Rethinking how much size matters to women

Thats fine. So your of the opinion that most females have endless tunnels for a vagina?

That’s a ridiculous question.

“Good sex is not just about how your dick moves in or fills up her pussy or ass.
For most women, if you’re a good lover, your dick size really isn’t a factor

Let go of the dick ego bros!”

I disagree entirely. (this is just my opinion so it’s only my view)

When i started my PE journey I was erect 5” NBP long and about 5.5 wide. Sex was ok with my partner. She never had any PIV orgasms no matter how hard i banged, or tried motions. Adding those soft penis sleeves over my dick didn’t help either because to her it felt like mush. Once in awhlie with her legs up I could rub her G with my dick and she started to have a few of those but not frequently.

So physiologically and realistically my dick didn’t reach certain places. She jumped on a 7”x6 long rainbow dildo which I bought her. And she said she was able to feel things never felt before and started to like it. Throughout my PE journey I’ve been able to increase my length to a 6.25 NBP length, on really good days 6.5 (Which is rare) and a 6.0 - 7.0 Girth depending on what PE exercises I perform all keeping a somewhat decent EQ.

Note: She also does kegels

Growing this EXTRA girth and length has:

-increased her orgasm frequency (so from maybe one, it’s up to six (6) per session)
-increased her orgasm intensity
-makes her feel even fuller than before.
-hits her G harder with each stroke, she now squirts frequently and loves it
-hits her A spot in the back just a further more in from her G resulting in VERY wet and slippery experience.
-we are searching for the cul de sac (she claims I hit her back but I’m not sure yet)
-hit her cervix which the first few times resulted in the “ouch” response but I tried a washing machine movement
and the swivelling resulted in an orgasm
-given her two anal orgasms (which I never believed existed until she looked me dead in the eye begging me not to stop
because she didn’t know what was coming but begged for me to keep going)
-can orgasm ffrom PIV in many positions (remember she never O’d during PIV sex her whole life (she is 50 yrs old)
-her vaginal canal now actually pulses/contracts when she orgasms around my dick
-much bigger bulge in my pants
-since I fill her vaginal canal more she feels even tighter and I can feel very detailed textures as I penetrate her.
-my orgasms are strong and longer considering the fit is tighter
-slipping my thumb in her roughly 3” girth vs. my 5.75 or 6” girthed dick certainly gives her a VERY different feeling.

So as we are romantic and do all the non sex things leading up to it, size definitely made a difference. I’m not sure why it’s always so dismissive.
When you want to sex gaze with your partner into their eyes and use your hands for something else finger banging her isn’t always the answer.
Oral also may become monotonous to her after awhile.

If size for experience is the discussion then it’s what you bring to the table or what you could potentially bring to the table.
If I had a choice to go back to 5.0 Long and 5.5 girth over my current 6.25 Long and 6.0-7.0 Girth I wouldn’t even consider it.

I’ll admit something here. I was going through a horrid divorce about ten years ago. When i met my still current GF back then i was suffering from ED. Really bad ED. Sometimes even my EL would be 4.5 or 4.75 NBP and girth 4.5, to 5.0 but i had a 60-80 erection. I had my current gf back then ask me…..is it in? and BTW back then she was so tight when i would perform oral on her, her orgasmic spasms made her vaj so tight I thought she would break my fingers off….

so……… I understand the need to feel close and trusting and have all the psychological closeness etc, ………..?

Michael

Dude, somethings wrong if she seriously doesn’t know of your dick is in even at 50% erection… and it’s not your dick size.

No worries about your view. No harm in differing opinions. We agree on some things. Hardness is a definite factor.

I’m not dismissing the idea that size can play a role in a woman’s pleasure but the original idea in the thread was thinking how much does it really matter to a woman not how much better is it after gains.

I would agree, increased size has made sex with my wife better in some ways. Although after 2 children I don’t want any more length as her vagina has shifted in a way making her more shallow. At 6 ⅞” BPEL I can hurt her and I like burying my cock.

Anyway my question is, have you considered that you became a better lover?

People come closer together over time and sex gets better if the relationship is good. People learn more about eachother as time goes on and good feelings increase. I never understood the hit it and quit it attitude specifically for that reason.

Sex doesn’t get phenomenally good with someone until you’ve done it for a long time. It can be great in the early days if you’re compatible but it doesn’t reach amazing levels for quite some time.
Also hormonal changes in a woman can play a role in a woman’s sexual pleasure levels as well. Not that I’m mentioning anything you don’t know, these are just considerations.

Oh the topic of anal sex. I love this one. I know nothing of your sexual past and habits with your woman and it doesn’t matter. All I’m stating isn’t to argue with you, it’s to point out ideas and that notion that some women are different. Personal experience is personal experience, it doesn’t mean it’s the same for others.

About anal sex, a large part of a woman anal orgasming has to do with trust and her ability to completely let go and relax her asshole. She’ll never ever have an anal orgasm if she’s at all tense or doesn’t trust that you won’t freak out or treat her like she’s gross if you get a little shit on your dick. Trust comes with time and experience with a person.

