Premature Ejaculation

Hi all. I haven’t been an avid poster on thunders since joining up, I’m usually just a lurker, reading a few posts here and there and searching to find anything related to my problem. Now as the title suggests I am suffering from premature ejaculation yet despite searching, reading and implementing I still haven’t managed to fix this quite embarrassing problem of mine. Now it has not been a problem that I’ve had my whole life ( I am only 19) but has definitely come into play in the last few months, since acquiring a lady friend. Now I know I can easily be categorised into the normal “premmie” guy but I believe my problem is quite different (but hopefully not unique!).

I can masturbate normally for quite a while without the urge to ejaculate however this time depends on a few factors such as mood, how horny I am etc. I have also recently been on the receiving end of some blow jobs and hand jobs, with mixed results. I remember the first time I received a hand job, she literally put her hand in my pants gave it two shakes and I was finished. I was however lucky to engage my P.C (or P.B?) muscle so that I didn’t ejaculate everywhere. At the time I didn’t think it was a huge problem, We had been making out for a while and I was pretty worked up not to mention I hadn’t gotten a hand job for quite some time. I think it was just because it was the first time (with her) that I finished so quick as in subsequent jobs I have been able to last a lot longer ( sometimes even just giving up after a while).

What really scared me though was that on one of these occasions things got a bit more heated and we ended up having sex ( not my first time - my first time I was incredibly drunk). She was very tight yet wet and while not having a particular huge member, around 7x5.5, I penetrated her slowly until she was comfortable with it. This is where things get embarrassing. I pull out and then push back in but the sensation is just too great that after the one thrust I have to cum. Quite literally a “one pump chump”. I tried several times after in the next few days with the same result. Now this really affected me (and my ego) and caused me to do a lot more reading into it and ultimately try and do something about. I started re-reading some posts (there are quite a few good ones about) on psychological methods, kegels, edging and even tantric methods. I vaguely remember reading a post on Premature Ejaculation a while back about another thunders member who had the same problem, where upon entering the sensation was just too great - the warm wetness of her vagina - and struggled to last. I wish I could find that post again because I really want to solve this problem.

I have tried kegeling (I am in fact still doing it) and I edge every time I masturbate now. It has been about a month now since I started religiously kegeling and edging ( with rest days for the kegels) and I have even tried to bump up my cardio. I am only 19, go to the gym, play basketball, have a fairly decent frame yet I feel very inadequate and emasculated by the fact that I am unable to have sex with my girlfriend. This bothers me greatly as she is always wanting to go to the next level. I only finger her or perform oral on her now, as I am too afraid that I will under perform once again. I have joked about it with her and she seems fairly ok with it, but I envy those men who are able to have sex with their partners for extended periods of time and hope that one day I will be able to so.

What I really want to know from all of this is whether or not the problem I have could be a result of physiological or perhaps genetic problems. If someone else out there has experience with a similar problem I would very much like to know how (or if) you managed to overcome this sexual dilemma.

Thanks

This sentence shows you are starting to screw yourself up in the head.

So you blew a load to fast. That does not make you “inadequate” or “emasculated”. The more you make this a mental problem, the more trouble you are going to have.

Honestly, it sounds perfectly normal, and I think this is a case of “practice makes perfect”. You are not the first guy who blew a load too quickly the first few times he had sex.

You just need to get used to the idea of having sex with her. Sounds like she is a willing partner, just relax next time and don’t worry about it.

If I had those stats I never would have found thundersplace.

If she’s willing, I suggest you try having her on top of you. That way, you’re not thrusting, and she has more control over everything. Many guys - including me - are able to last longer in the “girl on top” position.

Otherwise, I agree with sta-cool. It’s mostly a mental thing, and it’s definitely something you can overcome.