Deflated Glans and Firm Flaccid: Pelvic Floor Dysfunction

See your urologist. You are too young to be on this site. You should not be doing PE if you are worried that you have erection difficulties at 16 years of age. Many erection difficulties in young guys are due to watching too much porn and becoming de-sensitized.

You are all tense. whatever the reason let it go and relax. read up on reverse kegels and pelvic floor relaxation.
Unhealthy masturbation practices or even injury will aggregate it. (too hard stroking while watching porn for example lol )
Best way to use a dick is putting it in a nice warm wet canal like a pussy or wherever you like to put it lol

Or a fleshlight whic hwe have a thread about but dont let your mom catch you with it lol. If she does you can give her my mail I will explain lol

I would like to contribute with a little note to this thread.

I have always had a deflated glans, even during hard erection. At some times during sex i would hurt alot and it would be my breve “string” that was to short that caused the problem. After doing some thinking, and experimenting i concluded one thing:

When i jerk of (slowly) so that the foreskin is fully/max retracted while also kegeling hard to get alot of blood into my glans i noticed the string pulling hard on my whole glans, and therefore decreasing its size (pushing blood out of it). I’ve also had some problems before during sex when the string has almost snapped, so i went to a doctor. I had a frenulum plasticity and im now in my third healing week, almost fully healed. I’ve actually noticed a better EQ in my glans during my regular jerk-offs :) It’s a bit bigger and fuller.

/Gothfinger

Keep us informed of progress Gothfinger! Thanks for your input.

Guys I’ve been researching this and I just have some questions about hard flaccid. So when I am cold, or not 100 percent warm or “calmed down” my penis feel hard in the middle, and somewhat around the whole thing. I also at times notice this in general, but usually when I am moving around a lot or not totally relaxed. I have been taking a break from PE except kegels and reverse kegels every know and again. Going to work on pelvic stretches and yoga for some times. I also had a incident before sex a few weeks ago where I was versions and my penis got like flaccid, but hard. Am I just imagining I have an issue? Or do I? If someone could talk with me on this one let me know

1234qw25 if it’s not a constant problem and only happens when you are a bit anxious, cold etc., then it’s not really a problem. Most guys, me included, will get times when that happens. It’s a bit like when a scary part of a horror film is coming up and you find you are involuntarily holding your breath; it’s just a temporary reaction of the nervous system. Until guys heard of ‘hard flaccid’ they would not have considered there was anything ‘wrong’ when these temporary events occurred.

Thanks a lot firegoat. It’s an issue it seems I think a lot about, and when I think about it my unit kinda acts that way. I have a few questions that I believe you could answer if you could message me it would be sweet.

The idea of a forum is to share info, but if you want to ask me something privately, just click the Private Message box in my posts and I’ll see what I can do to help.

I’m a male, 28 years old. Whenever I try to do kegels, I can only tighten my BC muscle for less than one second before it ripples/shakes, as if it’s exhausted.
I have used a biofeedback device and the results indicate that my BC muscle is ‘very weak.’
No matter how much I try to kegel, I can’t seem to strengthen the muscle.
When I ejaculate, semen slowly oozes out. I can’t project it, not even an inch.

I never get spontaneous erections, *ever (including while I’m asleep). My corpus spongiosum and glans will not hold (blood) pressure. They go soft while I’m masturbating.
My ex-girlfriend once commented, “Why don’t you get hard all the way?” She noticed that only a portion of my penis (the corpus cavernosum) gets erect.

I’ve been masturbating daily for 13+ years. Sometimes as much as 3x per day, but usually just once. I typically spend at least 30-60 minutes per session while browsing pornography.
I got into a (bad?) habit over the years of tightening my BC muscle extensively while masturbating, even while ejaculating.
I tried quitting for a month and leaving everything alone, but things seemed worse. I saw no improvement in spontaneous erections. When I finally went to masturbate again, I ejaculated without ever getting erect (while flaccid).

A few years back a urologist found a varicocele at the base of my penis on the left side, and a hydrocele. The doctor didn’t recommend treatment for either.

What’s wrong with my penis? What can I do to remedy this? Any information is appreciated.

Thank you

I used to have this problem and still do from time to time. There are a lot of factors in a person’s life that can effect erections. In your case, I would say that the problem is 70% mental, 20% habits and 10% physical.

Lets tackle the 10% physical first. You are 28 years old and your body is starting to feel the effects of aging. You should adopt a regimented physical training program which includes cardiovascular fitness, weight training and a PE routine called the Newbie Routine. This will help you strengthen your muscles, increase your blood flow and make you feel better about yourself.

