No More Porn For Me

i have not looked at porn or ejaculated in over a week, today i went to see if i could get an erection and it would no go past about 60% is this normal?

Yes. It’s normal. People tend to go one of two ways after abstaining from porn / masturbation. Some get ragingly horny others experience a lack of libido. The lack of libido sorts itself out in time. This site has heaps of good info on this subject. You are not alone.

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I need some support guys. This always happens to me when I have no work or schoolo- I get bored, & behave self destructively. Drinking, gambling, spending too much in general, & of course porn. I think I’ve spent 500 dollars in the last week or two on camsites. I’ve done the most idiotic thing & have created the illusion of friendship with these girls. I’ve chatted with them, they’ve seemed happy to chat back even when no money is involved. They’ve seen me on cam, they compliment me ( of course, I’m not that stupid) but I am young & reasonably handsome & I think may stand out form the usualy clientel sometimes so it seems so genuine a lot of the time, even though I try to look at it logically and realize they just want money. I’ve had some cam girls do plenty with me on cam that they wouldn’t usually do which just furthers the illusion of some kind of relationship. I don’t want to be dramatic but I just want to stop, this is making me unhappy.

I desperately need somebody to talk some sense into me, I can’t believe I’ve become so emotionally involved over something like this. I’m fantasising about going to these countries & dating these women, being with them, it’s absolutely unrealistic and pathetic but somehow it’s happened to me & this is the way my brain is thinking. I need a real girlfriend, but so long as I’m addicted to this it’s not going to happen.

Great thread! Great stories of seeing through the problem and finding support to diminish the issue or eliminate it entirely! Following this gives me hope to help me fend off my attempts at this addiction I have..

They say the way to healing is to acknowledge the issue. For me, the issue has many folds. Sure I can tell you about my first devastating childhood problem that helped me veer into my porn addiction, but I won’t, too much, on me and for everyone else. But porn (and it’s venue of acquiring it, Internet/computer) seems like an easy escape from everything. And that escape helps those who have problems in life’s downturns. Being an single Asian American male, I feel that my life has been longing for companionship, and when I didn’t have it, I find the next easiest thing, personal release through porn. Thus feeling the gaping hole after that release.. It got to the point where I did it religiously as if a ritual for about 5 years and during that time, 1.5 of masturabtion daily (I’m 28). This addiction essentially broke up my very first relationship I ever had (and also my first love)! How? Well, with the porn, I revolved my life around watching it, such as buying an MP4 video portable player with X amount of memory then storing it with my FAV Asian Porn stars. Then I would make an excuse to her to why I’m watching videos or playing video games (another problem which helped build my depressive state.. Video games), instead of spending time with her. But I digress, it got so bad that I downloaded any porn available on my fav artists! I only stopped when my hard drive filled up (another story when I burned them to a DVD disc and external hard drive). So what does one do with all that ‘entertainment’ porn? Well I watched it.. With male toys..

So for 5 years, I spent money on toys, watching hardcore scenes and doing everything to help mask my depression, which in turn was making another depressive route in my life. Who could I turn to? If I told my any of my friends, they would laugh at me, avoid me and essentially alienate me from my child hood friends. And being Asian, the problem only multiplies, because well.. Asians are a tight community and word gets around quick. So I was stuck (still am) with this addiction. Try for 1.5 straight years of coming home from work, playing video games then jerking off, while at the same time, feeling lonely, depressed and essentially reliving past accomplishments and questioning your life for being a loser!

Being depressed is one thing, doing something about it is another. Finding WHY is key, and well.. That’s why I’m here (I got a small pecker :P), to tell my story and that my porn addiction is now a small role in my life’s block. I’m not saying that I’m this guru who has turned his life around in mere seconds and I’m porn free, heck, I have a 2 Hard Drive, 2 laptops (one for living room and one for room), more than a few sex toys (flesh light ect ect), and other various things related to porn, but guess what, it’s nearly been 2 weeks since I jerked off(and going to restart my PE life), got a new job, bought some self help books for the lady department (books to help me with women) and hopefully everything will set itself. I’m a dreamer, and that leads to words, thus leads to action.. Which starts with the inside and seeing the problem..

