How I cured my SEVERE premature ejaculation

Ok, thanks, but am I wrong in going for amount of times I hit my PONR or should I try to prolong the time it takes to my first PONR?

hey wait a second, if you last 3 minutes, you cant go for 3 minutes and a bit more, next, you crash!
just relax a minute and then again, i have had times i lasted 6 minutes but this is rare in me,

how do you feel the progress, in the frequence of edge? there will be more frequent times you last a bit more, while you go through the weeks?

I definitely would not go that route, don’t even try to focus too much on time or your PONR. Since you’re only lasting for 3 minutes you kinda have to look at time, so set up a stopper instead that will go off in 3 minutes so you don’t have to stare at the clock.

Try this- keep a glass of water next to you next time you’re edging. Sometime between the middle and the end, CHUG a bunch of the water. I think you’re just so used to ejaculating quickly and that is what your brain is used to, so it might help remove yourself from that situation. Also from time to time just imagine something really weird in your room, like a cat with 6 legs or 30 spiders. It sounds silly but it helps- I used to have the same problem as you and I would be in this mindset that my whole life is based on whether I last long or not, so doing these things would kinda take me out of this thinking and realize that I am still in the real world. I never do this anymore, I just used it to get over a hump.

I’m just unsure of the intensity of edging, am I supposed to just go as hard as I can for the time until right before the PONR? And how long should I wait after reaching the PONR till I start again?

Alex, at the moment it’s not a terrible worry, more like my only worry, I’m only 18 and had sex like three times and every consecutive time I had sex I lasted longer than the time before. It’s just that I don’t have a partner at the moment so I might as well work on it.

John, definitely take it easy and edge on the softer side. You first want to be able to get to around 30 minutes regularly. Once you reach that, you should start going harder. How long you wait after the PONR depends on your body- don’t start off again if you know you’ll reach your PONR in 5 seconds. I can wait around 5 seconds and be completely fine, but that may be 20 or 30 seconds for you.

Just a note to anybody reading this - I’m assuming most of you edge on your back or sitting down. Once you can reach 30 minutes doing this, you should edge in different positions that better mimic sex. Such positions should include thrusting while standing up, thrusting on your knees (doggy style), and missionary (this is hard because you have to balance your self on one hand). This is crucial for me because I have weak/defective pelvic floor muscles, so any movement and thrusting makes me involuntarily contract my BC muscles. I can last forever having sex or edging while sitting and lying down, but if I’m on top or thrusting, I could last as little as 2 minutes. I think I already mentioned this, just making sure.

then you should begin edging in that position…

wait a moment. you said you lasted more time in real sex! (not my matter, sorry, i am only consulting) but did you use this practice of edging, how did it worked with ya???

I have this situation too

I’m not really sure what your question is, but the reason I would last longer during sex is that I’m going at a slower speed compared to when I used to edge, I am now aware that I was going way too fast :)

but how long have you been edging till you had results?

I haven’t had any results from edging, only reason my stamina increased was because I had more sex

so am I losing my time?

Earlier today I tried edging with no previous stimulation. Edged while I was watching some documentary about the American prison system. I was able to go for 40 minutes at a good pace before PONR, I think this was because I was relaxed and seated. During sex I tense too much I think.

But holy cow my flaccid is swollen now, like one of them kids toys now :D

The issue I have with premature ejaculation is that I believe it to be a problem which exists solely within the mind. By that I mean, it all depends on whether your mind will allow yourself to ejaculate or not. My notion is based off my findings that I can ejaculate 2 minutes in or 30 minutes in, depending on how aroused my brain is. If I am relaxed and not too concerned, I can last very long, but if I’m anxious, then it is all over within a minute. I suppose the idea of edging is to develop control over your mind, but I feel that alone would not suffice. I can edge for 20 minutes within the comfort of my home, but I can’t fuck for 20 minutes when a hot blonde is grinding me. I’ve also found that breathing and relaxing techniques whilst fucking are not that effective as they are purported to be, though, I accept that may just be a personal problem. What I feel I require is to find a way to desensitise my mind, more so than my penis.

I firmly believe it’s both. The OP posted the trigger points, which I’m not sure I have, but I certainly have/had hyper sensitivity with my glans.

I remember in the past some times I could literally stroke for like 30 seconds, no other stimulation other than rubbing my dick (aka watching/thinking of baseball) and I’d hit PONR. But I agree that the mental aspect is a huge part of it too.