Also another consideration is maybe you weren’t that good at fucking her ass in the beginning. No offense, just a thought. Most guys don’t know what the hell they’re doing the first few times they get into an ass. I know I sure didn’t. I was way too excited to stay on top of my “love game”

You may have gotten better at fucking an ass over time possibly?
I mean, I get what you’re saying but you don’t need a big cock to give her anal orgasms. Yes they do exist and they exist out of big dick world too. I’m slightly less than average size now and can blow my wife’s mind when I’m in her ass with multiple orgasms cascading into the next. Were very compatible and have a high level of desire for each other. Not bragging that’s just how it is. Rhythm, tempo and trust play the biggest part in my experience. Trust in you and in her own ability to prep properly before anal sex directly influence her ability to relax completely and let the orgasm come unless she’s the type that wouldn’t care about getting shit on you.

Also desire to get fucked in the ass plays a role. Being talked into it by the guy, which more often than not the case with couples trying anal, means she’s willing to try but probably not to the point of being Gung ho about it desire wise. If she’s just trying to please her man by letting him get in the ass her chance of orgasming is pretty damn slim, no matter how big the dick is. Women get better and more confident in their anal skills the more they do it too. It also feels better over time. Do you think it’s possible that you both got better at things in the bedroom?

My wife liked anal alot but didn’t learn how to fully relax and let an orgasm happen for quite some time and her ability wasn’t related to my dick growing. The ability to let herself go is HUGE. That doesn’t happen in the beginning unless you are a true Don Juan.. even then I don’t know

This is my experience tho and not yours I understand.

I feel the same way. I wouldn’t trade my current dick size for my past size, same as you. No gainer would… and I’m not dismissing the fact that noticeable gains are usually pleasing to our women.

I wasn’t saying let go of your dick egos in the sense of stop PE and don’t gain anymore and focus only on becoming a better lover. Im not saying this because society and statistics don’t say I have a big dick. Obviously we all have dick egos otherwise we wouldn’t be members of thundersplace.

I was saying it from a standpoint of its weird when men think your physical penis growth is the only thing you can depend on to make you better in bed. The obsession can create insecurity. If you think a big dick is so important, you can start to wonder things like how much your partner would enjoy a bigger man. That part of the ego that believes a big dick is that important can be a breeding ground for insecurity. Maybe not for you because if you are actually anywhere near 7 EG you are a monster. Not many men would be a comparison to that girth.

There’s so much more to the spectrum of human sexuality than the size of your dick and you have more to offer her than just a big dick.

And Titleist is right. No two women are the same. Some women are obsessed with big dicks while others are obsessed with other things a skilled lover does to her. Some women have large vaginas. Some have small vaginas. Some women get sweeter with age, some don’t. Same goes for men. Same goes for relationships and sometimes there’s a direct correlation between perceived closeness and sexual pleasure.

To me great sex is a major part of a relationship but a big dick is not the be all end all to great sex.

I’m glad to hear your enjoying your wife orgasming more and it’s something you can feel physically. It sounds like she is able to enjoy herself more and whether it’s from her sexual progress or yours, it’s a beautiful thing.

Those types of orgasms are nothing new to me and my wife. Ive always been able to do that to her.. I’m not bragging, I mean what can I brag about, your dick is much bigger than mine. If your dick was my size maybe you would have more trouble getting your wife off.

The original idea of the thread was rethinking how much dick size actually matters to women. In short I agree. Gains are typically good for sex. Are gains or a big dick necessary to keep a good woman satisfied. No

All this talk from us married guys is personal to us.

So to any single guys out there who think they are anything short of big, don’t let your thoughts affect your confidence to connect with a woman on a sexual level just because you are insecure about your penis size or because someone else says a big dick makes a huge difference. It really depends on who you connect with in life.

That’s what I mean by let go of your dick ego. You have more to offer than just a big dick. Honestly if she’s a woman that needs a big dick or fetishizes that, and you don’t have it, she’s not for you. Move on. Don’t be stuck in the box of social programming and hang your head in shame.

If she’s makes a comment or doesn’t want to fuck you again, she’s not for you. Move on and keep trucking. Life’s too damn short to be caught up in thinking a big dick will lead to a more fulfilling sexual life. Some people are more compatible than others.

Don’t let your ego keep you down

Is this why women are pursuing short term mating strategies longer before settling down later and later? They’d rather share the bigger dudes?

Personally I see size mattering to women as a highly subjective matter. Depends highly on the context the women have seen penises in as well as personal experience. I had an ex that thought I had a monster cock because I was her second lover and her previous ex had maybe 3”. Based on this context and her experience she did say she enjoyed the extra size and that she didn’t know what she was missing. Part of that was probably trying to ego boost me, but watching her body squirm also is part truth.

I also had an ex with a lot more experience and I got a “not bad” when I whipped it out. She never explicitly said that size mattered but I didn’t get any complaints either.

Also there’s a large degree of programming with todays young women where media plasters the idea that bigger is better and pop culture references about big ones being better etc. based off this notion women do think they want a big one most of the time because of the hype around it. If women see porn this also will create a dangerous size expectation since size in porn is associated with sexual prowess.

I think when women enter committed relationships size matters less, just like how we learn to appreciate our partners bodies I think women often do the same. We may enjoy massive tits or ass, but we learn to accept enjoy and love women who may not have giant proportions anyway. I think women often feel the same way with dick size and learn to love us even though we may not have a 12” monster or something crazy.

Alright, but while having massive tits and ass is optional and won’t really affect our lovemaking (unless it is some kind of a dealbeaker) having a bigger cock would affect it, whether positively or negatively. Thus, I’m grateful I found Thunder’s otherwise it would have been a very miserable existence looking down on my stubby 5”

Bitches dont care about a dick,,, their narcissists asses care about control…