Rethinking how much size matters to women

This is true. Its is not only the false image of sex that the porn industry creates, but also the fact that they lie. Is not just the male performers, is the whole industry. They use special angles and lenses to make the penetration look out of proportions. A few years ago they were advertising guys like mandingo as 12 inches. HE IS NOT. Today, 12 inches is not enough so they advertise guys like Julio Gomez as 14 inches. HE IS NOT.

Like you say, women today are desensitized to the point that if you put in front of them an 8 inch dildo, they will guess its a foot long.

When I read your post, I thought the same. Your dick is perfectly fine as far as size, in fact way bigger than average, but you are tall and big. Add to that this racist profile/fetish that women have with our brothers, and that is the reason for your experience.

Because another thing to add about porn, is that these guys with big dicks are little. They are tiny. They are skinny, ripped, but short. So of course they can manipulate everything to make a 8-9 inch dick look and advertise as a foot. Porn not only lies about size, but also about body proportions and symmetry.

Thanks for your confirmations, man. We all really wonder what women are thinking when you present them with a legit foot long :-D.
hahah

“Good sex is not just about how your dick moves in or fills up her pussy or ass.
For most women, if you’re a good lover, your dick size really isn’t a factor

Let go of the dick ego bros!”

I disagree entirely. (this is just my opinion so it’s only my view)

When i started my PE journey I was erect 5” NBP long and about 5.5 wide. Sex was ok with my partner. She never had any PIV orgasms no matter how hard i banged, or tried motions. Adding those soft penis sleeves over my dick didn’t help either because to her it felt like mush. Once in awhlie with her legs up I could rub her G with my dick and she started to have a few of those but not frequently.

So physiologically and realistically my dick didn’t reach certain places. She jumped on a 7”x6 long rainbow dildo which I bought her. And she said she was able to feel things never felt before and started to like it. Throughout my PE journey I’ve been able to increase my length to a 6.25 NBP length, on really good days 6.5 (Which is rare) and a 6.0 - 7.0 Girth depending on what PE exercises I perform all keeping a somewhat decent EQ.

Note: She also does kegels

Growing this EXTRA girth and length has:

-increased her orgasm frequency (so from maybe one, it’s up to six (6) per session)
-increased her orgasm intensity
-makes her feel even fuller than before.
-hits her G harder with each stroke, she now squirts frequently and loves it
-hits her A spot in the back just a further more in from her G resulting in VERY wet and slippery experience.
-we are searching for the cul de sac (she claims I hit her back but I’m not sure yet)
-hit her cervix which the first few times resulted in the “ouch” response but I tried a washing machine movement
and the swivelling resulted in an orgasm
-given her two anal orgasms (which I never believed existed until she looked me dead in the eye begging me not to stop
because she didn’t know what was coming but begged for me to keep going)
-can orgasm ffrom PIV in many positions (remember she never O’d during PIV sex her whole life (she is 50 yrs old)
-her vaginal canal now actually pulses/contracts when she orgasms around my dick
-much bigger bulge in my pants
-since I fill her vaginal canal more she feels even tighter and I can feel very detailed textures as I penetrate her.
-my orgasms are strong and longer considering the fit is tighter
-slipping my thumb in her roughly 3” girth vs. my 5.75 or 6” girthed dick certainly gives her a VERY different feeling.

So as we are romantic and do all the non sex things leading up to it, size definitely made a difference. I’m not sure why it’s always so dismissive.
When you want to sex gaze with your partner into their eyes and use your hands for something else finger banging her isn’t always the answer.
Oral also may become monotonous to her after awhile.

If size for experience is the discussion then it’s what you bring to the table or what you could potentially bring to the table.
If I had a choice to go back to 5.0 Long and 5.5 girth over my current 6.25 Long and 6.0-7.0 Girth I wouldn’t even consider it.

I’ll admit something here. I was going through a horrid divorce about ten years ago. When i met my still current GF back then i was suffering from ED. Really bad ED. Sometimes even my EL would be 4.5 or 4.75 NBP and girth 4.5, to 5.0 but i had a 60-80 erection. I had my current gf back then ask me…..is it in? and BTW back then she was so tight when i would perform oral on her, her orgasmic spasms made her vaj so tight I thought she would break my fingers off….

so……… I understand the need to feel close and trusting and have all the psychological closeness etc, ………..?

Michael

Sex with your partner is different for everyone. They have a sexual fingerprint. Sure they have similarities, but women are unique just like their finger print. This is truly a case of one size doesn’t fit all, no pun intended.

Michael. you have a study with n= 1.
I could tell you a story where even my natural “only” 5.5 inches of MSEG girth lead to pain for the women. Although we used lubrication, foreplay, she was wet etc etc.
For your women, it may mean all the difference in the world. But a lot of guys could tell the total opposite. Thus, we should be careful.
I agree with you on this, though: 7 inches NBPEL even should very rarely lead to problems and in the big majority of cases should be very pleasurable. Not in 100% of cases, but
95%+ is my guess.
So I understand that 6 > 5 and 7 >6. But I doubt 8 > 7 or even 7.5 > 7. NBPEL, that is.

7NBPEL is long enough to “reach the back” on quite a few females, and 8NBPEL most certainly will “reach the back” on 50% or so, 9NBPEL will “reach the back” on 95% or so ( leaving an inch or so out to spare ).

I agree to disagree.

Im not sure where the data is comming from about “reaching the back”, of women but i have nevrr not hit a womans cervix during sex…

When a woman is fully aroused her cervix is lifted and her vagina can expand up to 8” (depending on the woman). If you are long enough and/or are in the right position, you can reach the posterior fornix. The deepest part of her vagina.

Feels like a little hard “nub”. “Reaching the back” means, that literally your cock is crammed completely in. Your past the cervix, in the posterior fornix and pressing on the back wall. On a couple of females, depending upon how their built it might be the back of their pelvis, and your glans will get pinched, not comfortable.

And is this a good thing in your opinion or not? It looks like a neutral statement but the question would be if you want this to happen generally.
Additionally, I researched this topic quite a bit myself. Do you have data backing up your claim or is this purely anecdotal?
Because I would think 8 NBPEL is way more than enough to reach the back of 95% of women. I think damianromante is also speaking about 8, may it be BPEL or NBPEL.

In my personal experience that’s how it is.

In the 54 vaginas that i’ve penetrated ( I don’t think it’s a huge number ), those were my results. Vaginas like penises come in different sizes. They have different labia configurations ( several popular ones, you could catalog it to a couple dozen ), there are different barrel diameters, different depths, different textures, the cervix is in a different place.

Thats fine. So your of the opinion that most females have endless tunnels for a vagina?