How I cured my SEVERE premature ejaculation

Well honestly I sometimes like watching porn just like that. Let’s just say I find some aesthetics in it (like when watching pictures of [semi-]naked girls just for the fun of it). That’s for the watching part, as for the jerking off - it was an experiment, I wanted to see how it’d go. I did see, although not exactly like intended but no harm was done. :P :)

Yea I think the porn vs no porn thing is about adapting to greater levels of stimulation.

I have sensitivity issues with my penis head. It’s too sensitive so when I masturbate I focus mostly on stimulating it to try to desensitize it. Is 30 mins a day of edging enough to beat it? How often do I need to edge? I know some days I cant have 30 mins of privacy so would 15 mins suffice?

Whats up Sed? Hope all is well.

I too had a very sensitive head. More specifically, my frenum (the underside of the head) was my biggest trigger spot. 30 minutes a day should be perfect. I would just edge as often as possible. Skipping a day is not big deal, but you can’t really afford to skip 3 or 4 days at a time. It would be better to do something like 3 days on 1 day off instead of 5 on 5 off or something.

Remember that the key to shutting off the trigger zone is to stimulate and NOT cum no matter what. I remember being at the point where all I could do was touch my head with one finger and barely even move it because it was so sensitive. Just keep with it and you will notice improvement quicker than you thought possible!

Good luck!

Thanks guru I’m all over it. I had an edging session this morning when my roommate went to class for about 20 mins. Sometimes though when I edge I’m not that turned on and it feels pointless even though my erection is up. But if I think about naked girls and fucking them the urge to cum gets closer. What do I do about that? Is it telling me something?

WOW, this thread is awesome! I’ve just completed an edging session like no other. I began reading this thread last night, and I must say I’m amazed by how quickly I’ve benefited from such an awesome read.

Edging is already part of my routine, and is also something I’ ve been familiar with for years. Like the majority of those “quick to bust a nut”, I’m attempting to rid myself of pre-ejac.

Long story short.I was able to edge from 8:14 a.m.-10:03 a.m. Without ejaculating. Within the first 5 mins I reached my ponr, and began to isolate the feeling in my penis apart from the thoughts up top in my head.

Within seconds the feeling subsided, and I was able to continue on stroking. I then decided to direct my focus towards the sensation, while allowing my mind to be as perverted as it liked.

The result was a 10 min stroke-fest before ponr. Well, after repetition doubled my previous duration to a 20 min lapse before ponr, I decided to lube up and pop on a porno.

Naturally, the time from ponr to ponr decreased drastically. That’s when I decided to follow the advice given by the OP(everything outside of the porno provision), and I ended up on the good side of a very stimulating scene.

Identifying trigger points seems to be a must in this fight against evil, telling yourself “Yes it feels good, but not good enough” will allow to consistently stroke yourself, deep calm breaths help you relax, and “digging for gold”? Well you won’t feel like ejaculating afterwards.

Also, I noticed whenever my pc would tense up that a slight reverse kegel would eliminate the sensation, and place me further away from ponr. Thanks OP and good luck to all!

Sounds like a sweet session ddavis! Holy shit I bet it was awesome. I also like your “yes it feels good, but not good enough” mentality. I think I will try that next edging session I have.

Another thing about deep breathing that I have recently stumbled across is trying to count 100 deep breaths in a row. Sometimes it is hard to stay focused on your breathing and staying relaxed, but if you are actually counting in your head it seems easier. At least for me. Good luck all!

I am often suffering from premature ejaculation as well and as you have mentioned there are 2 factors physical and psychological.

The physical part is that I am circumsised and similar to your situation, the point where the gland meets the shaft is very sensitive and especially during specific positions in sex it gets over stimulated and as a result I blow early. I guess this has to do as well with having other certain parts of my body being very sensitive, full of nerve endings. For example I have sensitive nipples and my gf knows that and licks them to stimulate me and turn me on.

Now a few times I remember I wasn’t able to cum and lasted forever was when I was quite drank and sensitivity goes away from the body or when I was nervous or stressed for something, like when I had sex with a prostitude. And just now that it comes to my mind sometimes I would last very long, when the condom I would use would in some way change its shape at the specific trigger point area and get un lubricated so that I would lose sensation from that point. This would have happened more often with specific Durex condoms, however I am not sure which one.. Maybe it was the blue one, the performa, but I gave up on those ones since they were breaking on a usual basis.

Concluding, I guess the most valuable point for me is to de-sensitize that specific part of my dick.

Try Priligy (Dapoxetine)

The difference in control/time etc when jerking off with and without porn is well known to me. The difference can be huge, it can range from not even getting hard without porn, to reaching the PoNR in seconds with it.

Even though severly limiting porn when starting to work on stuff like this is probably a good thing, I feel like having good control also while watching porn is something one should be able to work oneself up to. (If I can’t handle porn, should I expect to handle a real woman?) I was thinking of a way of gradually introducing more and more ‘heavy’ visual stimuli into the ‘training regime’, so a while ago I actually made folders on my computer with different levels of ‘excitement’. For instance, the first level would be pictures of hot female faces. (Which would be run as a slideshow) Just faces, not a lot of cleavage or anything like that. That would be the next level, nice cleavage etc, but no actual nudity. Next level would be a little nudity, slowly introducing video etc, and the series of levels would end with hardcore video porn. The idea was to establish real control within each level before moving up. (I’m not talking about moving up the levels in one session, but spending several days on each, or as long as it takes) I remember I could get up to the second and third levels with decent control, but as with most other projects I have, I kinda fell out the regime. I should start up again.

Hey Norsey, good idea. I did something very similar to that a long time ago. The real key to being able to edge to porn is to NOT allow yourself to cum while watching it. Even if you have to stop earlier than you wanted to. Also when you feel like you are at the point where you can’t handle any stimulation try simply touching your penis without strokes just to get SOME stimulation and see how long you can keep that up. That will make a big difference. Hope is all is well!

Just an update on where i am. I have continued to try and desensitize my trigger points through masturbation. My main trigger points were thrusting so i have as always incorporated this into my solo sessions. The past few days i have noticed that while watching porn i can last much longer than usual. I put this down to one of a few reasons. Firstly, I have just returned from a vacation where my mind was completely taken off everything premature ejaculation related. Additionaly, I have been taking magnesium citrate tablets as I have read that these can have some effect ( although unproven). Furthermore, before my solo sessions i have been doing manual stretches.
Therefore, to conclude i believe one or a combination of these factors has resulted in more control. However, to note this is during solo sessions, not sex; i have always had more control in solo sessions so i cannot say for sure if this is a true improvement or just a lucky streak.

One last point, i believe my p.e is completely mental as for example when i get close(hugging,dancing) with a female for a period of time i can feel my penis become fuller and my arousal levels soar to the point where i know if we were to have sex i would blow straight away. I never(or rarely) get this feeling through watching porn. Therefore, i believe once i get used to this level of arousal around a woman i will be able to control it and put an end to my p.e.

Thanks everyone for all your inputs

What up Cruxx? Good to hear you are making progress! The vacation/break is always a good thing. I find that these short sort of reset periods always have me coming back strong.

As for you having more control alone vs with sex, your control will gradually transfer over to both. You say that your problem is mostly mental so once you get confident enough to not worry about PreE and get it out of your head your control during sex will be at a completely new level. Trust me when I say you are on the right path.

Your arousal levels being increased when around women is a good thing. It means you are working properly! Keep up the edging and keep updating us on this thread and I know you will crush this thing. Best of luck brotha.

Thank you guru. This thread is gold!

Glad you enjoyed the read brotha! Thanks for stoppin in.