20% habits: The number one issue with this is porn. Pornography overstimulates you using perfect actors/actresses engaged in fake sex in unrealistic situations. Your mind was never designed to be overloaded with this kind of sexual input. Where just the sight of a woman’s breast would give you an erection, now you need (insert your preferred sexual stimulant here) to maintain the same amount of sexual satisfaction. No real woman can offer you what porn can which sets you up for failure. Ejaculation while your penis is flaccid is also problematic. It creates in your mind the perception that you don’t have to get hard for intercourse. Teach yourself to ejaculate only when you are hard and later on command by learning how to edge.

70% Mental: This is the easiest to understand but the most difficult to control. The loss of an erection sets your mind into motion that there is a problem. That concern turns into anxiety which causes the loss of erection which causes more anxiety. This is a vicious cycle that is almost impossible to break. Doing so requires you to learn not to care if your penis gets hard or stays hard. Learning to love yourself and your body and enjoy life will go a long way to help you recover from this.

Hello dear members,

First of all I would like to apologies in advance for my English because this is not my mother tongue.

I swore to myself that I would share my experience with you guys if I improved my soft glans issue. I know how hard it can be psychologically so I want to help as much as I can. So here we are, I don’t have any magic trick, just a few things I have learned from my experience and that have made things much better.

I don’t have any significant track record in PE, because I have always had some bad signals (like soft glans worse than ever and ultra sensitive ejaculation) even if I tried it very very carefully. I guess this is probably due to my dorsal vein which seems to be one of the reason of my soft glans issue.

So back to the main topic. My soft glans issue was not always very pronounced. It got awful two years ago for one year and I don’t have any real explanation. I could not have any intercourse because it made penetration strictly impossible. The glans was soft while the rest of the cock was hard, sometimes rock hard. It was so bad that the erection I got while sleeping woke me up: the shaft was so freaking hard that it was painful. Even when I was flaccid I noticed the glans was more White and very sensitive (as if it was not irrigated correctly). Sometimes the skin was leaving. In the same time my sex drive went to zero. I felt so upset that I got sick and lost my self confidence.

Where I am now: I have not totally fixed the situation but I can have some very pleasurable intercourse and give a lot of pleasure to my partner.

To me, the most important thing is to lubricate the penis and the vagina as much as possible. Sometimes my soft glans comes back and lubrication saves me.

Then, you got to be horny. Hell yeah, sex drive is very important in my opinion. Even when my soft glans issue was very strong I noticed that my glans became much harder and red (irrigated) when I was about to come, in other words when I was very excited. I know this can be very hard to get your sexual drive back but that is another topic.

What I did is I stopped masturbating as I did for several years because I’m pretty sure I applied to much pressure. My dorsal vein is very visible and the trouble comes back more significantly when I have been masturbated or sucked quite strongly by a partner. I also noticed that my pelvic muscle could help me to maintain the blood (kegel and reverse kegel). Indeed I also feel that my pelvic floor is quite weak. At this stage I am not able to say if my problem comes from the vein or the pelvic floor but I’m pretty sure it comes from one of the two issues if not from both of them.

Anyway I’ll know try to be synthetic, situation is very good but not perfect, here are my advises:
- Lubricate your penis and the vagina a lot
- Try to have a strong sex drive
- Stop masturbating or do it very softly
- Kegel and reverse kegel
- Be ready to fail even if it can be very embarrassing in front of a girl. If it is too hard for you, pick up a girl who will disappear from your life the day after. It won’t hurt your reputation. Some girls might even be very cool with it and help you get rid of it. Failure is part of the recovery process. Buy a fake vagina to train yourself if need be because you can’t let this issue destroy your life without trying anything.

Hope this will help some of you guys. If I make some more progress and find some other explanations I will let you know.

Thank you.

I have been experimenting with my ADD medication (concerta) after I suddenly realized my hard flaccid days were always days I had taken my meds.

Seems metamphetamines can give fake (or real) hard flaccid symptoms. This might be interesting cause metamphetamines are also vasoconstrictors. Or it might not be interesting at all.

Figured I should make a post.

This is just to start collection,
perhaps add to this with your knowledge and tell what’s wrong, perhaps we can come to a little summary of stuff that could help?

