Originally Posted by 8-Ball
Having a preference is one thing but to routinely go on extremely lengthy, unsolicited diatribes about small dicks and the men that have them is another entirely.
Yeah, that’s the crux of the issue! It’s fine for women to have dick-size preferences, or preferences about eye color or skin tone or whatever, same as men have preferences about physical traits of women. And I can understand women talking frankly about those preferences in private in a way that could be offensive when men are around — just as the current thread at Thunder’s Place about strong-smelling pussy is the sort of thing we’d probably talk about in a more sensitive manner in mixed company.
What’s upsetting is when dick size is talked about, in public forums such as pop songs, as if it were something a guy is responsible for. I mean, yes, with PE, we can change our penis size to a modest degree, but for the most part, it’s just something that people are stuck with, much more so than, say, our body weights (and yet people are often sensitive to the fact that it wouldn’t be cool to write a whole song about how fat people suck!).
I realize that when a small-dick diatribe is coming from women, it’s probably sometimes a reaction against the constant societal judgment they feel about their bodies. (Of course, “putting men in their place” with dick-size insults in response isn’t going to help, and can even lead to pretty bad misogyny, judging by some threads on this forum.) In the cases when the dick-size innuendos come from men, as in many of the TV shows and advertisements and movies cited in this thread that were written by men, it’s probably about grabbing people’s attention by preying on insecurities, or maybe some people really just aren’t sensitive to the issue — to the fact that many guys have a penis self-perception problem that can be as emotionally crippling as women’s issues with fat.
In any case, yes, I think that our culture could be headed toward an epidemic of penis-size psychological problems among young men. The biggest contributor by far, I think, would be the epic exposure to pornography from an early age via the Internet; there must be innumerable 12-year-olds out there who think that their penis should grow to be as big as Mandingo’s (or at least the “average” porn star’s), or else something is wrong with them. The vast majority of them will be disappointed by what puberty brings them. Beyond Internet porn — and the enormous influx of penis-oriented spam emails trying to make men feel bad about their cocks — I think that the cultural crap documented in this thread is another potential contributor to widespread penis issues. I’m sure that men have had concerns about “measuring up” since time immemorial, but I think that their fears are going to become much harder to allay, the more this “size matters” cultural meme carries on.
8-Ball, I applaud you for trying to bring attention to this potential problem in our society. There may already be an epidemic of penis-size psychological issues, but it’s hard to know because it’s the sort of thing that people will stay especially silent about — who wants to admit to even a confidential source such as a therapist that he is obsessed with the size of his wiener? Who wants to be the one to express offense about some dumb joke or gag about small penises — with all this might imply about the person’s own equipment?
