PE and mental health
I haven’t been active on this forum for years, but I recently thought about posting an update to the many men out there that might be in some way helped by my own personal experience— so here it goes.
I suffer(ed) from OCD for years regarding my feeling of being inadequate. I attempted to use this site to make myself feel better. Eventually my dick grew. Before PE, I had five partners, none of whom commented on my size. Since then I’ve had around 25 partners. While some never said anything, I would say around 2/3 at least alluded to my being large, and some flat out said the word huge. I am not what this forum would call huge. I probably average 5” of girth, 5.2” Max. And 7” NBP. When measuring correctly. It took me years to figure out what “Correctly” is even after being on here for some time.
At the end of the day, I was still very unhappy. I’d get on here and see people larger, and still feel inadequate. If that sounds ridiculous, it is, but the brain has a way of forcing us all into darkness if we let it. I know many people on here are in a similar position, so I want to talk about the things that have finally helped me (after nearly a decade) to cope.
1.) Realize that no one actually cares. I used to think if I got good at sex that girls would want to be with me. Women are tricky. Having a good size doesn’t even come close to beating someone who has a good relationship with their family, has a job they love, and is comfortable in their skin.
2.) Know what average is. Even on this forum, and even from respectable members I am amazed by how inaccurate some of the information is. For a long time, I was obsessed with finding information on studies. Some people would talk about 5” MSG being average. That’s just plain wrong. There isn’t a legitimate study out there that someone can actually present that proves this, but there is a ton of incorrect information on the internet. Kinsey’s study is maximum girth. Many others are base girth or maximum girth. In fact if you look at all the information present, the Maximum girth is likely between 4.8-5, and the mid-shaft is markedly less. Even self surveys put this average around 5 for max girth. I would like to see someone show an actual dataset that suggests otherwise. For length, the most legitimate studies place the average at low 5’s. Even a more conservative estimate would probably make the average somewhere around 5.25” (measured from top) NBP X 4.6-4.8” MSG. It’s probably less. If someone has information that would prove this otherwise I’d be interested in seeing it.
3.) Next, if you’re suffering from comparing with people get off any forum that allows you to do this. It will take over your life. For many men on this forum, PE is simply a way to continue to improve their sex life, but judging by my inbox from the last few years many other men on here are feeling a great deal of anxiety just like I was.
4.) Come to terms with reality. The brutal reality is that many people have big dicks and some women just like a bigger dick. I don’t know if it’s biological, if it makes them feel good about themselves or whatever. The other part is that you have to measure correctly. That means no more headphone cords, or toilet paper or whatever to measure girth, or measuring at an angle from the side while pushing in until you bleed, or whatever it is you do.
Probably the most accurate way is with some paper and seeing where it meets, and over the top with a ruler.
The good part of reality is that if you ever took the insane amount of time to look at studies like I did over the years, you will realize that the idea of 6.5” NBP x 5.5” MSG being anywhere even close to ordinary is insane. It’s not just a little above average, it’s fucking huge.
Then the crazy part of reality is this— even if you have or achieve this size or greater, Some women just won’t even notice. I don’t know why. Is it because you have a big frame? Is it because the last guy they slept with wasn’t far off? Maybe they attract large men with this quality. I don’t know, but statistically it’s very large, like 5th percentile in both categories.
Hopefully that will help some people out. If you are on the smaller end, not mentally unstable, and want to give this a go— the greatest part of reality is that it actually works, and many many men won’t ever know it or have the discipline to follow through on it.