Signs of chronic pelvic tension:
- reverse kegel makes glans bigger with blood
- kegels and reverse kegels are not resulting in much ‘movement’ in your ass (compared to female pornstars?)
- you are not able to hold a very long kegel (how long? 5 minutes?)
- bad posture
- it’s something like the male equivalent of vaginism (wrongfully tight vagina with chronic tension)

What to do with chronic pelvic tension:
- basically you have to learn to completely relax your pelvis muscles
- do dmso + iodine like in this thread here
- don’t sit on chair, sit on a ball (or on floor)
- do hot bikram yoga
- find good chiropractition and fix everything he finds
(would alexander method or Feldenkrais also help?)
- if the problem is tension, would a muscle-relaxer help? (Have you tried Flomax?)
- get a TENS Machine and put one part in your anus ? – I heard this is for pc muscle training, but also helpful here?
- pelvicpainhelp.com Wise-Anderson protocol which has been designed to teach patients how to treat their own pelvic floor dysfunctions, via trigger point therapy, stretching and specialized relaxation techniques.
- do this, the result of the hardflaccid.org forum that was closed after they found the solution:
http://forum.ha rdflaccid.org/d … d-flaccid-v.1.0
-> it’s not there anymore
What was the solution ?:)
Meditating and less stress?
Trigger points (what is this?)

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Signs of venous leak:
- losing an erection in seconds, very fast
- when Viagra is not working?
- one could test at the doctor with ‘doppler test’
- perhaps the Taiwanese doctor with the new procedure

What to do with venous leak:
- do dmso + iodine like in this thread here
AntiMike - DMSO + Iodine Experimental Treatment for Deflated Glans and Firm Flaccid
- taiwanese doctor operation?

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Signs of scar tissue in the penis:
- when it feels hard?
- when penis now more points to one side ?
- let urologist make ultrasound of penis

What to do when having scar tissue in the penis:
- do dmso + iodine like in this thread here
AntiMike - DMSO + Iodine Experimental Treatment for Deflated Glans and Firm Flaccid

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Further stuff to try:
- nofap no porn no masturbation to increase hornyness

In my opinion. Soft glans can be a result of several possible conditions.

For some people it is due to slowly developed problems, pelvic floor muscle imbalances, weakened blood flow, Peyronie disease, etc.

For other people it is an injury that for some reason hasn’t healed properly.

I have suffered from soft glans for 4 years now.
I injured my penis being drunk with a stupid stretching device that I fell asleep with. (Stretching my glans with too much pressure and force)

I didn’t feel my glans next morning and when I checked if my penis still worked I couldn’t get my glans to hold blood anymore even when the shaft was fully erected.

At first I couldn’t believe it and kept trying to get it to work even by forcing pressure there (probably a bad idea causing even more damage)

I waited a month or so hoping it would heal but when no visible healing happened in that time, I went to an urologist and they did a Doppler ultrasound for it.

That ultrasound was kind of useless since my penis went hard in the shaft just fine and that’s all they inspected.

I was told that there is nothing they could do and they said it should heal itself.

Since then it has been slow process of gradual healing (4 years) It has still not fully healed. Even though I now have better sensitivity and my glans fills with some blood. The blood leaves my glans very easily when any pressure is applied.

I have been wondering all the time what could be the reason for this dysfunction and can it be fixed by any means.

At first I thought that it was some kind of venous leakage. Then I wondered if it was actually due to nerve damage to the sensory nerves of the glans. Now I have concluded that since penis veins are blocked by inner pressure, maybe there is some structural trauma that doesn’t allow all necessary veins to be blocked.

I studied some penis anatomy and found out that researchers have found a ligament called corpo-glans ligament that has a function to support glans erection.

Now I wonder if I actually have a busted ligament causing all the trouble.

I still can have sexual intercourse pleasurable to my girlfriend (we met 9 months ago) but blood leaving my glans is basically a mechanically induced turn-off for my orgasm and makes everything just so much more difficult.

At least I have some hope in upcoming surgeries since seems like there is no serious permanent nerve damage after all.

I wish all the best for you guys. I experienced healing over long period of time, don’t lose your hope. :)

All you guys should keep in mind that there may also be a varicose/varicocele that is causing the damage.
My theory is that blood can’t get out of the penis because the pressure in the veins isn’t strong enough, so blood gets stuck in the penis, the body is left without blood.
Thus, next time you have an erection the arteries will tighten, the veins will get even less pressure and the whole process will repeat itself.
Varicoceles are common in 20% of males, although they don’t get severe until a major trauma happens.
Keep in mind that the penis can have varicose veins too.

For the bottom line, I would say that in most cases it is the varicocele and some sort of trauma which are causing the problem.
(By the way, I do have a varicocele, but, as I said the varicocele may not be the main/only issue for me, yet my penis has also shrunk by 0.5 in length and 0.5 in girth in the last two months and I prob will get it embolized).