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That’s the same thing I would tell myself: “It’s okay as long as it’s not porn.” The reality is that I can be sucked in by anything that turns me on, at least during this phase of my life.

Also, Day 12. I went another 5 days without masturbating. Without the porn I just don’t feel the urge. I do become horny as hell whenever something stimulates me though. The girl should come off of her period in a couple days; I plan to put the excess sexual energy to work on her. Also, I’m on the verge of getting a somewhat-needed second job (we both work already so we get by), which should score me some sexy points in the provider department. :up:

Day 7 down going for 8.

fuck i’m a loser, i can tell i’m just going to keep this destructive behaviour up for the rest of my life. i’m now 24 & like a little fucking kid. fuck

It is not easy.

One day at a time. One hour at a time. One minute at a time.

You can do it. But yes, it is difficult.

Thanks, I just needed to vent, am feeling particularly down today

That’s good news, frustration tends to bring about change. :) And I know how you feel, been there.

Self condemnation just makes the problem worse. What would you tell a little brother or son who had the same problem? Would you talk to him like that? OR would you be understanding and tell him its really common, and don’t get discouraged, just pay attention to what sets it off and just keep working at it.

Do you really think you will solve something like this at first try? Just shoot for doing less, slowly work at tapering down. If you never quit or get discouraged at ANYTHING you can eventually succeed…this is no different.

Just remember, talk to yourself like you would talk to your own son in the future…that will take the huge swings out of your emotions concerning this stuff, as it should.

^Good advice :)

Reading a thread at another site, I looked at three amateur pix today linked to a post, about 20 seconds each. Curiosity got the best of me, and I clicked with out thinking. On the other hand, total viewing time was about 60 seconds, and I immediately thought “what the heck am I doing” So I am going to take it as a bump in the road, maybe even a test that I passed.

I went sixteen days and I am starting over again today.

Day 16 - It’s getting difficult. I already broke one of my rules and went to a text only version of a website to read about the latest updates, though I stayed strong and didn’t go to the actual website. I know I’ve been doing a bad job of keeping myself occupied over the past two days; it gives the mind a chance to dwell on things and ultimately think about porn.

Day 18 - Going strong! I got laid a couple times in the past two days though, so I can’t take all the credit. My libido came back in a hurry when presented with a living, breathing sexual outlet (i.e. my lovely S.O.). It’s not any easier though. I’ll be fine for a few hours until I think of something porn related, then the thoughts just build off of one another until I think of all the different porn I’m missing.

I’ve had some success fighting off the urges by telling myself that I’m not just curbing porn because of the day to day addiction; I’m also improving my perceptions of women, my sex life, and especially my partner. Those benefits will diminish if I start watching porn again. It helps.

Day 19 - I am teetering on the edge, and I think I’m getting close to where I fell off the wagon last year. In addition to the above, I’m consistently telling myself that looking at porn will fuck up my dopamine response again and make me less inclined to get off my ass and do “good” activities.

The good news is I think my fiancee can sense the increased libido. I got laid for three days in a row; I can’t remember the last time that happened, but I’m certain it was a few years ago, and I know I’m putting in more “work” to get her turned on. The bad news is that even though we’re having crazy sex, I still can’t get porn off of my mind entirely.

BossaNova - Look at the positive change so far as a real break through! Getting laid 3 days straight should tell you something, don’t let that old addiction win!

Agreed - sounds like very good stuff, BossaNova.

Especiallly all the sex! I am having a dry spell right now, I think it is one of the reasons I am finding the idea of porn very tempting.