Join the challenge! Porn detox!

No porn is difficult but fun to see how long I can go without

Hookers instead of porn are more a step to the side instead of a step forward. Physically it’s better in the sense that you are cumming from a woman & not depending on the hand but emotionally & in my opinion morally (though very debatable I know) it’s worse than porn.

I’ve stopped all porn for the last year. Last day I saw porn but didn’t felt much horny actually, very strange.

I’m not for prostitution either physically or morally but I can see how one might resort to that. Getting someone to have sex with you, particularly an attractive woman can be difficult for many and almost impossible for others. I don’t pretend that people don’t have sexual needs and going without can be emotionally devastating for some people.

Day 9. I had a dream last night in which I absent-mindedly started looking up porn videos. I feel fine today though. Still going good.

If it helps I have had dreams where I was looking at porn as well. Sucks actually since I’d like a real sex dream.

I guess this is technically between days because I’m about to go to sleep. I just got the crazy urge to go look at some of my old favorite manga/comic erotica. I rode it out, but I have to say that one came out of nowhere.

I had a porno dream last night too. Dreamt I was looking at still pictures on my hard drive. remembered I wasn’t supposed to and stopped.

This is the start of week 6, I find in the last week I have been wanting to look at porn. I think because I have been experiencing some life frustrations, and porn seems like a way to have an escape from that. Sounds very “addictiony” when I write it out like that.

Day 10 Here. This will be a tough one. The girl is gone working until later this evening. I have some things to go out and do today, but most of my time needs to be spent here working on presentations for work.

Once upon a time this would have been the perfect setting for a porn marathon, I’ve developed better tools for coping since then, but it still worries me.

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^Sta-kool, I know what you mean. The part of my brain that felt worried or anxious would temporarily shut down when I would look at porn or read erotica for an hour or two straight. After I finished, I would feel even worse as the “high” wore off and I recognized that watching porn didn’t fix anything.

Sexual frustration has been one of my biggest triggers in the past. Between her work schedule and some temporary medical issues (grouped together by sheer bad luck), my fiancee is not always “available” for sex as often as I would like. I’ve often justified watching and jerking to porn by telling myself that my real life outlet is temporarily unavailable and I’ll cut back when she’s open for sex again. However, I find it hard to stop watching even during periods when we’re having sex; the frequency of spontaneous arousal decreases as well due to the “long term” effects.

^ Update: made it through day 10 with no porn. I kept pretty busy as well.

Nice work.

“The part of my brain that felt worried or anxious would temporarily shut down when I would look at porn or read erotica for an hour or two straight. After I finished, I would feel even worse as the “high” wore off and I recognized that watching porn didn’t fix anything.”

Ex fucking zactly. This is the reason I’m treating this as an addiction. It’s an impulsive crutch for when I’m anxious, just like alcohol & drugs have been in the past.

It is an addition, it’s not evil, but it is harmful. I slipped up yesterday, so back to zero I guess, although that makes 2 hours of porn in 4 months - which is fucking fantastic. Again this time I had to put the porn down, close my eyes and fantasize about my girl to cum, so clearly progress is being made. :D Anyway, just needed to post that I had fucked up again but it’s not getting me down.

Day 11 - I don’t have any overwhelming urges to look at porn, but I am starting to wonder if it will be “safe” to look at it again after a month or two. The problem is that I’ve been down that road before and it doesn’t end well. They say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result; for me, jerking off to porn (and usually just viewing it alone) has produced the same results every time.

determination - Good for you man! The slip-ups hurt, but it’s helpful to look at the big picture as well. What’s more important: that you’ve watched two hours of porn in four months, or all the improvements that you’ve made from NOT watching porn? The numbers are nice, but your overall quality of life is the important part.

^Addendum: I’ve also had to swear off of looking at sexy non-nude photos. They have the same behavioral effect on me as porn. This makes me sad, as the non-nude stuff used to be my safety net. Inevitably, I just spend time downloading/looking at non-nude photos comparable to my time spent watching porn. Both pastimes work on the same need to find newer, more stimulating images (or, again, the “Collidge Effect”).

I must really be screwed up. *points* —> Poster Child for the Effects of Internet Images During Early Development :wave:

That’s what worked great for me. It makes it easier to avoid and masturbating. Whenever I come across the threads about sexy women, tits and asses, I used to just click thinking it’s not porn. Ever since I started avoiding them I feel an extra calmness and sexual energy.