wouldn’t mind it being bigger but frankly in the scheme of life we’re both very happy.

My point is that all women are different. A lot more different than a lot of discussions on these forums allow for. Anybody who is focused on the mechanics of sex (size, etc); and this goes for women and men; is missing the main game, which is intimacy. I think that worrying about penis size is a barrier to real intimacy. I’m not saying not to PE. I’m still here after all! I’m just saying that if there is one single answer to great sex it’s intimacy. A big dick just helps!

Nicely put :)

To many guys focus way to much on dick size, etc and forget that intimacy is a really big deal, especially for women.

I’d also add safety, comfort and trust in the list of things that are way more important to having great sex than the size of your dick.

For my Wife. I was very happy before. Now I am slowly developing irrational views.

Definitely for her! Now, I am quite okay with my current size, and so was she before leaving our relationship, I started PE while we were still together and planning to get married, I wanted to give her a surprise, but a couple of extra cms in length would have been ideal. I still remember the expression on her face she used to have every time I would unveil my tool.. I guess I wanted her to enjoy the new size in her and the sight.

Yeah, definitely for her!

Without a doubt I’m doing PE for me.

Both.

For me : a longer unit gives more range of motion when it comes to sex, some positions are not possible if you’re short.
Also , having some extra girth will make my unit look better and will be more “appealing” to me and others.
The extra-confidence is also a huge plus.

For her : having a big dicked partner is something most women like. It’s manly, if its thick it will cover a lot more of her vaginal walls ,hence giving her more pleasure if it’s done properly.
I’m a giver when it comes to sex, so if she’s having fun, I’m having too.

Both. For me and any partner I may have.

It’s always for yourself. If you’re doing it for a woman it’s not really for her, it’s for you, because pleasing her ultimately makes you feel good about yourself.

At least that’s my take on it.

For my ego :)

For myself and my ego. I am fairly average size, BPEL 17cm but it seems small and I feel like it’s small; I think almost all of us have that problem though. Girth is on the low end of average, yet im still going for length right now. My long-term partner tells me its perfect how it is had she doesnt fake stuff - the sex is good. I wish I could say i’m doing it for her to make her enjoy sex more but I honestly dont know that it will. I think deep down, we all do it for ourselves and our ego.

Your right. I have always wanted a huge dick and being a over achiever I strive for the best all the time. If I feel good about myself then i stand up straight and i am more assertive in everything I do.

I do it for myself, and definitely not for any women.

I spent enough of my teens and early 20s doing things for others while neglecting myself. Big trouble. Now that I take care of myself first, it’s so much easier to be present and available for those who enrich my life.

Even if i say that i do it for the women, their satisfaction is also a validation and an ego boost, so i do it for me in all cases.

Yeah this.

I do it for me. IT wouIdn’t be appreciated by anyone eIse.