Need some advice from all you long lasters.

Hello everyone!

I have always had a bit of a premature ejaculation problem. By discipline and exercise I have managed to make my situation better, but still one thing I cannot change.
When I fuck a girl at a normal pace, I can use breathing and motion to control my level of arousal. When going faster, if I feel I am near the point of no return, I can slow down and calm down.
But…when I go really wild, you know the bang her shit out style…I can’t control it. Every single time when I start banging like crazy and hear my girl start to yell, it just throws me over the edge. I think it’s more the mental thing, seeing and hearing her enjoy that brings me over the edge.
Exceptions to this are when I am drunk or not fully hard.

So my question to you - is it like this for all of you? If not, how do you manage to fuck like crazy for more than a minute?

Its the exact same for me and I hate it. It makes me angry even to write about it. I have no idea why it happens, it just does. I read countless threads, including the famous “Dick Primer”, I tried kegels, reverse kegels, edging, controlled breathing, nothing helps. If I lie on my back and relax while she does the work it’s no problem, but sometimes she really wants to get fucked and I can’t give it to her. Makes me go crazy!

It’s all a mental thing, believe me, I have no feeling in my penis and I can ejaculate easily. I can ejaculate just from thinking. You need to read the threads that deal with this mental issue

Any threads you know of maybe springer? I tried the search but it’s just to many threads, I’m not sure what the search term should be.

I even tried thinking about other stuff but it’s almost impossible to switch out when she starts to scream from pleasure.

If you learn to work with ejaculation and don’t just feel it, blow it, forget it, then you learn how to deal with these things. 2 years ago I came quickly and it was short lived, and not very full, however after a long process of learning, and teaching myself to understand ejac, I have been able to teach myself to reach peak, float it for a good 5-10 seconds, and then release a monstrous load with almost 20 seconds worth of convulses, and it is quite possibly one of the best feelings you can achieve. I won’t tell you how I did it, it is a very long story, and everyone is different, just remember not to take your orgasm for granted, because the mind is a powerful thing.

When I’m going hard and fast, shorty’s moan does stimulate me mentally and it is hard to refrain from cumming. What works somewhat for me: reverse kegels, breathing, relaxing and not getting too involved/think of something else.

So then when going crazy, wild and banging hard go for the roof of the vagina. This accents the less sensitive part of your penis. Take your focus off the sensitive portions of your cock. Like ballooning only in a vagina. Disclaimer I have yet to try it though. So perhaps one of you guys can try it see if this gives you more bang for your buck. After all it is your glans that hit the “G” spot anyway.

Thanks for the replies guys, I really appreciate it.
Cajual, I would be much obliged if you took the will and time to tell me how you did it, if not here then in a PM.

Reverse kegels have an effect when I go at a slower or normal pace, but when banging hard it’s almost impossible for me to focus.

Chicken, one of the tricks I have discovered, but I have not got to the bottom of how it works, is that the first few minutes of thrusting are crucial. If you set them up right, everything else will follow. What you should try is going slow to start with, resist the temptation to go fast. But what you MUST do, is to thrust all the way to the hilt, and grind your pubic bone into hers. (If you are too long, this is going to be a problem, which is why I am adding length very slowly). Once you get used to this, and feel you could keep that pace up for ever without cumming, then you can bang her faster.

Something happens when the cock is all the way in which seems to produce mild numbness. This numbness allows you to fuck like a pro. When I feel myself getting near, I know I have two choices: Either pull out partially or fully, or go right in and press. Obviously if you are really close, you can’t take the risk of going deeper. But the other part of ejaculation control is to monitor your arousal level so closely, that you know where you’re going BEFORE you get there.

When I press in deep, I sometimes do a few shallow thrusts with my cock in so deep, that all that is happening is that the pubic fat pad compression is simply varying a bit. I do not pull out enough to “disengage”.

Quite often doing this once is enough to set me up for the whole fuck, other times, I have to re-visit it, to re-gain control. Part and parcel of this is that, if you can calm down and not cum in the first 10 minutes, you will probably not cum in the second 10 minutes. Once I have done this I can go really fast. But not for ever, eventually I have to slow down, or do the deep thing, before being able to go fast again. But that makes for a better fuck. You and your woman will be bruised if you go for an hour like a jack-hammer. I like to wait until she is on an upward wave of arousal, and up the tempo. But it’s all like the sea, just as the tide comes in and out, so our speed goes up and down.

The mind is the main culprit in pe, but this technique works in a purely physical way, which makes a change!

Thanks marky777 I will try your technique out.

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Relaxing and not getting too involved/think of something else, I tend to bang keeping the thought in mind that i’m exercising and not having sex, viagra and masturbation before sex too. All this combined works great for me.

Edging - enhance your orgasm

Once you can go 30 minutes by yourself you can go pretty much as long as you want with a partner.

Really? Without any manual stimulation at all? How is that possible? I’m of the mind that once you start to premature ejaculate, that’s the way it’s always going to be and there’s nothing that you can do about. All this about getting your mind on something else just doesn’t work. It’s a sensation problem and once you cross that threshold, there’s no turning back. Now that’s just my take on it.

Wow, thank you for all your efforts guys!