It’s been nearly two weeks since I touched myself. I had the urge soo bad recently, while looking for new porn, even just DL’d a new artist last night (1 scene). Heck my new laptop (one I’m currently on), has over 500gig memory.. Guess where the memory goes/went to? Even with all those exposure at my fingertips (literally), I reminded myself of my perils, and that anything will help trigger a lapse into my depressive state which I’m trying to get better from and hopefully find my life’s potential (such as having a 7-9 incher, bone pressed :P). For 1.5 years daily, for 5 year track and for nearly two thirds of my life (watched porn), I feel like I’m always down and escaping is easily the best thing to do. Hopefully I will destroy this addiction of porn, and will eventually bring peace within me and not feeling that gaping hole feeling, after jerking off! Also, I have more energy if I don’t touch my self, something I found after the 1.5 daily life of whacking it. More energy makes life easier to deal with.. I see a goal, I’m working towards it, and do not want any sort of deviation to it, life is about moving forward, since everything changes, why could not one’s resolve?

- J

So you had stopped watching porn and jerking off for a few days. After 1 or 2 weeks you have begun to just watch porn without jerking it, which if you are correct and porn is a problem (which it sounds like it is) then you have eliminated the wrong thing.

When you finally give up and have to masturbate, try turning the tables and jerk off without porn. See how that works :)

No, masturbation isn’t wrong, just when I looked at it lately, I was going down the same roller coaster that has been plaguing me (with porn as a driving factor of course). I’m still fighting it, don’t get me wrong, but every step forward is key to help eliminating it. There will be urges, but part of healing is to go past it no?

Heh, masturbation with porn= 1 min man for me, while without, dang.. Takes too long! Plus, not sure how can someone masturbate without porn.. That’s how dependent on porn I was..

Wondering if anyone seen that movie with Del Toro, “Things we lost in the Fire.” The last scene is perfect, just switch the porn with meth and bam! But not sure if anyone cried during a time of revelation when telling the world of their porn problem heh.

Interesting thread. Real topic and a real issue. I understand addiction. I have quit smoking twice and I am positive I am done. I am happily married, have a good sex life, (although never enough real sex) and am active physically. I have a good job but it has changed. Kids have taken me out of some of the things I used to do. Porn has always been a part of my life and has become a problem now.

Yes it has been interesting watching the porn revolution with the internet. You can hardly find a porn mag today that does not have anal or DP in it now. It has become accessible and that is the biggest issue I have with the addiction. I have kept it to mags and a few streaming sites but it is a problem. Now it is the build up or the hunt that is the thrill. The anticipation is more fun than the porn.

I need to divert this to attention to my family, my activities and my job. I know this and I know what I have to do but it is still hard and taking that first step is the biggest.

I will have to come back an reread all these. That being said. Thundersplace and PE have been almost as big a distraction as porn in my life. Thanks for the other sites mentioned here. I will check them out.

As to the nay sawyer’s. Addiction is real. Porn addiction is one of them.

I too struggle with porn addiction as well as some compulsive addictions. I’ve talked it over with the wife but brushed it off as a compulsive personality trait. I believe that my obsession is the main reason for my delayed ejaculation problem, I have to give the wife an intermission after 30 min and still can’t get off without ferociously masturbating. I started taking my Prozac again for anxiety and depression hopefully that will help some. I know it takes on average 21 days to unlearn a bad habit but damn this is going to suck! I will keep updated posts in my future logs here for anyone that cares.

Good for you if you have a girlfriend!

Could be the Prozac thats causing the delated ejaculation, check out the adverse effects one of the is anorgasmia.

http://en.wikip edia.org/wiki/P … Adverse_effects

All of this is very true. I de-sensitized myself once like that.

No, I have had this problem since before I started taking Prozac. I think it’s due to pe.

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It looks impossible to me to take porn off.