Join the challenge! Porn detox!

Good idea. I will join it!

Well, last night I sunk to a new low. I was was on a cam site, & there was this girl who was clearly extremely shy, & only doing the job to try & break out of her shell. She was Egyptian/Brazillian, & had just come out of a long relationship. Had only been with 3 guys in her life, inexperienced, but trying to push her boundaries. This was a huge, huge, turn on for me. She very reluctantly & nervously went into a private show, & I just had to see what was coming next. But, I had cancelled my credit card a few days earlier, so I couldn’t pay. But I was so, so aroused. So.. I called up my own mother, told her some story about wanting to buy something on ebay, got her credit card details & paid for the show :) :( .

I rationalize it to myself in that she will get the money back & it won’t matter, but still. I couldn’t control myself, & the level of arousal & anticipation was so high it led me to making up some bullshit & taking money from my own mum. Pathetic situation, just had to vent.

Does porn of you and your girlfriend count?

OK, I’m back in & more serious than ever. Day 3 began this morning.

I’m still going but I’ve stopped counting days.

Hey all. Still going. I’m doing much better by not focusing on things too heavily or counting days (hence the end of the regular posts), and this time around I’ve cut all porn related intake (any viewing whatsoever, as well as industry info, forums, etc.). I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I was actually inspired by Charlie Sheen saying that counting days didn’t work for him because it sets you up to crash that much harder if you fail. The “one day at a time” (cliche’ I know) approach has done wonders for me.

Unfortunately, I still work at a place that stocks porn; I just shelve it and move on.

Sounds like you’ve hit an improved stride BossaNova - good work - keep at what works!

…and I fell off again today. I don’t know how many days it was and I don’t really care. Time to start over again. Thank you for the encouragement determination.

Also, I’ve proven to myself once again that I cannot cope with any exposure to porn. Just taking a peek threw me right off the rails.

I want to let everyone know that I have been doing very well at avoiding porn. The worst that I get is reading personals on craigslist and looking at images of different sexual positions. One time I watched videos on making a girl squirt but I skipped the sexual segments fairly well. I stopped watching porn in the middle of August and it has been relatively good for my libido. The reason I stopped watching porn was because my libido was severely affected and I needed very graphic pornography to reach erection.

What affects my libido more than anything is stress. When I am not stressed out, my libido is great.

I’m going to have some problems reading through the whole thread, but I do have some basic questions such as if it’s possible to do PE without porn. I mean it’s pretty hard to get an erection everyday without porn if you’re accustomed to porn.

My interest in this topic results from the amount of time I waste on porn, the hard disk space and bandwidth it consumes, and it’s kind of a shameful thing really. On the other hand, I do enjoy masturbating almost every day, and I often find I have to visualise past sexual experiences to achieve orgasm. Speaking very seriously, the cost I have incurred throughout my life from masturbation and pornography is massive, in terms of money, time, opportunity, esteem, career, family, you name it. That might sound dramatic but it is not the dramatic events that hurt over time, but the silent, stealthy habits and happenings. Porn is a part of my life, but I don’t think it should be. I don’t want to overstate the problem, but porn addiction is symptomatic of issues I have, such as indecision, procrastination, withdrawal and self isolation.

The challenge is that I am so used to it, and have a terrific porn collection which I can’t bear to destroy. My ED issues predate the porn. I mean I had watched some blue movies and looked at some naughty pictures, but at about 17 (I am 38 now), after some life changes like moving away from home, I found spontaneous erections were a thing of the past. Erectile quality went to shit. I state this because I have seen the hard ons of other men, older men, as in their forties, fifties, sixties, and not only did the cocks fill up like rapidly helium-inflated balloons, but women have told me that my penis wasn’t as hard as some other much older men’s. So I am not operating in an information abyss. In the few periods that I have detoxed, involuntarily I might add, there has been a difference in erection quality, but not in spontaneity or speed of achieving erection. There is a lack of penile and overall physical fitness that contributes to the specific problems that I have, particularly penile. Which raises the conundrum, how does one do enlargement and fitness exercises for the penis without porn. I don’t have a partner, I don’t have prospects of getting one in the near future. But one thing I do have is the notion that PE is part of a healthy lifestyle, and that it can help me.

I know the board is “anonymous”, but I am genuinely embarrassed at having such stupid problems at my age. I’m a grown man, and even though I know better, I am self-indulgent to the point of self-destruction. I have no partner, no children, career is in the gutter, and I feel I have wasted my entire life. It hasn’t helped that I have had pretty severe career and personal problem over the past decade. But that’s another topic, and I am not here to gather pity, but to collect information and perhaps motivation to start on the right track, and to actually for once to get started on that right track.

Yes you can. It might take a bit, but in short order you will probably be getting porn-less woodies even when you wish you were not.:rolleyes:

Walrus, you have been around a bit and have probably gotten what n00b gains are to be had with hands on PE. Have you considered hanging? Not only is it PE that you do without any engorgement, it would give you a sitting at the compooter hobby to replace the pron.

Most Important Hanging Threads especially Homemade Hanger Models and Instructions if $ is a problem.

I’m IN - day 15 and counting.
First mile stone is 90 days - but I want to completely kick the habit.

The reason will sound familiar to you guys: I do enjoy porn a GREAT deal, really love it but the stimulus I now need to keep hard is simply too high.
Several times I lost my erection during intercourse with hot girls - and that was while being on Viagra :(

The last girl I freaked out with insisting on spanking, throat fucking, anal sex and choking her hard…probably a bit much for the first time ;)

I read great things about how people got back to “normal” stimulation needs and I’d love to move in that direction as well.

To motivate me I bought some stupid stickers and every day I glue a new sticker at the frame of my monitor.
Since I’m only watching porn on that screen it serves as a constant reminder, make me proud (I know, stupid, but it works) and I want to fill up the entire frame of my 24”.

I have been considering taking a short break from PE(minus my manual stretching) just to break out of this porno habit. I keep getting pulled back in due to needing something to help me get it hard so I can jelq or do my erect pumping. I think if I take a short break then maybe I can get the erection without needing inspiration. What do you guys think?

Good news/bad news. Bad news is that I broke the streak at about 6/7 months. Good news - it was with my gf and even though looking at the porn aroused me, I didn’t get the urge to masturbate to it and after a day, I don’t get flashbacks like I used to before I quit. The shackles are no more!

6th day and counting…